and the checks, with regard to employment anyways, just involve calling your work place and confirming that you do work there.

If asked, they just say that they are verifying information on an application or some innocuous excuse.

Most providers are very discreet. Just inform the provider the best way to contact you, (email, cell phone..etc) That way she doesn't contact you at an inappropriate time. Make sure you see well-reviewed providers. Also the checks are not that in-depth.

I, for one, have never heard of conjoined twins providing.

Sorry, a little (very little) grammatically inspired humor.

The more established ladies are very discrete.  A newer lady might not be as careful (no offense intended).

very discrete, they have to be to survive as a provider.  If they call your workplace, it is just to verify that you really do work there.  Often they will ask for you, and while their call is being redirected to you, they just hang up since they now know you are really employed there which was their goal to find out.

Swim