I'm not the most attractive, and also not the most "gifted", will most providers turn you down based on that? Like most women.

If you're talking sexual prowess; it has little to do in winning their favor.

If you're talking financial prowess; the meeting of their minimum donation will assuredly win their favor, and just as with civvies any extra prowess here will only magnify their admiration of you

Follow these simple tips, and I assure you any provider will be delighted to share your company, and delighted to have you come back again....

1. Hygiene. Be freshly showered, teeth brushed when you meet her. You'd be surprised how many don't think about this.

2. Treat her like a lady, compliment her hair, her eyes.

3. Don't be afraid to ask her what she likes, and be attentive to her body signals. Take time to see to her pleasure.

4. Don't let insecurity stand in your way. Most women (providers and civvies) will you that looks are important, but they are far from the most important. Confidence is a powerful aphrodisiac. Unfortunately, contrary to what many think, it is NOT the reflection you see in the mirror that gives you confidence.

5. Just be yourself. Be relaxed. Be witty and charming. I know that sounds like a tall order, but really its not. You just need confidence. Stop worrying about whether you are attractive or not, and focus on being interesting and fun intstead. Honestly, I don't care how good looking a man is, if he's a bore or a jerk, our interaction can be measured in nanoseconds.

I could write a lot more on this topic, but honestly hon, it comes down to confidence in yourself. Stop worrying about a mirror, and play to your strengths. Your personality is what will attract a woman more than anything. This goes for providers AND civvies. I really hope this helps

your money.. you can look like the elephant man.. as long as you have the cash you'll look like Brad Pitt for that hour LOL

Providers don't choose their clients because they are "God's gift to women!!!"

Last year I went to a provider / client social event in Phoenix.  There were at least 30 lovely providers there, and at least 60 hobbyists.  I wasn't the oldest, the ugliest, or the fattest, or the least gifted!!!  They were mostly, very normal guys!!!

You would have to look worse than Quasi Moto, and have a quarter-inch cock, fully erect, to be the worst client a quality / experienced lady has seen!!!

That said, last week I had my first not-so-successful experience in England, since my move here last August.  I posted a warning on a local board, not TER, and received a most insulting reply, based on what she told a "friend".  This was my first and only, negative reponse to my appearance, and size in my 18 years in the hobby.

Have the money she states, and you will have a great time, at least 99% of the tine.

Providers are not here to enjoy a wonderful experience, they are here to provide one. That is why they post pics. and you do not. When you set up an appt. with a provider, questions about how attractive or "gifted" you are will never be brought up, she will have other concerns on her mind.

It's all about the green; assuming your are a gentleman with good hygiene.

Well, the first thing, and I can only speak for myself, who has been a provider 5 years, is basic politness and manners.  Size and talent? Are you serious? Im assuming yes, but my friend, providers are not in thebusiness to find a mate nor do we expect to have a knee trembling experience every time. (even though you may THINK so).  Do not go to your encounter under the influence of alcohol or drugs, be neat and clean, if you prefer one profilatic over another, bring several and leave them there, ask her if she has any non-negotiable items that need to be adderssed prior and lastly, well I was told once, "treat a lady like a ho and a ho like a lady".
Well put. Remember as well, what one woman raves as 'gifted' or skilled, the next may have a complete reverse opinion of your preformence. Diffrent strokes for diffrent folks. Literally!

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As previously stated hygiene and treating her reasonably are important.  Being in decent shape doesn't hurt either.  I was recently with a provider who asked my race (white) and age(50) before our meeting.  This was a first for me, but I didn't worry about it and enjoyed our time together.  At the end of our session she said she'd been talking with a girlfriend prior to our meeting and the girlfriend was teasing her that I'd be fat and hairy.  She complimented me on being in shape (good salesmanship) and said I must have been quite good looking "back in the day" (hmmm).  My point is, I wouldn't see a provider who was fat and unattractive.  Providers probably have to be less choosey, particularly in the initial meeting, but it never hurts to try and take care of how you look.

Great response, I like that. Do you ever tour the MD/DC area?

No, they shouldn't. All long as you have $$ then you are fine!

some great feedback here......



I'm a newbie myself, but I think I can answer this one or at least throw in my .02 -

They are getting paid and you are paying.