Hey, Don't worry. You are going to have Ups and downs in this business. Some gals are going to leave you totally floored and some will just have you wishing why did you ever book an appt with them. I guess thats what people mean by YMMV. Some providers whom I have seen with great reviews, were just ordinary for me and many others seemed like a true GFE( even with ok reviews). No matter how good or how bad( unless it was B and S or upsell) an experience, do not let it get it to you. Keep meeting different providers to find some whom you truly want to see again and again. Happy Hobbying.
Ok...I know it's a business. And I know providers see the envelope and not "the guy". But I can't get past the feeling that I'm not attractive enough to providers. I mean, I'm not gross butt ugly but I'm late middle aged and feeling self concious. I want to be one of those hobbyist that providers want to see again. I have the required skills. No problem there. But man I long for someone who is really into it. Am I asking for too much?
I saw a lady several weeks ago and thoroughly enjoyed myself but I got the impression that she was a little ho-hum about it. She was very nice and all but you can just tell. I would love to see her again but I won't because of that. If she just dropped me an email saying "Hey, it was great to meet you. Call me when soon." I'd be there tomorrow. It's like good marketing, ya know?
Still a newbie.
Remember this is P4P. Don't worry about being attractive enough. Be polite, respectful, on time, squeaky clean. How old and how handsome you are, does NOT matter. Trust me on this, go to a M&G and you'll what your fellow hobbyist look like. Your skills are not as important as you think. A good gfe provider will make you feel like your the best fuck in the world. Maybe the ladies you've seen are lacking in the gfe department. As far as the follow up email or text, I get them fairly often, I chalk it up to good customer service, nothing else.
Do you have VIP membership Are you reading the juicy details of the reviews. Do your homework and you should be able to find the gfe of your dreams.
I completely agree re VIP. If you go VIP and read lots of reviews (learning which reviewers are worth their salt), you'll find lots of providers who will give you what you're looking for. Don't give up and settle for joyless sex.
You are in the age bracket that many providers like so why settle like this? Don't hesitate to meet other ladies because at this point you don't have much to compare this experience. In hind sight you may think your meeting with her was great or just so so. An experience with an escort is a human one so it will vary from lady to lady just like I appreciate a client differently from my colleagues. Once you meet a few ladies you will know which one you prefer to see again. Some ladies will enjoy their time spent with you and won't see you as just a man bringing an envelop full of Benjamins.
Have fun!
The truth is that we guys are a fickle bunch. One guy wants over the top fake screaming orgasms (he wouldn't know a real orgasm if she squirted on him), and the next feels distracted by the noise and thinks it disingenuous (maybe even if it is real)...
Some providers are VERY good at what they do, and create an excellent illusion or they really enjoy your company. I always wonder, but in the end, if I can't tell, it doesn't matter all that much.
Shop around. Find a lady whose style matches what you're looking for. You do have to test drive a few lemons to find the true gems. I'd say that I think that easily half of the ladies I see do a better than average job of making me feel like she really wanted me there, and to really come back. Very few have done what I would consider a bad job of creating that fantasy...
I think it is also easier to suspend your own disbelief in what the providers tell you as you do this more. You get less self-conscious about the whole thing over time.
Hey, Don't worry. You are going to have Ups and downs in this business. Some gals are going to leave you totally floored and some will just have you wishing why did you ever book an appt with them. I guess thats what people mean by YMMV. Some providers whom I have seen with great reviews, were just ordinary for me and many others seemed like a true GFE( even with ok reviews). No matter how good or how bad( unless it was B and S or upsell) an experience, do not let it get it to you. Keep meeting different providers to find some whom you truly want to see again and again. Happy Hobbying.
You are not asking for too much to see a lady that is completely into the experience that you and her are sharing.No reason to be self conscious regarding looks a lot of providers enjoy the company of late middle age gentleman.I am speaking for myself as I cannot speak for others.I am more into how does the gentleman treat me?Is he polite,respectful,someone who is outgoing and not sitting there like a bump on a log.I could care less if he has GQ movie star looks because sometimes those looks do not equate to personality.There are some gentleman that feel they look so good the providers should be paying them.Every provider you see you will have a different experience a gentleman might think a certain provider is the best thing since sliced bread and another gentleman could be thinking Is he crazy?So,it all depends on the lady that you see.As far as thank you email do not expect every provider to do so I do it but that is just me everyone handles their business differently.
Thanks all for the feedback. Makes me feel a little more encouraged. I guess it'll ease off after more visits. Looking forward to a very long fulfilling rest of my life in this hobby. Wish I'd discovered it 20 years ago.
Merry Christmas to everyone.
ever heard that saying? Never is it more true then in this "hobby". I have seen gorgeous men who act like totally idiots and their shit dont stink..and I have seen average joe who I would see everyday if possible. Do you honestly think that you are THAT unattractive that NOONE would find you a sexy man? I doubt that. By your tone, you are probabply a very sexual being on the inside, and the bottom line in this hobby is that. Sexual being. Everyone has a sexual being in them, just takes the right woman to bring in out in you. I think a great personality makes someone sexier and better looking.
Remember to smile..nothing sexier on a man then a great smile and that twinkle in his eye..Im sure you are sexy in your own way. We all are..
It might be just a grey month for you where you are feeling unattractive. Everyone has those times..I dont care what they say..I have met some amazing sexy men through this "hobby", would I date them in civvie life..hell yeah..but I NEVER cross that line.It would never work..But they had that something special inside of them that turned me on and made me wet..
Smile..someone out there thinks you are sexy as hell...
Remember to smile..nothing sexier on a man then a great smile and that twinkle in his eye...
I agree with maturebridgette.
This is Very Important. Two of the ladies that I have seen had the impression that I didn't like them, because I was not smiling when I came in the door and first saw them. So...Smile.
From the hundreds of posts I've read and participated in here regarding proper interaction with a lady, one thing always rings clear. Be nice, be clean, be respectful and be on time and the rewards are plentiful!
I'm mid 40s and a regular looking guy... I feel the same as you do. I want to be attractive and sexy for the provider too. I think guys like us have the advantage, and this is why...
We make sure to be squeaky clean, complimentary and extra nice to do things the right way. We are old enough to understand exactly what P4P is all about, we appreciate the encounter, we show our appreciation and we provide a drama free experience for the provider.
I've been having a really good time with this; as time and fulfilling encounters pass, I'm growing more comfortable with the things you're concerned about.
Give yourself a break... and Happy Hobbying my friend!!!
What he said, beach! That's exactly my approach and I'm about to be 65! I'm sure you have advantages over me and lots of other guys on this site. Don't run yourself down. Go have fun. The more you do it, the more confident you'll get. Just remember us "little people" when you're crowned "Hobbyist of the Year."