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Testing is a very sensitive topic and typically understood...
palomamontecarlo See my TER Reviews 566 reads
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That obviously we test regularly to ensure our well being however, if this is mentioned at some point during the screening process it certainly becomes a red flag for us. Responsible providers are quite aware of the safety practices required in this industry and we follow them to the T, reason why bringing up testing is a no no and can lead to the misinterpretation that you will request BBFS at some point specially if you volunteer to bring yours as well and pay for her. I a firm believer that providers are not the vectors of disease, generally, civilian population tend to engage into unprotected activities in a higher number so I would be more inclined to see a provider without question.

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What's proper etiquette on discussing testing or asking a provider about it?  I know some providers volunteer on their profiles that they get checked regularly.  I had some specific questions about it.  

-Is it acceptable to request to see her health screen?  What if you offer to bring yours as well?  
-Would it be OK to insist on her getting tested right before she sees you if you offer to cover the cost?  I know this is probably out there but I still want to ask.
-If she says she tests on a regular basis; say, once a month; would it be OK to request to be the first date she has after she tests if you agree to tip extra?  

I know these would be sensitive questions, which is why it seems offering extra tipping or offering to do the same would lessen their roughness.  It seems like it would be OK to put it gently and say something like "Safety is really important to me and if you were willing to get a test right before seeing me I'd cover it.  I'd be happy to do the same for you as well if you want."  Or am I wrong?  Thanks.

That obviously we test regularly to ensure our well being however, if this is mentioned at some point during the screening process it certainly becomes a red flag for us. Responsible providers are quite aware of the safety practices required in this industry and we follow them to the T, reason why bringing up testing is a no no and can lead to the misinterpretation that you will request BBFS at some point specially if you volunteer to bring yours as well and pay for her. I a firm believer that providers are not the vectors of disease, generally, civilian population tend to engage into unprotected activities in a higher number so I would be more inclined to see a provider without question.

The fact of the matter is, STD spread through providers is very rare.

I have seen well over 100 gals over almost 40 years and NEVER got a STD from them.  (Civie gals, that's another story.)

So, either decide you can accept the very small risk, or abandon the hobby if you can' feel comfortable with it.

If you really want to see a certain provider, follow Paloma's advice.  Otherwise, your chances are pretty slim.

Swim

Is that you are putting entirely too much faith in the hope that women who do something illegal for a living will be "honest" with you.  You want to tip a girl extra to show you her test results? MAYBE that will happen but most girls will hang up on you when you ask the question to begin with.  Lets say you find one and she promises to get tested and see no one else while she is waiting for the test results and then see you as soon as she gets the results.  Do you honestly plan to take her word for this?  

The hobby has risks.  They can be minimized but they can not be eliminated.   That is a reality that you have to accept going in.  Trying to get these girls to show you their test results will make you a very lonely hobbyist.

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