My first question is, what if I'm looking for a provider who will accommodate a strange but harmless fetish? I won't get into specifics - it's weird, but it's probably technically easier on the provider than regular sex. Since discussing actual sex acts with the provider beforehand is verboten, should I post on the local area boards asking? Or is getting into specifics on there also bad form?
My other question is, what do I do if I pop early? Am I expected to leave then, or would it be all right if I wanted to stay for my full time, maybe cuddling or something? Is that considered impolite?
As to your first question,
Get VIP and search the reviews in your area for providers that are open to fetishes, then contact a couple get verified and then politely ask about fetishes. Dont get graphic and ask specifics about acts. Be prepared to not receive responses from some providers though.
As to your second question,
Again this is where getting VIP pays dividends. All providers vary in the treatment of an early pop, so do your research and find one that will chat and cuddle, or try to get your motor going again.
Tell her ahead of time you are a quickie, she will know what to do - A good provider will allow two pops..
Discussing acts is a tricky thing.. once you are in the room with her - get comfy with one another, talk about it then...
Some providers may vary... get a feel for her -
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I agree with Ciara (who wouldnt?) 
, If i can tell the pop is coming soon, i will inquire if they wish to continue or wait a bit. It is all about communicating and being a class act while doing so...good luck and play safe 
Belle.
even if it's just sitting and chatting or even resting in an embrace (Which is a very fine way to spend some extra minutes, IMHO.)
As for how to broach a touchy subject, there's no set way except to first ask if it is OK to bring up such a subject. If she indicates that she is willing to discuss, then have at it. If not, you can take your chances and see her anyways and bring it up face to face or keep looking.
By the way, if it's not an illegal activity (exchanging backrubs, for example) then I suppose you can bring it up. On the other hand, if it is something overtly sexual (Watching each other masturbate, let's say.), then caution is called for.
As the previous poster said, having VIP and researching the reviews carefully might yield the answer you are looking for.
Best of luck.