My Gentleman's Kit

tooth brush
tooth paste
mouthwash
Altoids
body spray
smoke deodorizer
cologne
hairbrush
brandy (minitures)
hand sanitizer
wet wipes
condoms
misc lubricants
warming gel
cockring
oversize handkerchiefs
mini vibrator
soft cotton rope
snake bite cups
PVC tape
"Fleet" enema kit
latex gloves
hypodermic needle tips
butane torch lighter
alcohol wipes

I'm prepared for almost anything. The provider better be.


HalfHour

You're a TOFTT adventurer.

Not that I am recommending that to anyone, but are are those of us who the Captain Kirk approach and boldy go where no hobbyist has gone before.


HH

because having p4p sex is a wonderful adventure.

Providers are a terrific addition to our society and while they will take 10'.....they don't take......American Express

Can any of the Vets out there give us some key rules on what to bring and NOT bring with us when visiting a provider for the first time.  Ie. - The boards say to bring condoms and NOT bring your wallet.  Give us newbies a quick breakdown of the essentials and what to avoid.  thanx.

Most providers have a preferred brand they like to use.  They would not use yours unless they were still in a sealed container anyway.  While many have said not to bring your wallet, I have never had a problem involving my personal possessions at an appointment.  If she is a well-reviewed provider, you shouldn't either, but if it makes you more comfortable, leave all your valuables in the car, out of sight.

If you have read her reviews, you would know if maybe a bottle of wine is appropriate.  I never bring beverages of any kind, as most will offer you some water or something, and I'm not much of a wine drinker anyway.  Just be clean and respectful and don't worry about anything but having a good time.

Yes, I always bring a new unopened box of condoms with me. You can go a long and not need to bring them, and then out of the blue, a well reviewed lady doesn't have any. It happens, trust me. I bring the CORRECT donation amount, usually in an envelop. I bring additional cash, just in case the date is going great and I want to extend my time. I bring my hobby phone and finally car keys.  Anything I didn't mention, stays in the car, out of sight locked away.

First, in 15 years of hobbying (even in the yellow pages/magazine days), I have NEVER brought a condom to a session. A lady, especially a well reviewed/established lady, should have those with her in full supply. Now, if you prefer a specific kind of condom (extra large, lubricated etc.) then you might want to bring your own to your session so as not to be disappointed with the ladies choices. But if you don't care what type/brand of condom, then the lady should be well stocked. If not, you made a horrible choice in a provider.

I presume you are asking about bringing a wallet because you are worried about the lady taking its contents. The bottom line is that you MUST do your homework and be comfortable with the lady you are seeing. That is why hobbyists tell you to gear your searches towards ladies who are well reviewed and respected in the TER community. Reputation (hobbyists/providers) is EVERYTHING. You can not survive in this hobby without it.

In my experience I have NEVER had an issue with any provider taking anything of mine. If I made a comittment to see a lady, and am comfortable to be naked in front of her, then I have to trust her. I shouldn't have to worry that if I am in the bathroom, she is sifting through my pants to take my wallet/ or cell phone.

At your early stage of hobbying, if you are worried about theft, then my advice would be just have on you the donation, your cell phone (as you most likely have to call right before the appointment to get a specific location) and perhaps a drivers license (some ladies ask to see it). You can leave credit cards, keys, computers, jewlery, etc. behind. As you become more experienced, and make smarter choices about whom to see, then you will one day be where I am and not even remotely consider that the lady will take anything from you.

I don't bring anything except the cash needed. It has nothing to do with trust but the possibility I'll leave something behind by mistake.

Instead of making a list of what I don't bring, it's shorter to list what I do bring: What I'm wearing + car keys +cash. Anything else gets locked in the car.

I bring just one or two condoms in the wrapper, and I've never had a provider question using them.

I do bring my phone (powered off). I also bring my drivers license. On the remote chance that LE should stop me and ask for ID, it could make that process easier.

Other than the cash, no valuables. My homework gives me confidence that I will have great safe sex. Without a criminal background check and credit report, I cannot be confident that my wallet, etc., will not be a temptation, so why risk it?

Another thing not to bring: I've seen posters say they print out a provider's ad or just her pic in case there's a bait & switch. Without going into the recommended way to avoid B&S here, don't ever do this. Don't carry any written notes about your appointment, either. To her, it will make you look indiscreet, and to a cop it will be evidence.

Donation
Extra cash if there is a chance of overtime (separate pockets). Don't get them mixed up!!!
Drivers License
Car Keys
Phone

FC2's - It never hurts to ask

ID, donation (separated), minimal spare cash, hobby phone, toiletries kit, sealed 3 pack of condoms, car keys

On the condoms, I bring the kind I prefer which is fine.  A lady should have them.  Having condoms avoids certain scams...  including several variations of take the money & run!  A 3 pack is cheap insurance.  
Note, you can not legally hold a woman against her will...  but the "I left them in the car" (she doesn't come back), "I'm going to get them at the drug store" (she doesn't come back), "drive me to the drug store" (she leaves by another exit or calls the cops, says she's being coerced) scams are out there.  There's still the grab the cash & run scenerio.

Bring the amount of cash you will need for the appointment.  If there is even the remote possibility you will extend, make sure you check her site to see how much more to bring.  Its not appropriate to pull out your cash during the appointment and ask "what will $$$ buy me in addional time?"

You will probably need an ID.  I recommend simply a driver's license.  Most ladies do not accept business cards as they are so easy to get at any Kinkos or can even be printed off on your own printer.  The lady knows she verified John Doe.  Now she wants to be sure you are him.

If bringing wine or a gift, put them in a duffle bag or other inconspicuous bag.  Wine and a Victoria's Secret bag raises suspicion with hotel staff.

If you will need to shower, its advisable to bring a bar of your regular soap.  Many hotels have fru fru floral or herbal soaps and your S.O. will notice the scent.

Do not bring condoms unless you have special needs;  non latex, desensitizing, extra small or extra large non latex.  Most ladies do have regular and large condoms, but you may need to bring special ones, especially if you are latex sensitive.  Anaphylactic shock and an ambulance call may cause unnecessary attention.  Lol

Most important, bring a good attitude.  After all, this is supposed to be fun.

But if you are seeing an established, well reviewed provider, I'm
assuming that you don't have to be concerned with a "snatch & run"
situation. Is that correct?

The key word is established. The more history the better.  There have been instances where reviewed ladies have done a cash and dash but usually there was some warning first. A decline in quality of services or poor business management.

Always take the appropriate precautions to make yourself comfortable.

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