To those on this board who have the wisdom and experience to help us newbies out, please tell us some gift ideas for providers which made for many happy returns.  If you have some "can't miss" advice please pass it on to us.

Your are seeing a provider, not a girlfriend, your donation is more than appreciated.

No such thing as "can't miss". And often it's the little things that count.

One of the best nights ever started with a little box of some kind of Japanese sweet that I had been given. All I knew was that it was something nice. Was going to see a new provider that night - Japanese girl - so I took that along.

She was very impressed by both the thought in general and the specific of the gift. Ended up making dinner for me after our session. Had a four course dinner (that's sounds too formal) sitting between her and her room mate.

Proof that it's the thought that counts.

Good luck,

MH50

Most providers have a list of gifts that they would enjoy, anything from scented candles to Ferraris.

You don't have to bring a gift, but I always find that it is a nice touch.  It breaks the ice and works for both people.

My specialty is finding interesting jewelry that seems to fit the person, but that's just because I have a knack for knowing what to get for them.  I wouldn't neccessarily start with that.

Many times a gift card is very much appreciated.

Put some thought into it and see what feel right to you.

There is no "one size fits all" answer I'm afraid.

I have always given candles.  This topic has been discussed many times before.  PM me if you want more info.  

Swim

I have had flowers, gift cards to stores and restaurants and lingerie. I prefer gift cards, or just a card in general. I think it shows that thought went into the date for you. I know for many men this is not just about the sex. For some it is but for others it is a chance to have intimacy with someone that you may not get elsewhere. I would recommend a perfume that SHE likes, a gift card, or flowers.

Alyssa

Every woman is different. I would check her website if it is a first visit. If you have seen the lady a few times you should be able to come up with some ideas on your own if you have been paying attention...To give a gift or not is a personal decision. It's is a simple personal gesture that some men enjoy doing and most women appreciate very much. Yes, we are paying for a service but that doesn't mean we can't inject a little fun into the process.
My current ATF loves scented candles and is a Red Sox fan so I have a lot of options...

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I arrive clean, shaved and well mannered.  I treat the woman I'm seeing with the same respect as a lady I would date in a civvie relationship.  I have her donation as agreed, and I try to make sure that she enjoys herself.

Very few of the ladies in this business have a difficult time earning money.  What is surprising is how many unpleasant guys they see (I'm not talking physically).  Being nice has paid me an insane level of benefit, and doesn't cost a dime.

I don't recommend what I did once.  I had just made some oatmeal/raisin cookies amd took some to the initial meeting.  LOL.  After about our 20th time together the topic came up and I realized what a stupid thing that was to take.  They could have been laced.  I asked her if she just threw tham out but she claimed she didn't since we hit it off so well during that first visit.

Depends on the lady.  Check her web site.  Sometimes I'll bring flowers, chocolates, candles, wine, etc.

Velkommen to the newbie board.  The questions and contributions are always welcome here!!!

Tasun tukk!!!

jazz32

Thanks, Sophie and everyone for your advice and suggestions. I'm a newbie myself and all your advice is very helpful. I'm thinking of bringing flowers but I'm afraid they'll draw attention, and the lady might not want that. Any thoughts on that?

It helps to break the ice.  Even if it is on the low-end pricewise of her gift suggestions, it proves that you didn't only look at her photos when you chose to contact her.

The gift I gave that had the greatest impact - intermission wear.  One of my ATF's in Phoenix used to sub-let an incall apartment with another gal.  My ATF and I are both smokers, but the other gal wasn't, so we had to step outside to light up after round one.  The first time, my ATM slipped on her negligee, sexy, but not that discreet.  This was a good sized apartment complex, her attire was noticed, and commented on.  So before our next encounter, I went by Target to buy a cute, backyard BBQ appropriate top and shorts, she loved the idea.

I generally don't bring flowers on a first encounter. If you do be sure to bring them in a vase as the lady will not have one available at her in call location.  This can get bulky-one of the reasons I save it for special birthday wishes. Candles, Chocolates, Lingerie, Wine-if it is on her wish list are all good ice breakers. Chocolate covered strawberries in particular always work well for me if you can find a store in the area that has them.

One thing that stands out in my memory- when I created my initial site (on geocities- got shut down within a week) my gift list included more specifics- for example, I shared the name of my favorite local spa where I get services done. When I created my new site, I made it rather quickly and then updated it with more detail over time, and didn't initially list this spa.. when I finally met a gent for the first time, after a month of emails back and forth, he brought me a gift certificate to my favorite spa. He had read my initial website, almost two months back, and remembered the name of the spa/salon!

Another gift that stands out to me is one of my regulars who brings me different flowers each time we have an appointment. Believe it or not I have never gotten flowers from a civvie, so the first time he brought them it was really special and I told him that, and now he brings them every time- sort of a personalized gesture that I can count on and look forward to.

Another gift I have received that was really thoughtful was a gift card to the book store.. While not the typical provider gift, I love to read and this was special to me as it was based on my personal interests.. I got to talking with the client and found out we are both avid readers, which gave us something to break the ice and now I have another friend to talk books with!

XoXo,
Marea

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