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Three weeks in and some questions and/or issues ...
steenaman 2702 reads
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Hopefully it is okay to ask multiple questions in one posting, if not, I won't do it again ... promise! I am a newbie, now three weeks old so hopefully that still constitutes a newbie. Here are some things that have come up after my short time in this hobby ...

1. How often is too often to see Providers? I've had six dates so I'm averaging two a week. I know I can;t keep up with this pace but ... how often do most Hobbyist see a Provider?
2. I read a ton of reviews and they all sound like they come right out of Penthouse Letters. I see the Provider and my session goes nothing like the one's I've read about ... what's up with that?
3. I have already posted multiple reviews and have asked for an "Okay" from each Provider, but gotten only one, yet three ladies I saw the first week. What's up with that?
4. Is it better to tell Providers what you want, or are interested in, in your Profile or wait until you get BCD?

Thanks to everyone in advance for your open and candid responses.

1.  There is no hard and fast rule.  It depends on your wallet, your time, your inclination and your physical stamina.  Some hobbyist hobby once or twice a year, others once or twice a week.  It's all up to you.

2.  Some writers are fairly creative.  If you are denied certain things consistantly that others got from their visits, you might want to consider certain things like your hygiene and/or behavior.

3.  This question is unclear.  You do not need an OK from a provider to post a review, and you certainly do not need (nor is it ethical, in fact) to run the review by the provider first.  Could you clarify what your question is, exactly?

4.  You must not discuss sexual acts with a provider until you are face to face with her and have left the donation.  Then, it is fine to ask.  Their profile should give some indication of what they are willing or not willing to do as further amplified by their reviews.

-- Modified on 9/7/2010 10:25:41 AM

Questions are GREAT, if you don't ask you don't know and neither do we right?
1. Whatever you want to do, as a provider I have people I see 4 or more times a week, others call when they're in town b/c it's a treat to be able to get together.  
2. My ONE review came from someone who desperately wanted to review me so I signed up and am giving more and more clients the info b/c I LIKE the reviews, it's important to all.  But I CAN tell you that his review of me is spot on, it's literally how it happened, I would have written the same thing. If you're not getting what you see in a review then that stinks for all of us!
3. We want/need to know what you're looking for so be open and honest, no worries about that. That's exactly why I'm on here, to help you guys out too.

1.  Schedule as often as you want.  It's up to you.

2.  Funny you mention that.  It's always interesting to read how a session was perceived.  And I think reviews get bounced back if they aren't graphic enough.  Seasoned reviewers know this and I think write to insure the review will be approved.

3.  If you're talking about a White listing....I only give those to clients I know well.  If it's just been one visit I wouldn't expect a provider to give you a whitelisting.

4.  Do NOT talk about sex when scheduling.  Wait until you've been screened, and never put anything in writing.

1. See providers as often as you want. Just don't break your bank doing so.
2. Hard to answer this one
3. You don't need to ask a provider permission to post a review.  If me and the provider click well after the review has been approved I might shoot them a text letting them my review for them has been posted.
4. Legit and smart providers won't talk about services until they meet you, perform an LE check, and and have the donation.

steenaman726 reads

#2 - I am, and maybe this is my downfall, a gentleman first and am trying to be respectful of the provider (not ensinuating other guys aren't polite and respectful) and maybe I should open up more when BCD ...  #3 deals with "okays" on P411 so that when you get an "okay" from a provider your status goes from Basic to Basic Plus 1 (okay), to BP 2 and so on ... meaning you have been verified by X# of providers. My issue is that we ask for them to give me an "okay" but they don't respond, and I dress nicely, am freshly showered and clean shaven, with fresh breath.

I appreciate the great words of wisdom ... I know this is probably a really bad idea but I sure wish there could be a Provider-Hobbyist Party (mixer as we called it in college).

There's even an entire board dedicated to M&G's.   Great idea....however, YMMV on these too. Some are great! Others less so. Still, a great way to expand your contacts.

1) Only you can answer this question.  Hobby as often as you like, so long as your finances can take it.  2) YMMV...your mileage my vary.  3) If you are asking for whitelistings, why not ask the ladies have seen?  4)  Don't say anything about your expectations or hopes until the session is underway.  Asking before meeting is a big no-no.  As a hobbyist, your reviews will indicate your interests, and if you feel the need, you can always reveal your handle so that she can check those out.  If she has VIP, she can use that as an additional screening tool, and maybe tailor the session to meet your preferences as best she can.

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