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Totally Ripped OFF! Need advice!sad_smile
bubbleshorse 3 Reviews 2153 reads
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Has this ever happened to anyone else?  You go to a lot of trouble to set up an appt. with a provider.  The provider has great reviews and you've been assured by the agency she's a true "pro."  You then show up at the meeting place and almost immediately things are not quite right.  

The vibe is off, she looks much older than advertised...but you keep trying to convince yourself you're gonna have a good time: IT'LL BE ALRIGHT.  IT'LL BE ALRIGHT.  So you hand over the donation.  But the woman looks worse without her clothes, her BJ is lousy, she's got callouses, her manners are like a streetwalker's, no class, etc.  And before you know it you can't keep it up.  You just keep thinking about the 3 bills you laid down and what an idiot you must be.  

So you end the session early.  On the long drive home you are thoroughly DEPRESSED and UPSET.  You can't even think back on the event without feeling nauseous.  Despite the shower you took you feel FILTHY.  

So what should I have done???  

I work hard for every dollar.  I'm NOT a millionaire.  300 bucks is SIZABLE coin to me.  I tried to talk to the provider afterwards about maybe getting at least a discount since I left early with no "happy ending."  No luck.  I then explained to the agency what happened.  But they could care less.

Men seemed to be hamstrung when it comes to these sort of con jobs.  I also feel like many of the ratings on TER are hyper-inflated.  They must be fake, i.e., made up by friends of the provider or the provider herself.  

I think it would save a lot of disappointment and hassle for both sides if there was a "10 minute refund window."  In other words: you have 10 mins upon meeting the provider to decide if you really want to go through with it or not.  If not, you can just pay a nominal fee, say 10%, and then simply leave.  

PS -- PM or email me for more info about the provider in question.  I can't put it up on the General Board.

You can't really review the agency but you can certainly leave a one liner if they are listed in the "Site Reviews" area.

You should also make your experience known on your local board.

Next time you'll be better served by just turning around and walking away with your money.

Is move on my friend. The only thing  you can really do from this point is write a review. Also another word of advice , try to take the reviews with a bit of grain of salt, not everybody 9 and 10 is going to equal to your standards of what you think a 9 or 10 should be.  I learned my lesson last summer, I saw a provider that had about 50+ reviews at the time and recently went indie . I was quick to book with her. Had trouble booking and finding a time due to issues going on with her. Eventually we meet, probably one of the  worst sessions  I ever had.  Of the whole hr I had with her, I kid you not we spent about 40 +minutes talking about her life. I honestly would have not known the time if it wasn't for the large digital clock in the room. As far the action , the part that threw me off the most was when she gave me a cbj and saying she always does it that way. Yet of the 50 reviews she has,  I see nothing but bbj and cim. I was pissed when I left, nothing I can really do but take my loss. I thought about writing a review, but I already know what would have happened. If I wrote my review and gave the score I felt she really deserved for that performance. More than likely she would've complained on our local board, saying that not her and never met this guy before. Her shinning knights probably come to her defense. I'm pretty sure my review would've got report and removed since it not consistent with reviews she usually gets.  I find it funny she retired after the time I saw her and then made a recent come back.

So sorry you had a bad time and let that be an experience you learn from.

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is to file a problem report about the lady's profile.  Admin may come back with YMMV but at least you can say you tried.

You could also write a review but if you want to use the agency again, they may not think too kindly of your review, assuming you don't sugar coat what happened.

Posted By: FinalUgi
 I thought about writing a review, but I already know what would have happened. If I wrote my review and gave the score I felt she really deserved for that performance. More than likely she would've complained on our local board, saying that not her and never met this guy before. Her shinning knights probably come to her defense. I'm pretty sure my review would've got report and removed since it not consistent with reviews she usually gets.  I find it funny she retired after the time I saw her and then made a recent come back.

So sorry you had a bad time and let that be an experience you learn from.

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I AM going to write a review.  I'm done with being a nice guy and getting shat on for it.   This is the last straw.  I really think if more guys would just step up to the plate and be honest about bad experiences than the less power these terrible providers would have over us.

What are we really afraid of?

Losing a good reference?  Being outed in public by the offended provider?  Having some "Guido"-boyfriend/pimp coming after us?

I used to worry about those things.

I DON'T ANYMORE.

I say: Bring it on!  I can defend myself, I don't work in the public sector and I'm leaving this "hobby" so don't care about references anymore.

