As background, I have been at this for over 15 years. I like to find ladies with whom I connect, and I then see my favorites regularly. It sounds like your are seeking regulars as well. I really think that you best approach is to be yourself as much as you can with everyone you see. This will certainly appeal to some more than others. You can't appeal to everyone, so why not try to appeal to those would find your "true" self more appealing? In the end, you are likely to accumulate regulars who are drawn to the persona that you portray in your sessions. From what I have heard from a number of ladies, the more that they can "be themselves", the less stressful and rewarding the work can be. A session where you have to be someone else to satisfy the client is harder to get up for and harder to maintain. Or so I have been told. Good luck.

Hello Ter

My name is Sasha Beauvais, call me Sasha. Im a newly independent sp part time
Doing my research on the providers and the hobbiests, Im trying to captivate the ultimate relationship a hobbyiest is looking to share with his sp.
1) Do you want your SP, to be the woman of your dreams, folding to your very wishes(Like a chameleon but in a very natural way?
2) Do you prefer an SP to be completely herself during the encounters?

Perhaps my questions above dont address the problem...If not, please let me know what your idea of a great repeat encounter is for you.

Thank you very much.

Sasha Beauvais xxooxxoo


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For me, the connection with the lady is important.  Feeling sexy and wanted makes the experience that much better. I am looking to "live the fantasy" and feel genuine about the experience.  After the fun, it is always a plus to get a glimpse of the lady that fulfilled the fantasy, spending that intimate moment to get to know her better will determine if I return.

Personally, I prefer it when the provider's natural personality works for the interaction. That said, there is no such thing as a perfect relationship. Therefore, a good provider (or any person in a relationship) can learn to read the situation and make some changes in their approach/behavior.

The relationship works best when these shifts aren't too great and fall within the provider's comfort zone...

OK, there it is... the real answer. It will be, and has to be, all you. The better providers are those who are more comfortable with a wide range of situations, people, behavior, etc.

protect their "off work" personnas...  it's none of MY business.   I think provider should form their "provider personna" that they are comfortable with.   If their personna is something they are not comfortable with they can never make it work long term.   As much as the guy might like to think we can ask for & get ANYTHING we want, clearly we can not.  There are rules & for good reason.  From both sides, we strive to get a good fit is all.

My Fav's are very much their own women... but what makes them MY Fav (short list) is that when we are together, they are the lover I always wanted & never quite found.   We have a good fit.  

At the end of the day, my Favs are such a good fit that we might choose to day dream (it's an illusion to be sure) that if we'd met under different circumstances, we might be real GF/BF.   While we are together I treat them as if they were & they do the same.  There are very few on my Favorites list.
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I prefer that a provider be herself as long as she has an agreeable personality. I don't care for divas or airheads.

Two other pieces of advice that I will give you is that you should learn how to dream with your eyes wide open and you should set aside time in each day strictly for yourself. To elaborate. Some hobbyists who you will see will be super hot, you would service them for free if you were not working. Other hobbyists will be toads in terms of looks, but have good hygiene and manners. Other hobbyists will be somewhere in between for looks. Be demanding about your own hygiene and that of your clients, there should be no unpleasant odors. But for looks, there should be no letdown in the level of service that you deliver to each and every client. Being with hot clients is easy, but when you are with those that are less appealing, dream that you are with the hottest lover you can think of. The hot lover may be a singer or actor, or actress that you have the hots for. In a sense, you satisfy all clients by wrapping up your service to them in your own fantasies, while looking at the clients.

Make time for yourself by planning break time in your work days. The time can be used to workout or to have a quite meal or read a book or walk in a public park or walk city streets and people watch.

hey gurl ive been doig this for a while now and all men want something diffrent. you just have to tune in to the vibs in the room with him pay close attenchan to his reactions to ur body  language small talk ect u will figer out quick what he wants it to be like just pay attention to the vibs he gives or once aquanted ask how do ya want to start this with a rub dwn or blah blah bla and u should cauch the vib

Dear hobbiests and provider

Thank you for your opinion. Grandly appreciated.
From what I can understand, a provider is
60% a provider the dream or what the client desires
40% is here own self.

I just want to make sure of the best way to make my clients happy

A provider is then a mix of dream and reality...cant go tooo far into fantasy can we.

See you,

Sasha