It's really a question of whether or not you feel comfortable doing so or not.

If the gal in question had no review, or very few reviews, then I would probably balk at sending her my info.  On the other hand, if she has many good reviews, participates on the boards and I get good reports about her from other TER members I PM with, then I'm fine with it.

We each choose just how safe we want to be, and take the consequences.

Is it normal? That would depend.
If you do not belong to any verification services and don't have solid references, then yes. If you want to see an established provider under those circumstances then you will probably end up coughing up the info or bypassing her altogether.

Some providers are going to be more stringent then others. You may be able to find one within your comfort zone. If you don't feel comfortable giving out your personal info, don't do it.

To answer your last question. I had a provider that I wanted to see pretty badly some years ago. She was with an agency that was/is very well established. It was the only time I had ever forked out my personal info. Was it appropriate? I still don't think so, but it was necessary and opened a lot of doors for me.
I now have enough provider references to get  past screening. It has never failed me.

No, its not "weird" some ladies require that information for their comfort level. Meeting her in a public place is no substitute for screening information. Ted Bundy was a swell guy, and could certainly have made it through a lunch date with flying colors. Didn't make him safe to be behind closed doors with.

Every lady handles screening differently. Some do require the same level of information that was requested from you. Others do not. Just as her perogative is to ask for whatever information she feels she needs to be comfortable seeing you, it is your perogative to decide what information you are comfortable providing. If she wants more than you are willing to give, move on.

I tried to book a time to see an indie provider for a lunch date and she demanded my full identity and employment history via email prior to a lunch date in a public place.  I posted a question on TER asking if this was normal and I got a sort of typical response from one guy saying "screening methods are up to the lady."  No shit.  But I wanted to know if this is normal because most board postings go overboard about the importance of being careful in revealing too much detail.

When I posted a follow-up question to the post, (When would it ever be appropriate to provide full identity and employment history prior to a date?), my post was deleted.  I assume, but cannot be sure, that my post was deleted because I identified the provider in my post.

My question remains: Can anyone tell me, under what circumstances, it would EVER be appropriate to email someone you've never met your true identity and employment details prior to any sort of date or erotic service?

Another typical response.

The typical response to your previous post sounds correct, if perhaps not detailed enough. Screening methods are up to the lady, whether or not you're comfortable with whatever she asks for is up to you. If you haven't researched her well, read lots of reviews or heard lots of other clients say she's reliable and trustworthy, and/or it gives you the serious heebie jeebies to provide that info, then no, it wouldn't be appropriate. There are some shady people out there, and you do want to be cautious about your personal info. But if she's pretty well established as respectable and legitimate and sane, your info is *probably* ok in her hands.

Personally, I screen via full name and employment info if the gentleman doesn't have references. (And even when he does, I ask for his full name.) It's really the only way to screen a newbie other than through services like P411 (and lots of ladies -- myself included -- won't accept that from a newbie either).

There are thousands of providers out there, you can see that won't make you do all of that. Just find someone else for your "lunch date"

I would not send full identity info. under any circumstances. But that's me and I have white list references and have a board presence locally where I hobby so screening for me is usually easy.  There are way to many escorts who screen but do not ask for full identity. Hobby at your own comfort level. I also contact escorts using ter pm mail. It doesn't replace screening but usually comforts the lady when I'm contacting her for the first time. However when pm'ing a lady realize some will never check there mail

What's next?  Are you going to turn over the last 4 digits of your SSN if she asks?

The most you will get out of me is my real name..employment history is a real no no....

If you are new you may want to start with the verification service like 411, date check ect....

If you don't have a few references (usually indy) under your belt a lady will usually screen with employment info. A full name is required to do so since she needs to verify that you actually work there. There are very painless and discrete ways to do this. If the provider is well reviewed she is probably safe to give out personal info to. If the lady has no history- I wouldn't recommend it.