Hi all. I am new to the hobby. The vast majority of well-reviewed providers require references, which makes complete sense. I managed to arrange something with a provider who was newbie friendly enough to screen me despite my lack of references. My question is: how should I go about getting a reference from them recorded somewhere for other providers to see in the future?
I get very few chances each year to hobby, so I am worried that by the time I need a reference from this provider she may have forgotten me or I won't be able to get in touch with her. Is there a service out there where the provider can vouch for me after our encounter so that even if it's quite a while before I need her reference it'll be there? I know I can sign up for a site like date-check with a reference and avoid giving too much personal information, but I'd rather not have an active account I'm paying for when I only plan to use it a few times a year. Would I be able to sign up for 1 month, get the vouch on my record, then re-activate my account and still have that vouch be valid a few months down the line?
Also, it seemed that it would be fairly easy to get into an AMP without a reference... would the girls at AMPs be able to provide references?
Definitely read the links under the Life Preserver for Getting Started, because they have information that's valuable for Newbies and people who have been in the hobby for a while as well.
There is a Massage Discussion Board on TER, but that's not what you asked about and wouldn't serve a vouching purpose for you.
I doubt that ladies at an AMP could provide a stable reference base for the hobby. I suppose one could be reviewed on TER but they aren't widely reviewed, they change often, and they're not well known, and most providers you'd want to see who aren't AMPs don't know them and probably aren't comfortable with anything they'd provide for you as a reference, and there can be a language barrier at times, so I'd forget that avenue. And I don't know where a well known database of reviews for AMPs exists, even if it were practical and it doesn't sound at all practical for me. Providers have a board here and a lot of other boards, but I doubt they spend much time at all discussing what AMPs think about any client. Also the experience at an AMP is considerably less in depth and less intimate to say the least on a panoply of levels.
You can always ask providers you see if they'll provide a reference for you, and with a positive experience most of them will for a period of time until a certain amount of time lapses after they've last seen you.
P411 is worth joining because providers can join for free, and they can vouch for you with an "Okay" and P411 exists to be a verification service. The provider may ask for verification beyond P411 at her discretion (it's always said so I'll say it) but it usually works positively for you.
Additionally P411 has been willing to tell non-members that you are "Basic with X Okays" if you call them and ask them in advance, but it does make it easier when the provider can login and see your profile and you can have P411 mail your verification status and profile with a mouse click.
I haven't used the other verification services, but drilling into them, they don't seem as substantive as P411 although they may be helpful in specific locations like Date Check is said to be in Chicago or some may be in the LA area for example.
TER has a Whitelist that allows providers to vouch for you, and some vets may want to context it but I'll provide you links that do this. I must say that in reading a lot of reviews, I rarely see use of the Whitelist on TER so most people don't feel the need to use it.
Thanks for all the info. I'm looking into p411 but I'm hesitant to maintain the account on there if I'm not going to be too active as it's just more transactions I'd need to make sure to keep hidden from my personal life. It seems the whitelist may be the way to go for me.
you might want to call them and they can context what they do and give you a better idea. When you're getting started, you can look for newbie friendly providers, things you can do if you're not a member of one of those services is to post on your local board looking for newbie friendly providers, and once seen, they could be a reference source for you. With TER VIP you can PM other members or providers and ask if they are newbie friendly as well. I'm sure you know that you can look at reviews from your locale to get an idea of providers as well.
can be your first "ok." It will appear on your profile with all of her info as well as the date she vouched for you. If it gets past the 8-12 month mark, it may or may not be accepted by a few providers. I don't accept refs over 6 months old unless the lady says she has seen the guy numerous times and remembers him very well. A ref from someone a year ago who only met with a guy for an hour, is not going to cut it for me.
In your situation, I would highly suggest using the screening sites so there is a "record" that you desire. I don't know about AMPs though. The ones where I am located ask for nothing other than your ID when you walk in. They don't operate on refs the way traditional escorts do. In the k girl world, it is a totally different ball game where they are a network amongst themselves, so refs from regular escorts won't allow you to see them.
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