I've had enough.

In the meantime, I've included a link to the particular party and to the agency in general, which has been consistently disappointing.  

PS -- I've gotten a number of PM's but unfortunately can't answer back as I don't have VIP access yet.  But I will soon.  So just letting those who've messaged me know.

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to take more writing courses.  Not sure what grade level this is.

"My travels have taken me all over the work (sic) and I have been lucky enough to have some once in a lifetime experiences. I am a lot of fun to spend time with and a great partner overall. Come and see for yourself!"

You say you Will have VIP. That leads me to believe you didn't have it. Here's my question. Did you read this provider's reviews before you saw her? Whether it's an agency provider or an independent provider you have to read the reviews. The numbers on this provider are good but reading the reviews would let you know more.  I can't find it now but I thought I read a comment by you about guys not being honest in their reviews, giving numbers to keep from having the shit hit the fan when they give a bad review. I'm not going to say that doesn't happen but this seems like the agency switched on you. As a previous poster said don't write a rant review. Write an honest review without bashing for the sake of bashing. Consider also making mention of the agency. If they have an agency profile on TER review the agency there. (It's not a full blown review just a place to leave comments.)You can find it under the "Site reviews" tab at the top of the page.  

When you get the VIP check out all the other ladies in your area. Read their reviews. Check out the agencies that have good reviews in your area. The VIP membership gives you the tools to enjoy the hobby.

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and I don't mean at all to be cruel, but the whole thing could have been less traumatic, and it is partly your fault.

First of all, many experienced hobbyists will turn around and walk out the door if the lady is not the lady in the pictures, or if she has been misrepresented significantly.

You chose to stay, as many guys do who are too timid or nervous to walk away, or who are so horny that they would fuck a bridge troll :) So at that point, your good time is partly in your hands. It sounds from  what you write that you couldn't keep it up less because she was unattractive and more because you were obsessing about the money and the situation - but again, you are the one who decided to stay.

At that point, you should have attempted to get everything out of the session that you could. Close your eyes if you have to and take the blowjob. Make her earn her money. Take her in every position you can think of. Go greek, go CIM, go Russian, whatever you can do to motivate yourself, and make every attempt to have an orgasm or three. If it were me, I'd have her bent over the bed, riding her greek or doggy like my life depended on it.

Your refund window dream is just a dream, it's never going to happen, although many reputable providers will deal with it if you walk in the door and change your mind, as long as you give them a reasonable "cancellation tip". The thing is, the ladies who are that cool and understanding are ladies you are probably not going to want to walk out on in the first place.


Anyway, I'd definitely review her and the agency as other posters have suggested. Spend some time writing the review; the more well-written it is, the more people will be inclined to take it seriously, no matter how many other good reviews she has. If you just post an angry rant review, a lot of guys will discount it and think you are just a loon :)

Hey,

Yeah, I understand how this may be "partly" my own fault.

But these ladies SERIOUSLY take advantage of our kindness and gentlemanly tact.  For example, I have a very hard time telling a woman to her face that she is not attractive and that I want to leave.  Not only that, but they know how to deliberately and quickly put you in a situation where you CAN'T say No.  

For example, they ask for the money first, like right away.  So they've already got the bills.  Then, within minutes, they're already giving BJ, vigorously.  Everything's happening so fast there's not even time to say: "Oh, uh, you know, I don't think so."  You're more like flabbergasted.  And after a provider's already given BJ what're you gonna do then?  Ask for a refund???  

This particular lady worked very fast, entrapping me.  

Well, I'm not gonna take this anymore lying down (literally OR figuratively).

Enough is ENOUGH.  

I would advise ALL HOBBYISTS in the future to make arrangements for a "10 mins refund window" with any new provider or agency.  And if they won't give you that then just move on!

As for my own future -- I am DONE.  I'll take my chances talking to women on the street.  It certainly can't be any worse!  And it'll be a helluva lot CHEAPER!!!

don't ragequit after one bad session. There are a plethora of terrific women out there, there really are. If you are feeling badly burnt, the next time you want to book a session, pick one with good reviews (I know you did that) but then backchannel some of the reviewers to get a truer picture.

I know what you mean about the "rushjob". Read my review of "Candy" :-)

Good luck, really.

Attend a TER M&G, so this never happen's to your hard working self again $

- I used to work an agency, and operate my own a long time ago & never again!




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