Hi all. I have a question which I think is kinda weird.  I have contacted a few providers to try and set up some dates with them.  I browsed and searched for reviews here on TER.  Most of the women that I find that fit what I'm looking for are a little older than me (31-35 range while I am 26).  A few of them asked how old I was and 3 so far have said that I was too young... 1 even kinda laughed.  

Questions:
I was wondering if this is a general provider preference to not see younger hobbyists or did I just find the only ones that care?
Why would a provider not want to see a younger hobbyist?

I'm sure there are well reviewed providers who will be okay with a 20something hobbyist.  But it's not unusual for providers to shy away from someone your age.  If you read the provider's website you should have an idea if age is an issue.  If she uses verbage like "I prefer mature gentlemen" that's a sign for you to find someone else.

You also might want to try addressing the issue when you contact the provider.  Say that you are 26, but assure them you are sincere in having a good experience, and following their instructions about etiquette/screening.

cuz young guys CAN have a different attitude in approching this hobby that's lets say less then respectful...

however not all younger guys are like that so keep looking many of us (like me) do see younger guys. oh your handle is probably not helping with the maturity issue

I'm your age. I got into the hobby several months ago and I've met with 9 ladies. And have spoken to several others who are willing to meet, but our schedules haven't meshed well.

There are a few girls I would like to see, but their websites clearly state that they only see guys 30+ or 35+, etc. So, I haven't bothered contacting them. I wouldn't contact someone who states that they prefer men over your age. When I see "prefer" I don't look at it as a preference, but more as the way it is. I prefer men over 30 = I only see guys over 30. I prefer to not see African American men = I do not see African American men. In my experience (albeit limited), girls who have these restrictions list them with the rest of their info. If you don't meet the criteria, move on.

But I've had no problems with the ladies I've actually contacted. A few have commented on my age once they met me, but not in a negative way or anything. When it has come up, it's typically made for a few minutes of easy/good conversation.

Definitely be respectful when you contact them, when you meet them, and if you review them. And ask them if they're willing to be a reference for you. A recent reference will probably help with any girl who is willing to meet you but a little hesitant to see you due to your age. One actually told me at the end of our meeting that she was initially was very hesitant but the phone call she had with my reference but her at ease, and that she was happy to have met me, and would gladly provide a reference.

And as someone pointed out, ilikeboobsex may not be helping. You may want to get a new username if you're pointing them here. Or if you contact them using an email address, make sure it's a little less sophomoric as well.

good luck

I can think of several good reasons for posting what he did under alias.

I used an alias because some time back I decided to use an alias for the boards at all times.

I've met ladies who have started conversations about posts on the boards. I'm not really interested in having what goes on here carry over into a session.

And it's not that anything bad has come up from it. Once, it actually segued into a pretty entertaining conversation. And it could be a good way to flirt a little. Although, that's certainly not a requirement for any of these ladies to meet you.

But knowing that it may come up, having read the boards for a while (seeing drama unfold), and exercising foresight, I've decided to use different screen names for posting and screening purposes. The last thing I want immediately before or after a session is to gossip about anything going on in the boards.

Plus, what if you have a disagreement with a lady on the boards, but want to meet her? That disagreement wouldn't bother me, but I can't guarantee that it won't bother her (even if it's just enough for her to subconsciously treat me just a little different). With an alias, that's not an issue.

Also, sometimes personalities are very different in person than how they comes across from posts. I don't want there to be pre-conceived notions of who I am. And what a lady has to say here, doesn't really do anything for me. I love to meet a girl and find out she's actually bright, witty, etc. But, that's not what I'm there for, it's just a bonus. I haven't had many discussions about Chomsky's work in linguistics during lazy doggie. Nor do I care to.

of using an alias is that you can not receive a PM message.

I can see there would be a difference in additude but for me, its more about the experience...or lack there of.

Now b4 you get all upset stop and think...with time experiences and yes practice in anything we do we get better, right! Sex, sensuality and Intimacy is absollutely no different where this is concerned.

Also a Gentleman in his 40s and 50s has had at least one long standing relationship with the same woman. There is much to be gained from this in every way as well as in the bedroom. They seem in my book to actually "get it"...
If you think that at 26yrs old you are fun in bed. pay attention to your partners cues and desires, and know what Intimacy is all about, Imagine yourself after another 20yrs or so of experiences. You know you are going to learn a few tricks along the way right...and absolutely you will improve and be a better Lover.

Well for me its not about the destination in the end but the journey it takes to get there and I have to say Only a man who has traveled that journey..oh or a woman as well...see the forest for the trees.
Older more experienced men are just better Lovers for certain!
Even if by chance you are a great piece of ass now, sensuality is like fine wine it gets much better with age.
Its not even totally the sex. Its the mind set. Its a mind fuck first! I personally pass on any Gentleman who is under 40. And prefer Gentlemen over 45yrs of age. Give me a sweet charming educated intellectual Gentleman in his 50s and I am so turned on before the fun even gets started.
Its the best...
Sorry kid I have kids older than you and I am more into your father. lol... But hey~thats just me.

happy hunting though

Nicole

I have no problem seeing younger guys as long as they follow the screening rules on my site and are as polite and respectful to me as I am to them.

I've found, however, that my opinion isn't the norm, so you may have a bit of an uphill battle to find ladies to see you.  Good luck!!

Well said.

For some women it would be like having a date with their son or his friends. Doesn't work great for libido. To each his own...

Happy hunting!

xo