I'm not sure if this should be on my regional board or here so hopefully I found the right place.  I should also probably put the disclaimer that I'm new to this.  My very first day was on the 11th of this month.  So please take it easy on me!

I guess my question is that when I decided to be a part of this I looked up all the acronyms and made decisions for myself about what I liked and was comfortable with and what I wasn't.  My list of No's are very, very, very short compared to my list of yes's.  

The two things that I'm really not okay with are Greek (ouch!!!!) and BBFS (ummmm how does this even exist in this world??!!!!??)

I met someone recently who seemed very, very agitated that I was not okay with those two things.  Especially bbfs.  He in return wrote a review about it and gave me pretty low scores.  I knew it wasn't the best visit I had had.  We never really rebounded after he asked a few times and I kept saying no.

I really do want to have fun here and make good friends.  I also want good reviews (duh!) and I try my very best whenever I meet someone new even if we don't really "click"

I guess this is really a two part question..

Part 1 - Is it a normal thing that is really going on so frequently that he just took it for granted that I would be okay with it?

Part 2 - When you look at a review are you going to read the whole thing and be able to judge "Hey, maybe it was just that person and because of what he was asking" or is it going to reflect bad on me that he gave me a 6?  Right now I only have 4 reviews.  1 6, 2 8's and 1 9.  Will people read all of the reviews or just the bad one?

I'm sorry this is long winded and kinda a lot.  I also hope no one thinks I'm trying to fuss or be a brat about a not so great review.

Thank you to anyone who takes the time to read this and offer their opinion!

No, BBFS happens but its not common and on TER a major taboo to boot. Greek is normal but much less than 50% of girls, so no worries there either.  And respecting limits is a foundation of the hobby world here.

If this guy mentions the lack of BBFS in his review, don't worry about it, it won't hurt you.  He will likely get blacklisted by lots of girls who don't want to get STD's, in fact.
If he doesn't, go to your regional board and call him out and state the reason for the problem

Your rules are your rules, period.  
After reading your reviews I personally would put more stock in the 3 better ones and discount somewhat the lower one.  Many providers don't allow Greek, and I haven't seen any ads that say they allow BBFS.  Don't let one pushy guy get to you.

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He is probably a reviewer who punishes providers who don't put out, with bad reviews. He mentions in the review you had no condoms that fit. Speaking for myself, I have 3 kinds of condoms in my apt so that can never be an excuse for expecting bbfs. Most girls also don't do greek. As long as you state that clearly on ur Ter profile or personal site. He has no right to be upset for something he knew very well you don't offer.  

My advice would be bury that review with good reviews. Just keep doing what you do. Sounds like he was the one with the problem, and not you.  

Bad reviews suck tho I feel your pain. Try to contact Ter about it. They may be able to do something.

looking at your reviews who he is.  Judging by his ratings, he's a pretty gruesome Gus kind of guy, so those who research properly won't hold his review against you.

Kudos to you for sticking up for what is right

Unfortunately dealing with men like him is part of the business, especially when you're newer (there is a sub-species of boundary pusher who specifically preys upon new girls).  

Was there something this guy did or said during pre-date correspondence, that gave you a clue ahead of time that he might be a less than ideal client? I always feel that if a guy is a headache before the appointment, he'll be a nightmare behind closed doors. I'm very attentive to little cues... even the slightest thing that feels 'wrong' might be a bellwether for larger issues down the road.

Screen, screen, screen... if you're not sure what type of vibe you're getting, ask him to tell you more about himself, and what type of experience he's seeking. If something feels not quite right, then listen to your gut and cancel. You don't owe him an explanation.  

