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manypoppins 2 Reviews 1292 reads
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I'll try to relax, just needed some confirmation that I should stop worrying already. :)

manypoppins2255 reads

So it was only last week that I discovered TER and started looking at reviews. I had no idea about this whole world until I read something about escort reviews on a blog and did a search for reviews in my city. Fast forward a week, and after reading the reviews, boards, FAQs, etc., I have my first appointment scheduled for next week with a well reviewed newbie friendly provider. :) The first provider I contacted blew me off, but the second one has been very friendly and accommodating without being sloppy with screening.

I have a couple of quick questions that I don't think I've really seen discussed much. I'll shower right before seeing the provider, but I want to be respectful and shower at her place so she knows I'm clean. Am I supposed to wait for her to ask, or do I need to ask? I'm not sure how the flow of these visits go, especially since she knows it's my first time and I guess she'll spend extra time making me relax.

Second, what kind of stuff do you talk about with a provider? I'm sure it varies, but where in the spectrum of whipping out pictures of the wife and kids and talking about the weather does the conversations typically lie? I'm curious what to expect since I have a two hour session planned and expect some downtime. (Hopefully recovery time, not curled up in the fetal position with a limp noodle.) I wouldn't want to cross any lines and of course wouldn't ask about other clients etc., but don't know if/when to restrain myself from revealing too much on my end. I'd like to be friendly, but not stupid or careless.

Sorry if these are stupid questions, but I hope you can put a newbie's fears to rest. I'm trying to think rationally about it and I know I'm going to an experienced lady that will take care of me, but you know what it's like. On the one hand I can't wait for BBBJCIMWS (haven't had one in ten years), on the other hand I'm scared sh*tless because it's a completely new experience.

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mattradd1378 reads

First, I wouldn't be hesitant to ask if you can use her shower. I haven't had anyone refuse me yet. If you like the sort of thing, you can even ask if she'll join you. Often that's where the fun can start. I tend to repeat with only those who will.

Second, don't think too, much about talking and what you're going to say. Probably stick to business until you fill your first cup. Then, maybe some small talk, but do not ask personal questions about herself (her name, where she lives, etc.), her family, or her business. If you want something fairly safe, ask her where she's traveled or would like to travel to, and then see if there's any overlap in where you've been or where you would like to go.

Go luck. Yep! You'll be nervous, but most of these ladies are very good at putting you mind at ease.

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keystonekid919 reads

Just think of it like you would a civie date.  The only differences are you may want to shower when you arrive, you put an envelope down, and you know that you will score.

Relax and enjoy; just go with the flow.

Some things you don't talk about are money, how many guys she has seen this day or week, what is your real name, or why is a nice girl like you doing this?, etc.

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Gfehunting1167 reads

Keep in mind, the time you might be in the shower could be held against you. If you are clean, shaven, and smell good, theres no reason to shower for the provider just to prove to her you are clean and fresh.

Second note. Why do you have 2 hours booked with a provider you have never met? I rarely ever schedule a 2 hour with a provider. We may just not have good chemistry.

Third note, you mentioned well reviewed, than you say newbie provider? How is she a "noobie" provider if she is well reviewed? Maybe you can clear that up for us.

Lastly, the conversation will flow. If she is experienced, she will take control of the conversation and it will flow until second round is up on the table.

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manypoppins1136 reads

She's newbie friendly, not a newbie. :) She has good reviews that go back several years.

I agonized about the appointment length. I looked through the threads and found a couple of people recommended at least 90 minutes for the first time. I'm worried about it being a long 2 hours if something goes wrong, but if I'd gone with an hour I'd worry about feeling rushed and possibly leading to more performance anxiety. I don't know if I made the right choice, but I guess we'll see what happens.

Thanks all for the tips. I know better than to ask about other clients and things like that. I'm a little curious if she'll start asking about my motivation for seeing her, that kind of stuff.

I think I'll just follow her lead on everything, just trying to get a feel for what to expect.

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hiddenhills1262 reads

Relax, enjoy your two hours. It's p4p, she's there to please you. Be respectful of her privacy, hopefully you'll have the time of your life!

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manypoppins1293 reads

I'll try to relax, just needed some confirmation that I should stop worrying already. :)

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hound_dog691454 reads

Just ask about freshening up when you arrive. With two hours, the time lost to a quick scrub of the front and rear won't take much of your time.

Don't over-think the rest as mentioned... You have the right sense of what should or shouldn't be discussed.

Good topics to steer to are (not politics or religion, unless you know them well) things like movies, travel, food, hobbies, etc. Current events are OK, but refer back to politics and religion.

Questions about the hobby such as getting screened and some  others can be OK, and helpful for your information. Just remember, all ladies are different on some of these points.

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shudaknownbetter1578 reads

Hi,
When I was a Newbie, a few short years ago...  I wanted & needed more than a single hour.  Now, I usually schedule for just one.  There's nothing wrong with scheduling 2 hours to get your feet wet.  You do not have to stay the whole time if you do not want to.  The longer time will give you time to relax & go at your own pace.  

I would ask to use the shower IF I'd not had one in the previous hour.  You could get by with just a light clean up if less than an hour.  Since you have plenty of time, go ahead & shower on arrival.  Be sure to wash & rinse well, in front & in back.  Your hands also...  

Usually not a lot of talking at first...  We usually greet with a hug & a quick kiss...  things progress rapidly from there.  

For longer dates we lie together & chat & touch until something gets going.  

Place the donation (per her ad or web site) as soon as possible after arrival.  Try to make it smooth.  Never directly look at it again.  She may move it or check it while you are in the bathroom...  or not.  

Best Wishes,
skb

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