Been doing this a while and have always wondered why or why not? I generally only see top level ladies, and have never hesitated in telling them....but are there areas of concern?

that way it allows you to write a review without any repurcussion. Even "top level ladies" can get bent out of shape with a review. And yes you can write an "alias" review, but many feel an "alias" review is worthless.  You'd be surprised how a 7/7 or an 8/8 review can get a lady upset when she 's used to getting only 9's and 10's.  BTW what's a "top level lady" ?

Considers to be a top level lady. All of us have our preferences, the people that I have no respect for are the ones that attempt to ridicule a hobbyist for his preference, the entire affair smacks of enraged jealous envy.

BTW. Although I prefer meeting up with trust worthy providers that have something to lose, I would never give them my TER handle and my real name. I certainly would not do that with most of the ladies that pour ads over escort malls.

When screening, the email you provide us if you used it for TER , we can look up your handle by your email.
I require a gentlemen's TER handle . I like to read his reviews and see what kind of man he is - what he enjoys or doesnt enjoy , ect... If a gentlemen won't give me his handle, I feel like there is something to hide. If he won't give me something as trivial as a TER handle, then I don't feel comfortable seeing him.

Just my .02

xoxo,
Your Rockstar Barbie Doll
Krista Starr

Most of my lady friends know my handle, and I've never found revealing this to be a problem.  It might, though, if you post a negative review that's in contrast with her other reviews.  There are many posts that lament giving this info out, so you had best be selective about it.

I don't use with providers, in order to maintain the integrity of separation between reviews and those being reviewed. It hadn't occurred to me to to this until a provider I was seeing for the first time mentioned details from my reviews, although I hadn't given her my TER handle.

Fortunately, I've yet to

to see if we are going to be a good fit.  Why waste my time with someone who is not going to be happy with me and vice versa.  I read one persons reviews and while reading between the lines, realized he liked to sneak the cover off.  I also read another gentlemans reviews, that indicated he liked doing things that I don't offer.  Another person, that preferred asian ladies gave them raving reviews, but all other ladies, who usually got great reviews were getting 6/6.   I have also had gentlemen contact me, and once they gave me their handle and read their reviews, they weren't just brutally honest but just down right cruel or gave too many details such as where the incall was located, they're civi profession, exact location of scars, what tattoos were of,  etc., these little details can easily out a provider.  I choose not to see these gentlemen.  If we are not a good fit, why bother.  I find it very important to give me your ter handle.   I have had a lot of gentlemen not give it to me and tell me they don't write reviews.  And low and behold, turns out they do write reviews!  I will see a whitelisted person, before anyone else, it's easier to screen.

That's why, I like getting a TER handle, before meeting a gentleman.

Always searching reviewers,
Laina

Oh they are appreciated (by me) ..... but if I ask for your DC or P411 if you have it then there should be no big deal unless you have some adverse history.   I've dealt with the opposite as well..... contact me from DC or p411 and I simply ask if they have TER and they don't respond or try to beat around the bush about it. It comes off as fishy if you can give up one but not the other.

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now that it's there, I'll complete it by saying that...

I've yet to have a provider insist on knowing my TER handle before agreeing to a date. I've seen it requested on some websites, but I ignore it. Once I've given my DC/P411 info and references, it hasn't been brought up.

I've only encountered this requirement in board discussions. Providers who raise the issue always say that it makes them suspicious. They never even acknowledge that the reason a reviewer won't disclose his handle could be that of integrity, even though I and others frequently post so. Frankly, that makes me suspicious that a provider is more interested in curating her own reviews than anything else.

Whatever the motivation, I don't begrudge providers for requiring it. Like with other info I consider confidential, if they can get enough clients to go along with it, I can't blame them. It's never kept me from seeing who I want to see and reviewing them candidly for the benefit of other mongers.

.....for most of us (at least I'd like to think so anyways) it's knowing who the review is coming from for me anyways it's as simple as that. Anyways, some guys who give their DC will list their TER handle. I prefer your TER handle and reference first personally.

other providers who have posted so and whose pressure tactics have been described here by hobbyists. But it isn't only a matter of those bad apples and fear of retaliation. It goes deeper.

The issue is that a review is bound to lose some integrity when the reviewer knows that the lady will we reading it as his, and that others will be using his reviews to screen him. No matter how harmless everyone's intentions may be, the result is reviews that try to please providers at the expense of giving other hobbyists a complete picture.