I had a guy a bit like that over the wintertime. There was a point at which I could tell that he'd be a time hog (he'd booked 2 hours, but WAY overstayed the time, and even tried to push for a free overnight). In person, he did *mention* BBFS in a falsely casual way, kind of fishing to see my response... but, at least he didn't press for it (no, that is ABSOLUTELY not something that's normal or expected, although there are some ladies out there who offer it, very unwisely). Looking back, I should've cancelled when opening one of his pre-date emails made me roll my eyes and think about all the vodka I'd have to chug to put up with his a**. But, I just figured I could deal w/a self-important brat for a few hours, and I did kind of need a review (he left me a good one). But he shorted me $$ and wound up stressing me out a lot because I REALLY needed him gone so that I could get to sleep, etc. So the point is, if he seems like a pain before the date... DO sweat the small stuff, because pre-date he's actually on his best behavior... he'll likely worsen as soon as the door closes.  

As for whether the review will hurt you in the long run... it seems likely that it will get buried by good reviews, by the rate you're going It'll be on page 2 in no time at all And yes, most guys will disregard it if the rest of the reviews are overwhelmingly positive.

...web site that might "might" have made the guy think you offered anal (aka greek). The first after clicking Enter on your site has your name, your age, and your heritage. Callie Manos. 18. Greek. When I first looked at your site before reading your post my first thought was you do greek. After reading your post I looked at your entire site and understood that Greek was your heritage and that you don't engage in greek (anal intercourse). Possibly you could change the way you have that information at the top of your main page and somewhere have a statement that makes it clear in no uncertain terms that though you are Greek you don't engage in greek. I can assure you there are potential clients that won't read your site enough to be sure. It's something providers here often comment on.

Additionally I agree with the replies before mine that you shouldn't listen to those attempting to push your boundaries. If you don't want to offer a particular service don't.  

One other possibility is this client attempting to get services you don't offer may have been trying to take advantage of you because you're new thinking he could convince you it was the norm and you just didn't understand. Good for you for sticking to your limits.

This board (Newbie Board) is the place for these kinds of questions. Keep reading about keep asking.

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who offer to fly around the world to meet gentlemen from all countries.

Often, they learn foreign languages, including Greek, and list these languages in their websites making some clients think that they are referring to anal, rather than just indicating that they can speak the language

To decide what services you want to provide. This situation was not your fault at all. It's an unfortunate situation, but you will bounce back from it... There is no definite way to say how your reviews will be perceived. Just focus on moving forward in success and not having a repeat situation.  

Best Wishes -Abla

You did fine & do not worry about a "low" review.  You might want to be prepared in case anyone asks about it that 'the client requested unsafe services'.  Or 'services which were not on my menu.'  No more needs to be said.  
Everybody HERE knows that BBFS is around but is not a normal part of the provider world.  

Every provider has 'rules'...  boundries...  limits...  

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To answer both your questions from one client's view:

1. BBFS should never occur. Everyone knows that, and likely so does he (whomever he is) or he should. I have never had a girl offer it, and I would never ask for that, or even consider it if it was offered.  

2. When gentlemen check reviews, we will usually read all the reviews because we know that there are those few out there that may have their own agenda. Reviews give us an overall picture. I take most reviews I read with a grain of salt, especially if they are poorly articulated, or contain less than favorable ratings because something was not performed that the reviewer though should have been provided.

Thank you for posting, asking and getting some comments from us.

I will be in the DC area in mid September. maybe we can get together if you do outcalls.

It is a shame that happens. I feel like guys should be grateful to providers providing a wonderful service and respect a girl's rules. I am very new here (newer than you) but I read a lot of reviews and if I see one like that versus a bunch of other good/great ones, it says to me something is wrong with the reviewer and not the reviewee.

your site.

When you describe yourself you could say ". . . early 20's of Greek ancestry" or something similar.

a-holes and want to push your limits over the edge. Stick to your ground rules. I surely wouldn't want to knowingly see a provider who offers BBFS. The backdoor I could care less about; not my cup of tea.

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...a low grader.  Hobbyists who do their homework will look at his low score of you and then will check his other scores and see that's just how he grades.  And they will also take into account that he was asking for Greek and BBFS (he admits it in his review) and realize that may be why he gave you a slightly lower score.

Since it appears he banged her up the ass without a condom. Almost a guarantee for AIDS

Yep, keep various sizes. I've occasionally brought my own, just to make sure the right size was available. For large-ish, I recommend the relatively new Magnum Bareskin.