Thanks to all of the great info here on TER I've been at the hobby for a few years, so I'm not really a newbie.  But since I'm kind of a once every few months type of guy I've always kept to a simple formula:  lots of reviews here on TER and a clear listing of rates in a website.  

I've seen a lot of comments about never discussions the rate and I've stuck with that. There has not been even one time that I've talked, emailed or texted to a provider about it. Just dropped the envelope.  

So three questions:

1) just made an appt with a provider who advertised early booking rates here in TER that are less than on her website. Do I confirm I'm at the lower rate or just drop the envelope at the lower rate?

2) I've seen providers without clear info about their rates on their website. So far I just avoid them but some are interesting to me. So how should I approach that?

3) I've seen providers who grandfather old rates. My ATF I saw only once about 18 months at a much lowert than her current rate. Is it appropriate to ask about a reduced rate as a previous client?  (I would never ask as a new client, the rate is the rate. But probably can't afford her now so was curious.)

For me, lack of budget is the main reason I only indulge in this hobby occasionally. So while I don't want to be a cheap person I have to be careful about the total funds I spend

Thanks for any thoughts.

1.  You should tell her that you saw rates on TER and assume those are correct.

2. Does she have a TER profile?  If so, there should be rates there.  Just mention to her that you are going by the rates you saw on her profile.  If she has no profile, then you are in uncharted waters.  If you absolutely must see her, bring what you think is a fair donation and hope for the best.  I wouldn't do it, however.

3. 18 months strikes me as way too long a time to go back for a grandfathered rate.  There's a good chance she won't even remember you.  6 months would seem to me to be the longest, and then only if I've seen the gal a few times.  Even asking for grandfathering is a bit too forward.  Mostly I wait for a gal to bring up the subject if she is a regular (Every few months, or so.)

I hope this helps.

Hobbying should be fun and stress free. You shouldn't go into a session worried about ANYTHING other than having a great time. To that end, one of the things that should be clear when you walk in is the donation. It shouldn't be a guessing game.  

Yes, while hobbyists will tell you that you should "never discuss money", while on it's face it is sound advice, it just doesn't apply all the time. You can talk about money; just talk about it a non-sexual manner. If you don't know what the ladies rate is (i.e. its not on her website or current ad), THEN ASK. If you say: "I didn't see your current donation listed on your website or current ad; how much is an hour of your time?", you will not run into any issues.  

If you see a provider who offers an early booking special rate that is different than her website rate, and you are unsure if this applies to you,  THEN ASK: " I noticed that you had different amounts listed for your time. As I am booking this appointment early, would I be entitled to the early booking special listed in your ad?" Again, you are not doing anything inappropriately.  

If you think you are entitled to being "grandfathered in" to a previous lower donation, THEN ASK: "I saw you on X Date. Would I be entitled to be grandfathered in to your previous donation which was X dollars for an hour of your time? " Again, you need to know what is correct.  

You should NEVER go into a session with what YOU think is the correct donation level. If your wrong; it could cause you problems down the road. Fairly or unfairly, you will have a provider who thinks you cheated her. There is no reason for you not to know what the donation is. Don't try and be a mind reader. Just ask in an appropriate manner and you will be fine. There is absolutely no reason for you to pass over ladies you want to see simply because you are unsure what their current donation is. That's silly. Really, it's okay to ask.  

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...and a gentleman reserved time with me based on my post, he would receive the lower gift.  Did the lady specify when to book by to receive the special?

  Yes, you can find out a ladies gift by reading her profile, but many ladies forget to update their profile when the change their gift.

   Grandfathering.  If the gentleman friend is someone I visit with often I will grandfather him in up to one year.  If not; six months.  If and when a gentleman contacts me after I have increased my gift, I either tell him that he will gift me the same, or let him know of the gift change.  He does not have to ask.  

   If a gentleman I have visited with before, is a bit confused, I do not have an issue with discussing numbers.  I simply tell him that your raffle number is (fill in the blank).  

   Bottom line is to tread carefully, so that the lady does not feel that you are haggling.

Hugs and Kisses,
Kelly

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1)  Saw your early booking rate ad on TER.  Can I see you on x-day at 1 pm?  

2)  Your website does not list rates but your TER profile says 3 benjamins per hour.  Is this correct?

3)  Regarding grandfathering, all you have to do is ask.  Hi Babe, I saw you several months ago in x city, can I use the same rate as then?

asked about my rate, and she told me I was good to go with what I had paid her in the past, which was significantly less then her going rate.  I thought that was very generous on her part.  I try to see her whenever she is touring in my hometown, doesn't always work out, but we keep in touch.

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would assume she is open to discussing them.  
I personally don't like to discus my rates at all, the few times I have, right after they had to clarify (usualy via text) exactly what service they wanted, even if I've seen them before- I cancel, because my rates have always been clear in my ads so when they start textin out of the blue askin the rates & services, it makes me feel like something is up (possibly their so or kid got their phone or who knows whats going on)
Guys seem to think texting do you do greek, isn't implying that they are asking if I do anal sex with clients for money.
If she is offering a special, you can very simply just ask if you are entitled to the special, or 'is the special still availible'. Not being clear in their ad is opening up the conversation for a rate discussion.
Old clients would just depend on the girl. Many of the guys who saw me when I 1st started out are always welcome to come see me under their old rate, (altho they might want to ask, since many of them got a body rub in the past). They can easily jus ask- is the old rate still availible?
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I had an odd thing happen the other day..... A guy scheduled, I started the screening process, we kept emailing back & forth, I felt I should ask if he knew my rate. He quoted yes & a rate & service that he found in an ad offered in a different city 2yrs ago.......He seemed to not understand why this would upset me. My current ads for here where he is & planned to see me have all been the same for 2yrs, they are posted clearly, but he found an old ad in a different city I had visited, which accepted newbies for a body rub & expected me to give him that special...........& dude was mad that I had no clue that was the session he was scheduling with me....
Scheduling can be so easy, discussions can be so easy, girls alot of times write things in their ads because it became a problem on several occassions, but we are willing to communicate with a new person if ya just think about what you are saying to us & how it sounds before ya say it....

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