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Stupid question but one for someone that thinks differently
Siteing 4 Reviews 1017 reads
posted
1 / 11

HI. I have been here for a while but still new in the actual engagements. I was wondering do any providers allow one to pay upfront via like PayPal or like gift cards. I would like to pay some amounts until I reached a level that satisfied the amount of time I want. (Please do jot think of this like a cold uncaring layaway type thing).  It is just that I could move amounts easier at small amounts over a period of time.  
I like this as it can provide the fantasy of meeting an old friend once we meet as everything would be handled and behind us.  
I know this would take trust as the person could just take it. However I would like to try it if possible.  

If this is stupid please have mercy on me as I am just asking.  

Thanks.

613spades 5 Reviews 451 reads
posted
2 / 11

Some ladies do take gift cards for payment but I would think that's a hassle.  
      Not saying you can't but many ladies come and go fairly quickly and without warning so I would hold my money. If I had an established relationship with someone over a yr or two I might consider what you are suggesting but once you pay it out you ll never get it back. So if you lose your job, have health or legal troubles the cash you might have squirreled away will be paid out for 3/4 of an overnight let say.  
      I get it. I like budgets and small payments over large ones but don't make a mistake that can go wrong in 100 ways and right in only one ( you getting the appointment you desire).  
       Just my .02

Posted By: Siteing
HI. I have been here for a while but still new in the actual engagements. I was wondering do any providers allow one to pay upfront via like PayPal or like gift cards. I would like to pay some amounts until I reached a level that satisfied the amount of time I want. (Please do jot think of this like a cold uncaring layaway type thing).  It is just that I could move amounts easier at small amounts over a period of time.  
 I like this as it can provide the fantasy of meeting an old friend once we meet as everything would be handled and behind us.  
 I know this would take trust as the person could just take it. However I would like to try it if possible.  
   
 If this is stupid please have mercy on me as I am just asking.  
   
 Thanks.

VOO-doo 302 reads
posted
3 / 11

due to paper trail, risk of chargebacks on the provider's end, etc. Still, there are a few providers who'll accept it. Other providers might use apps like square, or venmo.  

Amex or Vanilla Visa can be purchased w/cash (thus, anonymously) and you can send the provider the pertinent info before the date.

impposter 49 Reviews 342 reads
posted
4 / 11

I am guessing that you have an SO or otherwise need to keep your transactions small and innocuous. The idea of making small payments in advance isn't bad but your version has a MAJOR SERIOUS FLAW: don't pay your intended escort in advance, especially as you describe. Too much can happen; you'll lose everything and have ZERO recourse.  

It also sounds like you can't just open another bank account without raising suspicions. Otherwise, just do that! Deposit $50 a week or whatever your budget is and there you go.

If you want less of a paper trail, ask the guy at the corner candy store if he would "launder" some paypal payments for you for a small fee (5%? 10%). Transfer $550 over 11 weeks and he gives you $500 cash. I don't like because he can screw you, too. Basically, he'll know it's supposed to be a secret so he keeps your money and dares you to explain the problem to your SO. NEXT!  

Ask a friend if he can help you out and monetize small payments for you. Same deal. $50 Paypal payments for help with the car, help with the house repairs, golf advice, ... But after 10 weeks, he gives you $500 in cash. If he's a true friend, he won't even need to ask you what you're planning to do with the cash. For tax purposes, those Paypal payments were the repayment of a personal loan. The thing is, the loan of $500 came AFTER you had already prepaid the "loan."  

Vanilla Prepaid Credit Cards (VISA, MC) might work. Start / activate the card and add to it periodically. But watch the rules. Not all cards can be added to, only debited. And they are scammable, like GCs.

Many small ($50 each?) Gift Cards could also work, but I advise against the Gift Card route. There is too much GC crime and scams. You guy a card at the local Walmart, Target, CVS ... and pay (anonymous) cash at checkout but scammers might have recorded numbers from the cards and they just check periodically looking for newly activated cards to sweep them clean.  

Gift Card Scams:  

http://www.tripwire.com/state-of-security/risk-based-security-for-executives/risk-management/gift-card-fraud-how-its-committed-and-why-its-so-lucrative/

http://www.giftcards.com/gcgf/giftcard-scams

http://www.scambusters.org/giftcard.html

Save your money for now and don't throw it away foolishly on a plan until everything is thought through and worked out.

Good luck! Have fun!
Posted By: Siteing
HI. I have been here for a while but still new in the actual engagements. I was wondering do any providers allow one to pay upfront via like PayPal or like gift cards. I would like to pay some amounts until I reached a level that satisfied the amount of time I want. (Please do jot think of this like a cold uncaring layaway type thing).  It is just that I could move amounts easier at small amounts over a period of time.  
 I like this as it can provide the fantasy of meeting an old friend once we meet as everything would be handled and behind us.  
 I know this would take trust as the person could just take it. However I would like to try it if possible.  
   
 If this is stupid please have mercy on me as I am just asking.  
   
 Thanks.

stethdoctor 16 Reviews 324 reads
posted
5 / 11

Here are several reasons not to do what you suggest:
1. You are new, and likely have not built up any real trust with any providers.  
2. I can only imagine this going sideways in so many ways, like losing your money, or telling you later after they have your money that they changed their mind and don't want to see you, etc.
3. Sending money via PayPal, or any other means leaves an electronic transaction trail you'all regret later.
4. I imagine any girl you would propose this idea to may get the impression that you are really cheap. Even if that's not true, the mere impression of that will affect the session you have in a negative way. Or some may simple turn you down, etc. and even later if you have plenty of money, you'll listed in their little book as "Mr cheapskate."

Now some advice for a newbie...
Take your time, and pace yourself with getting into this hobby.
See well-reviewed girls, and don't take unnecessary chances with unreviewed girls on BP or CL or other boards just to save a buck.  

I hope this helps.

mrfisher 112 Reviews 293 reads
posted
6 / 11

You will severely limit yourself as to the number of gals you can see, so for that reason alone I would frown on it.

Perhaps, once you find someone your really like, and she has a level of trust in you, you can then arrange to pay here with gift cards or whatever

Siteing 4 Reviews 237 reads
posted
7 / 11

Thank you. I do not have an issue with getting the cash. It was more of a theoretical question.  Quite often I think of these questions and figure what the hell? Just ask and see what people say. You never know as some hobbyists can give answers or advice that I never thought of before.  

Thank you all again.

Jensen36363 58 Reviews 317 reads
posted
8 / 11

Keep it simple stupid.

You're really over thinking this. Put a little away where ever you can (unless the problem is controlling your spending and you'll spend it rather than leave it alone), and once you've saved the needed amount make the appointment. If you've also saved it in the proverbial envelope it's really not that hard to just drop it where requested without it seeming like a big act. You can then move on to the fantasy.

MarieSimone See my TER Reviews 282 reads
posted
9 / 11

you can put your money on a vanilla visa or chase liquid gift card every month then you will have enough and you can withdraw the money from it. I'm not sure why you can't just save it yourself but not many, if any providers will accept small payments over time.

rachelsonoma See my TER Reviews 271 reads
posted
10 / 11

I have noticed on the American Express website that you can look up the value of a gift card if you have the digits. If you could find a provider who is willing to make the extra effort, perhaps you could buy a card and send her the digits.  

To find a provider who is willing, don't ask someone you've never met. Session at least once before asking. That way, she can decide if she wants to get paid in installments.

BigPapasan 3 Reviews 225 reads
posted
11 / 11
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