I mean it doesn't seem to phase me, save my performance which I knew wasn't gonna be great, but I'd like to think I did better then I thought I was going to and she seemed to enjoy herself too or at least tried to. I just hope that I don't become to autonomous and/or elitist. I guess what I'm trying to say does it make me less human?

I dont think so I want to lose it with a lady who knows what she is doing.  I plan on losing my tonight in fact..

and not let any arificial definition of behavior guide you.

That said, there are a lot of plusses to have sex wtih professionals, be it your first time or not.

Of course, if you aim in life is to mate with someone for the purpose of starting a family, etc., then civie encounters is the way to go.

And if you are concerned if you are making a mistake, remember:  "To err is human.....:

I have had the pleasure of being with three first timers.

They were wise enough to tell me about the situation and to book a long engagement.
We took our time getting to know one another, had a date out in the real world, and then took our time exploring one another.

I left each experience feeling great and from the responses I received, I think the gentlemen did too!

Don't let negative thoughts creep in...it is something you wanted to experience and you made the choice to take the plunge in a safe environment with safe ladies.

xoxoxo
Samantha Sommers

As much as I would love to find someone worth procreating with it doesn't seem to be in the cards for me, given a lifetime of rejection and deception by females. Though given my own attitude towards the world it doesn't surprise me

Thank you, I felt I took a somewhat professional and logical approach to it, I guess I'm more disappointed as to how today's society would look at it.

If you use the hobby right, it will make your civvy relationships less stressful and allow you to focus on to do issues other than sex. You can get lost in the hobby, hence the warning to use restraint. Don't spend more than you can afford to spend. If you are married and/or have children, those relationships should be your first priority.

when issues boil to them getting what they want out of life. The methods that are used are different. Women are more passive-agressive and can be more manipulating. You have to be realistic about what you want from life. Some women aren't for you, when you meet them, things go badly if you try to hook up with them or sustain relationships.

Oh of course not saying I give up on civvy relationships it's just I'm a numbers kind of guy and I know the deck is not stacked in my favor as of yet, the only ace I have is something I'd rather not use for sake of attracting the wrong type of woman. And I've always practiced restraint, growing-up from lower-middle class to where I am now has made me understand how be frugal and have temperance. I am still trying to improve myself, but more for myself should it happen to catch the attention of the right girl so be it.

It was traditional, in Colonial days for an other male realitive to take the yong gentleman to a lady to learn the ways of the flesh.  It was expected.  A shame we now frown on this practice.  

I will tell you that when I met & married my first wife...  I had a good job, good income, moneyin the bank.  While I married for love, she married for money.   5 years later, I was cleaned out...  she went back to being a bar fly.  I would have been so much better off to have hobbied.   I was not, able to separate sex from LOVE and that is a lesson of NSA (No Strings Attached) sex.  

With experience, especially if you want to learn to not only please yourself but also please your partner.  While all men & women are constructed similarly, there are physical differences & differences in preferences...  yet there is a certain commonality to each group.   If you pay attention, are sensitive to your partners, you will become a good, maybe even GREAT, lover.   That knowledge & confidence will go a long way when beginning a relationship.  And having your sex needs satified or knowing you can with a phone call...  let's you get to know a potential date without the pressure to bed her.  

I wish I had followed this path.  
HV

I know right my late father would have done it had my mother been ever vigilant during my upbringing as that's how his father did for him. But alas tragedy struck so I had to forgo it alone. And about marriage , I have trust issues and when I let someone in that seems like they might have potential to be "the one" I end up getting hurt. It's left me detached in a sense. That's not to say I didn't remain friends with half of them its just. Its hard too look at woman as just another human being who just happens to have XX instead of XY. See that's why is what I meant about attracting the wrong type of girl. I know any woman I will marry is signing a pre-nup end of discussion. I know it seems paranoid, but I know how manipulative women can be, and its just a precaution I take incase I happen to fall for an elaborate ruse. Momma didn't raise no fool but even intelligent men like myself can be vexed by the right confidence woman. I really hope this doesn't end up becoming a lifestyle for me, but I can't say I'm a stranger to the deception. I mean I'd like to think there is a woman out there that wants to be with me for who I am and not for what I have, like my parents I now they had a healthy sex life way into my adulthood given the evidence in their waste basket and my fathers choice to have a vasectomy. I have never seen her as sad as when we lost him and I hope to find someone that will have those feelings for me you know.