Hello all!

I'm brand spanking new to the hobby, but I've spent the last year running my own solo-girl paysite.  My site is, I think, doing pretty well but I don't expect to see any kind of profit for another year at least and things are getting pretty tight financially.

Since I a) have always had a longing to try providing and b) have more of a sex drive than dh can keep up with, it seems to me that branching out into a more "hands on" area of the adult industry would be a good idea.

I have been lurking around TER for a while, read all the newbie links, and gotten through a fair amount of the postings in this board (but dang there's a lot of them, aren't there?), and now I have some questions.  Please bear with me if I'm repeating anything that has been discussed ad nauseum.

OK, question number one.  I'm interested in doing a quite low volume of business, at least to start.  (If it turns out I really love this, who knows?)  I'm talking 2-15 dates a *month*.  With this in mind, might I be best off seeking employment with a reputable agency?  Or do agencies insist that their ladies be available a lot more than that?  Related to this, my schedule is very flexible in that I can make appointments for any time or day, but limited in that I will have lots of other obligations, and probably have a hard time keeping to any set schedule (no 9-5 for me).  It's also usually a lot better for me to have at least a couple days notice of any appointments.  Is this the kind of thing an agency works happily with, or am I better off going at it as an independent?  

Also related to this, I am a bbw, and I have yet to find a bbw provider on any agency website in my area (Tampa Bay FL).  Do they generally accept only the more mainstream body types?

Next question, if I do decide to make my way as an independent, can anybody advise me as to how to handle the location issue?  I certainly could not bring clients home, and renting an apt. seems overboard considering the low volume I am aiming at.  Not to mention the fact that I do NOT want another place to clean, lol!  But it seems like the guys prefer incalls.  How might I handle a situation where the gent wants me to provide the location?  Also, how likely is it that I could find my desired level of business while being outcall-only?

OK, this next question is for the more experienced ladies, and that is: how much do YOU actually worry about keeping Mr. Johnson covered for everything?  Like BJ...it would take 3/4 of the fun out of it for me if I had to put a hat on for that.  Obviously, I would insist on protection for other activites, but my inclination (especially if I keep the volume low) is to be pretty free with the stuff that carries a "theoretical" risk.  What do you do?

And related to that, I've been nearly monogamous (except for a couple of playtimes with girlfriends) for going on ten years.  The last time I was tested for anything was when I was last preggers, 5 yrs ago, and I was squeaky clean then.  Should I get tested again before I start making dates?

My apologies if that last bit was a little too explicit, which brings me to my next question...how the heck do we communicate anything to the gents about the sorts of things we are likely to indugle in if we cant even be euphemistic?  Like if I REALLY enjoy a certain activity that I know is popular with the gents, but only at particular times of the month (and probably not on a first date), how can I get that across?  Is it just better to never discuss these things until you're already in bed together and you're confident it's not a sting?  Do you not discuss them even then?  Have I said too much already?

And my final question...if I show up to my first date with a bottle of wine, is the guy going to think I'm a lush, or will he understand I'm a nervous newbie?  :-p






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Sounds like the best way for you is to go Independent.  You have control over everything: location, number of clients, schedule, etc.

Fairly decent hotels are good for incall.  You could try advertising on your local TER board when you feel like doing an incall.

A provider can help you with more, but you can try using some of the abbreviations to communicate what you are willing to do on your dates, or ask one of your hobbyists to post a review.

Family guys hobby during the week, single guys prefer weekends.

You probably shouldn't show up with alcohol for outcall, but some of my providers like to see if their hobbyist is willing to drink alcohol during incall to make sure he's not LE and because it makes for a nice time.

Hope this helps!  You're exactly the type of woman I'd like to see if I had a legit excuse to go to Tampa.

As you can tell by the name, I'm not a provider and most of your questions are better answered by others however I see no harm with getting tested before you start for your own conscience's sake and also so that, in case you ever do get infected, you have a starting point by which to trace it back. IOW, if you are clean on x/x/06, you will know it was somebody you saw after x/x/06 that is the carrier - not an old boyfriend, etc.

The Florida board here seems to have heavy Tampa area participation so I think they might be able to give you some insight on whether the local agencies are trustworthy. From what I gather, the agency takes a portion of your donations and probably expects a certain amount of churn in order to promote you. Therefore, to meet your financial goals, you will have to do more jobs for an agency than you would as an indy.

Good luck.

I'd definitely say that you should go the "independent" route.  Get a website (doesn't have to be expensive, and rare-escort.com is acceptable), and do your own thing.  

As far as incall/outcall, I'd rely on decent hotels in your area, but emphasize outcall -- you might offer a discounted rate for outcall vs. incall, perhaps.  You might also see if you can get a good rate through AAA or some of the hotel websites; I'm sure many providers have their favorites.  If you get on good terms with another area provider, you might consider going in on renting an apartment together, but you'd need to be very careful about explicitly laying out the terms beforehand to avoid money misunderstandings and schedule conflicts.

I'd recommend getting a regular, thorough checkup for STDs just in case -- some things can be passed without obvious symptoms, or without someone even knowing.  

About being explicit and euphemistic -- once you start getting reviews, that should take care of itself.  Some websites will let you list a menu of things you enjoy, but that might not be something you're comfortable with, especially if it's atypical for your area.  In Dallas, for instance, it's practically a rule for a lady to have a listing on her website of where on her body you can cum, and which orifices you're allowed to penetrate; in other cities, that level of frankness would lead to rapid LE attention.  Go by what other providers in your area are doing.  If "Tiffany, Tampa's Anal Gangbang Queen" hasn't gotten busted in her five years of providing, that should tell you something right there.

About your last question -- I wouldn't recommend that you show up with alcohol on a date without letting the guy know beforehand.  If you mention it, and he says "Oh, I'd love a nice Cabernet", you're home free; otherwise, he might indeed worry that you're going to get out of hand.

Hi Cherie,
Your situation sounds as though the indy route may be best suited for you. However every agency is different. If you interview be firm with your intent in relation to volume. DO NOT work with anyone who dictates your schedule, hours, volume. I was once in your shoes and found the agency pushed after a bit of time for more and more. Advertising, if the agency pays for your accom. and travel may influence this. My suggestion would be to make a few calls and if you find an agency you are comfortable with give a few days of hands on. This way you do not invest financially until you know this is for you. That statement is ONLY if you find a straightshooter in an agency. Trust your instincts always. If you enjoy the fun and the agency starts to push you will then have a little extra $ for your indy startup. Either way insist on your personal respect.
 As far as STD testing, yes may be a good idea, only takes a few minutes on the exam table as you know. Your health is always #1.
 Covering Mr.Pickle is your personal choice. Always have the appropriate supplies avail. Pick your favorite color and sometimes flavor! Smile! I personally chose not to cover throughout just at that right moment-need your imagination here. Every women I work with is different, your choice, your health.
I hope this is helpful and good luck, have fun and stay safe.

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OMG.....someone stole my alias!

*grin*

So when are you touring to DC/Baltimore, hmmm?

LOL If I ever do a tour, Baltimore is on the list of "must see" cities already

it's only 8 hours drive from Topeka and it's a straight shot north.