I am a newbie to the hobby and after some research selected several interesting ads. Got email from one who encouraged more contact. I then sent a response with some personal information such as where I was going to be etc.. No reply even to follow up. Do I assume this is not going to work or should I place a phone call? looking forward to  trip.

If she responded positively on your first e-mail, I would wait a week and them send a follow-up. If she doesn't answer the follow up, I'd let it go.

Sometimes e-mail get accidentally deleted or don't arrive. A follow-up should not be considered rude if done politely.

Remember you are entering into a business relationship where discretion and security are important aspects so if she seems unprofessional or even a bit of a ditz, you may want to reconsider whether you want to spend all the time and money it takes to see her.

Poor response time and inadequate confidence in her punctuality could be a clue that this might not be the situation you want to expose your family, job and lifestyle to.

Just keep in mind however that when communicating with a provider for the first time, she could be ‘otherwise occupied’ …. Once you have established contact however, a lack of response is not a good sign.

Happy hobbying, use the tools available and
Know your provider (*and her repuatation*)  kisses ~T

Most of the time I wait a few days before I follow-up.  Remember, always treat the lady with the utmost respect; you don't want to set any alarms off.  

When going to a new city, I usually put out multiple feelers and then wait to see who responds.  Some ladies are better with the business side of things than others.

Thanks for all the advise. I will wait a bit more. From the reviews I consider this person to be quite skilled in her job. She must have her reasons. Or is really busy. I also know she reads the board. If I have not heard from her when I get in town I will maybe try a phone call. I have multiple rods in the water.

As I have heard it, that is the best way to get to have success. (*After all, getting your rod wet was the whole idea anyway right   *LOL*)

Just a note on those multiple poles: If you didn’t send them individually… meaning you sent out a “form” type letter and  (*Even worse*) ….. just sent the email CC, then that could be the problem.

Some providers get a little sensitive about bulk letter sent to her (*such as myself*) it just seems like a guy who is sending out bulk letters isn’t that serious about seeing me, or he doesn’t care enough to spend the time to email just me. Many times I’ll just reply with a Thanks but no thanks…. Just on principle

Also if there are several emails on the CC line it could be delivered to Bulk, in that case a provider might not ever get it.

Please don’t misunderstand my thoughts, I’m not saying this is what you did, I am just suggesting “If” you did send out a form email with a few names CC, this could be one thought on the situation.

Best of luck in your “catch”       kisses ~T

is a fine way to hunt.  However courtesy is a two-way street.  When you eventually do agree upon a date with a provider, I would not advise double booking with another lady as a backup plan.  That will likely lead you to either cancelling with one at the last minute or worse not showing up at all.  

I won't be surprised if some fellow gents disagree with me on this point because some engage in this practice because they had been stood up in the past.  My opinion is that it is poor form.  If you do your research and choose a well reviewed lady then you can be assured that she will handle the arrangement in a business-like professional manner and as a result she can be relied upon.          

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But, double booking is a NO NO.  If the lady cancels or no-shows, then I "go fishin" another day.

Indeed double booking and last minute canceling of appointments is a great way to get black listed...… (*maybe new to the hobby need to know that Providers actually have a very intricate network in which we share information……including “no-shows” and guys who have a habit of booking and canceling*)

Most established providers use this network and have no problem taking suggestions and recommendations from other providers which might help avoid wasting time & effort…… so you post is very much on target.

Thank you again for your post and your thoughts ...… Kisses ~Tori

I’m not keeping score but I think that’s an even half dozen brownie points (*at this rate, I’ll end up contributing to you just to enjoy dinner in your presence*)  LOL  

Thank you for the consideration of a providers time and efforts in providing service and arranging her schedule around potential appointments. As it has already been stated, researching the provider you book with can give you a better understanding of what her reliability is and what you might be able to expect from her....… Or better put:
Know your provider (*and her reputation*)  kisses ~Tori

Very good points.
All I have done is tried to contact 3 different providers separately in a belive a very repectful manner. One has not returned my emails. The second responded positively the first message and said to contact her again. Nothing more from her. The 3rd is an agency who last I heard was validating me. I assume I will get a response soon. If I am going about this wrong I would really like someone to tell me. I am in business and would never double book etc as reputation is important. Any other suggestions?

Once established in this hobby, it is a good idea to have with you the phone numbers of a couple of ladies you have seen previously, just in case.  Absolutly NEVER double book - your integrity and the common courtesy for the lady demand that - don't for a second think that if you have a habit of double booking and cancellations at the last minute that your actions come unnoticed as it should be - the ladies boards and other sites provide a forum for report on you, just as TER provides a forum for the clients!
I have a couple of regulars I see once every one or two months, and count on them also for backup.
I have told them this upfront and being professionals they are fine with it - this is not like high school where little Suzie gets all jealous with you and tells you to piss off.

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Thank you for your kind words.  It is all about how you treat people in this world and this includes ladies in the business.

I've been a hobbyist for several years and maybe I've been fortunate, but I have NEVER made an appointment with a lady and not had her show up (or be at her incall location). As such, I have nerver faced the need to consider double booking appointments so I have a back-up. As Hey Now states, if you do research, read reviews and make intelligent choices, you wont have any problems.

How he faired *LOL*     Kisses ~Tori

I e-mail, I found out that it is easyer to just call. alot of women don't like to talk over the phone, like when i ask what kinda of service do you provide? they always say i don't talk about that on the phone. so i feel them out and see if they sound nice. and i always ask, is that you in the picture. I've been lucky so far, all the girls i've encounter with have been the picture.

I just returned from Jacksonville FL where I tried to find some companionship for an evening. I am a computer consultant that offices on my cel phone, I gave my business address but was rebuffed as unverifyable. I even offered a reference lady from my home town with a land line. What else could I have done that might have helped??