Here's my situation. I'm a college student in my mid-twenties, and I'm a virgin. I've decided that it would be best for me if my first time were with an escort, just to get that initial awkwardness and uncertainty out of the way. There is an escort in my area that seems like she would be a good choice for me - attractive, well-reviewed, and older than me.

The problem is that she requires references. I obviously haven't seen any escorts before, so I can't provide references. I've looked into the verifcation services like Date Check and P411, but they ask for employment info, and I am currently unemployed because I can't find a job that will fit in with my class schedule.

I'm not really sure what to do here. The only other option I see is to get an appointment with an escort who doesn't require references and then use her as a reference, but I'd rather not do that if I can avoid it. Also, there's no guarantee that she would actually be willing to let me use her as a reference or that my preferred escort would accept her as a reference. It's kind of important to me to have my first experience be with an older woman who can take the lead, and there aren't any other attractive older escorts I can find in my area. There is one escort near me that will just do a massage, for a lower rate, so I might be able to just do that and use her as a reference, but I'd rather not do that if I don't have to.

I'd really appreciate some advice. Is it possible that I still might be able to see my preferred escort if I explain the situation? Will the verification services accept "Student" as my occupation and be willing to verify me anyway? I need to know if any other options are available to me.

Also, as a final note, I'd appreciate it if you wouldn't try to convince me not to see an escort for my first time. I've already concluded that it's necessary, and I can't see myself being convinced otherwise.

Thanks for the help.

I understand from others here on the board that the verification service P411 has a phone number you can call and they will work with you on figuring out a way to verify you since you are a student. Many guys on here have the same situation regarding employment info, self employment, etc. I'll say that with P411 verification the provider you want to see may still want some kind of info. You may have to see providers that use P411 and are listed there as newbie friendly and then have them be references for the provider you are wanting to see at this time.

You are correct that you don't want to see someone that doesn't screen.

Send her an email or call her if necessary. Tell her exactly what you posted here and see what she says.

I agree mostly with the fact that it's a good idea to see someone who screens! However, I feel that I am a really good companion... and I provide really awesome service!

I, however, do not screen... and the reason for that is because I feel out the situation really well and if I'm not completely comfortable... I do not see them! I have exceptional intuition & I know that a lot of times guys are extremely nervous about giving out any information.. even a first name!! So, if this is the case... I'd rather see them without getting information... then not see them at all! In these cases, I make sure that my check-in, check-out person has every last detail that I can give them about the situation... that way if anything ends up going wrong... they know exactly what to do.

So, I guess overall my only point was that there are an extremely few escorts, like me that will actually not screen, that are REALLY GOOD escots!!.. But, overall your bettter off finding one that does screen for your first time! Unless, you get lucky & find a needle in a haystack, like I am! lol.

I appreciate the responses.

xyz23: It isn't so much that I don't want to see someone who doesn't screen. It's really about not wanting to have to see an escort I'm not interested in in order to get to the one I am interested in. Also, I don't think I have the option of specifically finding escorts that are newbie-friendly and seeing them instead, because honestly, my area seems to have very few escorts at all (or at least very few that I'd actually want to see). That would still fall under "using" one escort to get to another. That might be more acceptable to me if this wasn't about losing my virginity, but with things being the way they are, I want to see an escort that I'm genuinely interested in.

I'm going in for an interview next week for a job at my college. Assuming I get the job, how exactly would the verification service work?

I was in the same boat as you a couple weeks ago minus the virgin part. Search/research the newbie board and try to learn as much as you can. I am unemployed and a full time student also, get verified thru P411 and search for newbie friendly providers there. Listen to what the vets here say.
Good luck and have fun out there.

Explain your situation with college. She will either take a step to find out more about you or ignore your email. Give her 3 days to respond. If the provider responds to your email asking for more information, give her the information that she asks for, or forget about getting a session with her.

I was in the same boat you were. I lost my v-card to grad student who went my college, my freshmen year. I was 19 still wet behind the ears, and she 26, so I felt pretty good.

Good luck with that.

You will save a lot of money and it would be way easier!!!

God bless you son.I'd like to be in my mid-20s and still a virgin.I poppped my cherry at 14.The older guys took me to a $15 quickie joint back in 1979.Anyway,I understand your frustration.I'm going through the same dilemna.Hobbying was alot easier years ago.Yes,they wouldn't just let you into a place but if you persisted you could negotiate your way in.Today it's near impossible without giving up your life's history.I stopped hobbying a few years back and now that I want to get into the game(not on a consistent basis)it's almost impossible.The quality providers want certain types of info that most guys just don't have. For example the old work number routine.The days of your own work number with extension are over.None of that if you're and indie like me. My work number is my cell number. But that's not good enough.Just to give an example.If all the quality providers want references how are you supposed to get one in the first place.Catch-22 if you ask me.There's gotta be a better way.One provider got hostile with me because some of her criteria just didn't apply to me. How can I give info I don't have???Go figure.I agree with you. I just don't want to see someone for the sake of getting a reference(if you're at at all able to). I jut wanna see who I wanna see.Good luck and let us know how it goes.

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Thanks for the kind words, though I disagree that there's something "right" about my virginity. It's actually causing me quite a bit of distress, to the point that I'm having a lot of trouble concentrating on school. I'm actually pretty good-looking, but I'm just not good at playing the role that men seem to be expected to play to get sex.

I actually tried to go to Canada to do this at first. There are lots of really hot escorts there, and I found one that was ideal - older, great-looking, and French. My area is pretty sparse and I thought I could get some choice up there. But I fucked things up and got turned away at the border because I had said I wasn't planning on meeting anyone and then they found texts on my phone between me and the escort - texts that were only necessary because she had actually screwed up and penned me in for the wrong date. I know I should have deleted them before I reached the border, but I never text otherwise, so it's not something I even think about. Plus I'd been driving all day without eating and I was already nervous because this was my first time traveling there alone. Every cop I encountered during this whole mess was a complete asshole to me, and they treated me like a criminal from the beginning.

So I come back here to try to do things in my area, and I find that I have to "pass inspection" here as well. I guess it's to prove I'm not a cop. If we lived in a sane country, this would all be legal, and I wouldn't have to do that. It is very frustrating. There are all these barriers to escorts, and civilian sex seems out of my reach because I don't have proper "game", despite my looks.

Anyway, thanks for the support and for letting me vent a bit.

It's not so much that they think you're a cop.Well that too. But they want to feel safe.That is make sure you won't rip them off or worse.The crazies are spoiling it for us good guys.