Obviously, I understand that many providers read their own reviews and usually know which client wrote what. Also, that anyone who is determined enough can uncover my TER handle for screening. That doesn't bother me, I'm just not going to make it easy for them if I can avoid it. That degree of separation makes a big difference in my comfort with posting a candid review and not feeling the influence of the provider looking over my shoulder.

It should be in providers' interest for TER's reviews to maintain some integrity. When they're too influenced by the subject of the review, there's no getting around it--they lose credibility and nobody gains.

that providers keep advancing even when we explain that it's about keeping reviews honest.

THAT is a red herring.  It just encourages a different kind of dishonest review.  Hiding your TER handle or posting an alias review is too often the refuge of someone with an ax to grind.

All that is needed to write honest reviews is the integrity to do so.

not all of us are as faultless as you. We live in the real world, not La La Land. Or maybe you have me pegged, and my sordid "real" motive has nothing to do with sharing candid intel with other mongers. LOL!

By the way, since you're the guy who recently urged a newbie NOT to write an honest review, because a highly rated provider might not like it, my compliments on your sudden change of heart.

your arguement is that you "assume" some large percentage of the reviewers on this site can't give an honest review if the provider knows their TER handle. I have no problem giving out my TER handle and I will write whatever I honestly feel about my experience with that provider. The only "right" answer to the original OP's question is to do whatever makes you comfortable. There is no right or wrong, just alot of opinions.

I can only think of 2 reasons why a hobbiest would have a problem with writing an accurate review of a provider if she had his TER handle:

1) She might withhold future services.
2) She might seek retribution.

If its number 1 and you wrote her a bad review, you obviously didn't enjoy yourself and shouldn't be planning on going back to see her. Also, even if you hide your handle and then write an accurate review, they can easily tell who it was anyway.

If your concerned with number 2, then by all means, keep it private. It's a legitmate concern if you're using your real info. I don't give out all my "real" private info and I'm not concerned that Homeland Security is going to invoke the Terrorism Act to track me down to make a misdemeanor bust that "might" get me a small fine and few months probation like the conspiracy theorists all over this board.

Anyway, if you feel more comfortable hiding your TER handle, than you should. I feel no need to do so. I don't believe because "more than one guy" who posted on this board (which probably constitutes 0.1% of the actual hobbiest population on TER) can't be honest with their reviews that it's a widespread epidemic.

To each their own.

I've been responding to the suggestion that there must be something wrong with what makes me comfortable. So, I'm glad you don't see it that way.

I don't think I'm assuming too much. I'm taking what many reviewers have posted and some have told me in PMs about why they felt their reviews needed to exclude anything that could be less than flattering. More than one guy has even posted that he emails his reviews to the provider for her approval before submission! Anything I'm inferring from all that is merely based on the same common sense principle that makes provider discounts in exchange for reviews frowned upon.

There seems to be a widespread belief that the purpose of reviews should be to promote providers. I think a lot of members just accept that without giving it much thought. I know I did somewhat at first, before a couple of disappointing experiences woke me up. The OP could be at a similar juncture. It hadn't occurred to him before that it could even be an issue. At any rate he asked, and I have to confess, I wouldn't hold my opinion if I didn't believe it was the right one. lol

and, it appears, missing the forest for the sake of analyzing the shit out of a few peripheral trees. I've already told the reasons why, and I never claimed to have conducted a compreshensive survey. lol

If your reading of reviews hasn't led you to think that grade inflation and one-dimensional gushing are too prevalent on TER, nothing I say will. Anyway, I'm not trying to persuade you, and since you're not a provider, it won't ever make a bit of difference to anyone if you think withholding our TER handles is weird or something.

If you don't recognize the concept of separation from undue influence, you'll never get it. Incidentally, you'll also be challenged to grasp the reason voting is done by private ballot and restaurant critics don't make reservations under their real name.

......without getting into the digressive thread on this too much. I'm surprised no one mentioned the possible benefit to hobbyists by providers (like myself) who use hobbyists reviews to understand their likes, dislikes, desires, wishes, turn-ons and turn-offs prior to meeting them for the first time. It's a wonderful way to provide a smooth, exciting, fulfilling and natural GFE experience...VC