I saw a post today with a Star Trek reference.  So it brought to my mind the above question.   IMHO I will vote an emphatic NO when it comes to the hobby world, unless of course we cross over that unspoken, undeniable line that is drawn between us and the providers.   However, in the civvie world I often times will have to say yes when it comes to the ladies.    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-wtYGZt7aI4

Its easy to read rave reviews about a provider and build up an amazing excitement only to wind up a bit disappointed if she either doesnt look like her pics, or your personalities dont mesh, or any number of reasons.

Probably so, thanks.  But I'm kind of assuming if you've been hobbying for a some time you've already come to the conclusion that the "having" is better.   Sorry, it's a bit of a lame topic but I couldn't resist the trekkie angle.  Not much going on here on a Sunday aft, obviously.

Good point, I've had that happen myself a few times.  But it never made it a "bad" session--just not up to expectations.  I guess we need to keep that in mind when meeting someone new.   Reminds me of the time I got to meet Buzz Aldrin (star trek convention, believe it or not) and I asked him if walking on the moon was what he expected it to be?  Thought he had a pretty good answer--"We were ready for anything and really didn't "expect" anything in particular".  Not quite the same for our hobby, but helpful nonetheless.

but in the hobby, it's catch and release, so "having"  is much better than "wanting"

I see guys who have limited resources and who spend a lot more time wanting than having, and I am positive that guys like me who get to "have" several times a week are much happier than the guys who spend most of their time wanting and only get to "have" maybe once every month or so.

Thanks Ga, for your opinion.  I really didn't mention anything about marriage, but that's always (usually) a consideration.   That being said, I like your posts!  But, ..... has Spcok ever mentioned marriage??

and his statement came after he defeated Capt Kirk in a fight to the death over his "wife to be" his comments were directed towards her actual boyfriend who wanted her for himself.

For the record the woman and Spock were pledged to marry from early  childhood and Spock temporarily went mad during this "mating time" of sorts. So yes, Spock definitely mentioned marriage during this episode.

I am almost ashamed to actually remember this much about an episode from a series that went off the air about 45 years ago, but trust me. that's what the episode was about. nanu nanu. oops wrong series. lol

...Spock's betrothed just died this week at age 78.

Spock's little head really took over in that episode, didn't it?

...episode: "Twenty-Two"

"Room for one more, honey"

As in, the best way to have what you want, is to want what you have.

Or, in Yoda speak:

Best to want, want have you, is.

Erotic, being for a male mostly visual and aural, is related to wanting. Sensual is more related to having, because it's about what she really feels like to touch in whatever way. Someone who remains erotic while you're enjoying her sensually is having it all