Etiquette is a fundamental part of the interaction between a hobbyist and a provider- whether a one-time only visit or a more established professional relationship. Seems clear that it should start when the initial contact is made (e-mail or phone) and must continue thereafter (face to face and yes, even when there’s too much fun going on!!!). Here’s the deal…

After asking a lady if she would be willing to give a reference on my behalf for an upcoming meeting with another provider, she delightedly agreed. She took her time and effort to do so (she is a very busy lady), got in touch with the second provider at a lightning speed, and within a couple of hours, I got an appointment with a prospective provider. Needless to say, things went extremely well.

Weeks after, I met again with the first provider. She genuinely wanted to know if I had fun with the second provider and was very glad that she could help me out. She caught me off guard (I was in a different planet…LOL!!!) but it seemed like the right time to thank her face to face, which I did. Hours later- when our date was over, the adrenaline rush was stabilizing, and I was back in planet Earth….I realized I could’ve done better than that

Let’s focus on how you would or should you act with the first provider- the one who was sweet enough to advocate on my behalf. Would you have written a “thank you” e-mail within 24-48 hours after the session with the second provider was over? Would you have written a “thank you” card and hand it to her during a future meeting? Would you have done nothing about it? (Hmm…I really don’t like this last option but I guess some might)? Any other ideas?

I’ll appreciate your thoughts- both from a hobbyist and a providers’ perspective.