I know similar questions get posted all the time, but this one is a tad bit different.

My ATF has a friend who just started providing.  Only has a handful of reviews, but definetley someone I would like to see.  

So my trip to the town they are located in is in about a week.  My ATF told me to just email her friend and tell her that I know her friend to set something up.

3 Days now and no response back.  

I see that she is always on cityvibe, so she must have the time to email back.

Should I tell me ATF that her friend wont get back to my email?  Im a little bummed at my ATF for referring her to me.

then the one I sent a few days ago was a 2nd email.

Maybe she just doesn't want my business.

There are any number of reasons why she may not have gotten back to you.  I wouldn't mention this to your ATF, though, except in passing.   Just because she has an ad up on Cityvibe or Eros doesn't mean the lady in question is available at all times...she may have taken a few days off for any number of reasons.  So try sending a follow-up note at this point, and see what happens.

verbage that put her off.

Why not shoot your ATF a text (email) and ask her to intercede on your behalf.  She is the one that made the referral, so perhaps she can clarify with her "friend" that you're an OK guy.

Since she recommended that you email her friend, you wouldn't be stepping on any toes to ask. Maybe there's a misunderstanding that she could clear up. I recently had a very similar problem resolved this way whan a favorite's friend had me confused with a harasser.

If it turns out she just doesn't want to see you, at least you gave it your best shot.

I have had it happen to me twice.  Try contacting her with a different email account.

It could be that the friend is...
Afraid of stepping on her friend's toes by stealing a customer
Freaked by LE
Rethinking the biz for what ever reason

I'd let you ATF know that you're still interested if her friend ever gets her sh*t together.   I'd back off.  Too much makes you look like LE or stalker.   You can try periodically...  every few months...