I have a few fantasies i want to fullfill. How do i ask a provider if she will fullfill them without being graphic or rude. Whats the best way to go about it.

I found myself in the same position.  I didn't go with it in the first session but after I spent some time with a provider I scheduled a follow-up and asked if I could send her something about a fantasy I had.  I typed out the fanasy scenario and sent it to her, or you could send a video link to a video that is similar to the fantasy (try www.tubegalore.com they have everything).  Just warn her going in that its graphic so she isn't offended.

I made it clear that I wasn't sending a script just something similar to what I was in to.  She read it, was okay with what I was after, and she acted it out exactly as I wanted.

Doing it this way keeps from discussing it to death and retains some of the spontanaity and realism.  A warning though, mine was more of a scenario than an act and it was fairly tame.  If you are concerned with crossing a line feel her out first and I suspect it will work besst with someone you've seen before.

Th best way to approach this, is to be upfront, honest and be very clear about what it is that you want.

There are ways to say things without being rude, and you can tone down your graphic description and still make your point.

This way, you eliminate any surprises and will know up front if your wishes will be met.....

Not all do.  This is where reading reviews as well as her site comes in.

Next, you have to be careful about what you bring up.  Certain things are legal like wearing specific clothes, or even mentioning "playing doctor" or tying someone up.

Be careful not to mention explicit sexual circumstances, however.

You may find that you'll have to mee the gal and see her at least once or more before you can then tell her all the juicy details.

First, just ask a provider you know.

If it involves specific acts (i.e. Two gals snowballing) you'll want to have a history with her. Meaning don't discuss specific acts a priori.

For tamer stuff (dress up or role play), ask. Some ladies are more/less into certain things.

Use the ISO board.

There are lots of possibilities but without an idea of what category these fall into (acts, roles or other) you'll have a tough time getting advice.