Newbie - FAQ

The key here is to understand not to project
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Or generalize from other experiences with women.

So now I will generalize. First off, providers are not looking at you the same way you look at them. This may be hard for you to get past, and you may for any number of reasons find you are uncomfortable with providers who are too pretty, too young, too small, if you consider yourself ugly, fat, old or whatever. But you need to keep in mind that this is your issue, not theirs. Of course, there are providers who would find each and every one of us ugly, fat, old, creepy guys undesirable for one reason or another, but that would be for their own reasons.

And then there is what others have said here - providers are not looking for Prince Charming, just a guy who will behave properly in some basic ways. Communicate clearly, arrive and leave on time, show a basic level of consideration (follow her rules, do not hurt her physically, respect her boundaries, etc.), be clean and smell good.

So, even if you find a provider who dislikes you for some reason, do not assume that it is because of how you look. More likely it is because you are not behaving well, in one way or another.

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Just an ugly newbie here wondering . . .

They care what's in the envelope.

Swim

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It's not only the envelope with me.  I have enough money to last me for a long time.

They care that you are clean, friendly, respectful.  Treat her right and you will have a good time with her.

Swim

Unless you have some type of physical disability that the lady should know prior to your session, just show up with your envelope (properly filled), clean and ready to enjoy the time of your life.

The gals (assuming you're seeing a well reviewed gal...which you should be since you're a newbie) have seen all types of guys.  And they are not terribly concerned if you aren't Brad Pitt (most guys are very very far from that).  Smile...be happy and enjoy yourself.

The hobby is not all that complicated.  And what you look like has virtually no effect on how MOST ladies will treat you.

Good luck and have at it :)

you'll never worry again about your looks

Instead I show up with enough of my pals named Ben Franklin that she completely forgets just how "not good looking" I am.

So far...no complaints. :)

brings me some money for the mall all is good!
If you're a very large man (physically) I recommend seeing a provider that can handle the weight...if need be.
See, guys like hot girls and girls like going to the mall...works out perfect!

Posted By: HeathersLuv4u
brings me some money for the mall all is good!
If you're a very large man (physically) I recommend seeing a provider that can handle the weight...if need be.
See, guys like hot girls and girls like going to the mall...works out perfect!
im 6'2" 280 is that too large?

You will find few will care. I was much lager than you and only had an issue twice once with a new provider that didn't last that long and once with a FBSM provider who's massage table had a 300lb weight limit. You likely will never have an issue. Enjoy.

Nope, sounds like a nice size man to me.
When I say large, I'm thinking of this ex boyfriend of mine that was a line backer....huge and solid.
Well, his weight deflated my left boob.
I'm not as shy as I used (thanks to being in this biz) to be so nowadays, I'd suggest changing positions or something vs sucking it up.
Point being, he shouldve held his weight off of me or or should've spoke up...my bad.

amount in the envelope and that you act like a gentleman at all times, including when contacting them.  I might have the order wrong or hopefully I didn't leave anything out.

From what I've learned from providers, the things they care most about are
1. You're respectful (i.e) you're not rude, or some sort of crazy stalker
2. You bring the correct amount of money.
3. You're discreet, and don't draw attention to yourself, or her when going to see her.
4. You're clean (i.e) go to the session, wearing clean clothes, droz & socks, brushed teeth, and hair comb or brushed. (when going to see a provider you should prepare yourself as if you're about to go on a date)

I would like to add, if you have some sort body disfigurement, which you know will raise eye-brows, it's best to let the provider know before you actually see her. That way if it's something thats really out of the ordinary it wont shock her, and she get be honest and let you know if she comfortable with that.

Posted By: magic4u
From what I've learned from providers, the things they care most about are
1. You're respectful (i.e) you're not rude, or some sort of crazy stalker
2. You bring the correct amount of money.
3. You're discreet, and don't draw attention to yourself, or her when going to see her.
4. You're clean (i.e) go to the session, wearing clean clothes, droz & socks, brushed teeth, and hair comb or brushed. (when going to see a provider you should prepare yourself as if you're about to go on a date)

The more mature, experienced, higher-end providers are prepared mentally to take all comers, almost regardless of appearance, as long as they are clean and respectful.

In reading reviews of some of the younger, less experienced, lower end ones, I've noticed great variability between reviewers.  Several might rate the providers performance as fantastic, then every 4th reviewer or so rates her as "she just laid there".  I'm guessing these are the providers that haven't learned to be a good geisha yet.

Posted By: alexkarelin16
Just an ugly newbie here wondering . . .

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I care more how they treat me and that makes them look handsome.  I've been with traditionally handsome men who were cold and distant.  I'd rather be with a man who is friendly.

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Top level providers care that you are safe to be with, have good hygiene, don't cause hassles for them, and count their fee right. I have and continue to see a provider that seems to be interested in looks. I have never had a problem in bed with her, some men have. Given that the provider is a young provider that clocks an 8 or 9 in looks and is upscale and ambitious, I suspect that looks and education matter greatly to her.

Or generalize from other experiences with women.

So now I will generalize. First off, providers are not looking at you the same way you look at them. This may be hard for you to get past, and you may for any number of reasons find you are uncomfortable with providers who are too pretty, too young, too small, if you consider yourself ugly, fat, old or whatever. But you need to keep in mind that this is your issue, not theirs. Of course, there are providers who would find each and every one of us ugly, fat, old, creepy guys undesirable for one reason or another, but that would be for their own reasons.

And then there is what others have said here - providers are not looking for Prince Charming, just a guy who will behave properly in some basic ways. Communicate clearly, arrive and leave on time, show a basic level of consideration (follow her rules, do not hurt her physically, respect her boundaries, etc.), be clean and smell good.

So, even if you find a provider who dislikes you for some reason, do not assume that it is because of how you look. More likely it is because you are not behaving well, in one way or another.

zig

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