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cumberlandblues 8 Reviews 445 reads
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I'm certainly not giving up but hell... c'mon ladies! lol.  

I can certainly understand their hesitation.  Providers have to have balls of steel to walk into a hotel room or have a stranger come to their home and do some pretty outrageous (but oh so heavenly!!!!) things to unknown men, and of course always have to be on the lookout for the LE, etc etc.

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So I set up something with a provider a few weeks ago.  I text her about 2 hours before to ask where is the starting point because she is over on the far side of town and with traffic it takes a while to get there.  Ok, I guess she's working, she'll call me back.  I got to the general location where I expected her to be, she didn't pick up and I went home empty handed.  

Last week I set a date for today, 6 p.m.  I just now got an email she is cancelling because she just looked at my TER account and realized I'm not white listed and so she can't see me.  

I thought the ladies are to screen and when they screened me, only then do they agree to a date?  

I've spent many hours on this website, I have a good feel for what I should and should not do.  I am respectful, and I appreciate what they do and I'm not looking for anything out of the ordinary.  But maybe it's just my personality that is a red flag....  I don't know.  I thought once the date is set, they screened me and we are good to go?

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inicky46516 reads

First of all for canceling after she had plenty of time to screen you and turn you down before you left.  Second, while a gal can pick any reason not to see you, it's highly unusual to reject someone for lack of a whitelisting.  Most gals don't use whitelistings for screening purposes, and prefer references from other providers or OKs on P411 and Date-Check.

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saturnsky490 reads

1. If there was a reference check from a couple of ladies and one came in later than sooner and it was not a good one, she is hardly going to throw another provider under the bus. I have had that happen and once I heard one ladies tale of woe (the guy obviously changed his behavior for the worst) I cancelled but made up some other reason.

2. You will never know what trips that trigger to not see a guy. It may not seem reasonable . but rarely does a woman's intuition make sense to a guy..;)

4. It could have been something the OP said in an email that may have been innocuous to him but scared her off.

5. Her bad...she had a better offer from a regular guy and took it over the OP.

6. She decided not to work that day and blew him off, again very bad business practice.

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It sounds like she didn't screen you before she agreed to see you. Maybe she did some screening but was going to make the white list the clincher. She should have done that before she agreed to see you. Your expectation that the provider has screened you before the date is accepted is correct.

Cancellations do happen but in this case she "just didn't do right".

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hiddenhills503 reads

It happens to everyone. I just went thru a spirt of, last minute cancellations myself. Excuses were "Aunt Flo came to visit", "I've never done this, but have a family emergency" and the third was just a disappearing act, all by reviewed providers. I've yet to re book with any of them. That's why I don't give any personal info during screening. Of course I've got a few TER white list references and I belong to P411 with ok's.  As a newb, I can imagine how you feel, but trust me when I tell you this happens to everyone. I'll give the same advice the previous poster mentioned, don't give up.

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Posted By: cumberlandblues
So I set up something with a provider a few weeks ago.  I text her about 2 hours before to ask where is the starting point because she is over on the far side of town and with traffic it takes a while to get there.  Ok, I guess she's working, she'll call me back.  I got to the general location where I expected her to be, she didn't pick up and I went home empty handed.  

Last week I set a date for today, 6 p.m.  I just now got an email she is cancelling because she just looked at my TER account and realized I'm not white listed and so she can't see me.  

I thought the ladies are to screen and when they screened me, only then do they agree to a date?  

I've spent many hours on this website, I have a good feel for what I should and should not do.  I am respectful, and I appreciate what they do and I'm not looking for anything out of the ordinary.  But maybe it's just my personality that is a red flag....  I don't know.  I thought once the date is set, they screened me and we are good to go?  

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cumberlandblues446 reads

I'm certainly not giving up but hell... c'mon ladies! lol.  

I can certainly understand their hesitation.  Providers have to have balls of steel to walk into a hotel room or have a stranger come to their home and do some pretty outrageous (but oh so heavenly!!!!) things to unknown men, and of course always have to be on the lookout for the LE, etc etc.

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