I am a newbie too, and I feel tremendous guilt AFTER I unload. But before I get there, I am very horny and can't wait. I think you are thinking too much.  Treat the provider as if she were your girlfriend, and fantasize the situation.  Think of it this way... she is willing to do this for a living, and she is actually helping you. I'm sure most of their clients are married, so that's a given.  I actually wouldn't see a provider if I were single.  I'd just do one-nighters with different women every couple of weeks.

I don't think you should worry too much about what she thinks of you and you've already diagnosed the problem as being yourself sabotaging what should be a good time. Sounds like you might have a slight case of the guilts. What you might need to concentrate on is the other person in the room with you and try to clear your head  for the time you're there. She's treating you like you're her boyfriend. Reciprocate and treat her like she's your girlfriend. There's plenty of time to feel guilty or worry about what she thinks of you afterwards. Easy to say, difficult to do. Just some thoughts. Good luck.

NM

I had a similar experience once. I was thinking about it too much and it started to block me from finishing. But then I just tried to relax and started to think about how much I really wanted to do this, and finished with no problem. In a way...I was glad it took a little longer because I didn't want to look like a loser who lasted only 30 seconds. But it's all mental. Just try to think positive.

If you have such problems you may not be that hungry to have fun. Take a break for a while.

I suggest that you when you are about ready to complete. Turn the provider over on her stomach. Do her doggie style and change the variation of the angle and the speed from slow to fast. If you do things right and get your balls to her her butt properly you will cum everytime. You can also have to provider place a pillow under her stomach, it can do wonders sometimes. If you do the provider properly sometimes she will shake violently. Give her a chance to squeeze your rod when it is all the way in.

The other thing is use of the proper lubricant. Astro glide is pretty good. ALso if you you are hitting it pretty hard, make sure to change  prophylactics between positions. I find that Trojan very sensitive are the best. Stay away from Nonoxly-9 prophylactics, the lubcrant is the worst.

It could also be your diet, possible lack of water, and lack of exercise. Protein is very important. In the morning with your breakfast everyday, eat a tuna fish sandwich. Take zinc tablets after you eat your breakfast. Zinc helps in cum production. Make sure that you have a good lunch with some protein. A dinner with some grilled salmon is great. I find that steak is better for the day after.

I would expect that one of the things that could help is finding the right Lady to start with.  They are not all the same by any stretch.

Where are you? (generally)

Had the same issues when I started and figured I needed some outside forces to assist me.  My symptoms were identical to yours along with your age.

I haven't used condoms for 20 years (with SO and no hobby) and found that they were killing a lot of sensitivity for me.  So, even after I was hard, it was difficult staying that way when I couldn’t feel much.  So, I reviewed several condoms and found the right one for me.

Then I tried to overcome the thinking with the wrong head issue. I never needed Viagra before, but thought I'd try it.  I ordered on one of those Spam sites and had a blast to say the least.   Be careful though.  First I tried the 100mg whole and every time I felt a shift in the pants it got hard.  This went on for 2 days.  Cut the pill in half and it’s fun all day long.

So I tried this recipe with very successful results.
I start with 1 50 mg Viagra and use only Inspiral Condoms.

Even though I didn’t need the Viagra with my SO, the unnecessary thinking activities totally weren’t a problem while hobbying while using it.

The Inspirals made me feel like I didn't have anything on at all. This freaked me out a couple times and later tried others with little success.  So, stick with what works for you.

Ease yourself off the Viagra once you’ve calmed down and find some gals your comfortable with and your off to the races.

$.02

I sometimes have similar problems: erection is easy, orgasm is not.  So even if I can't give you a solution that works for you, I can tell you that you're not alone in this.  The problem only seems to come up with providers, and interestingly, with a married lady who was cheating with me.  It's obviously psychological.

IMHO, the best approach is to try to buy into the fantasy: You're not cheating on anyone, and she's not doing this as a job.  The two of you are doing this because you were both overwhelmed by lust.

You may also want to try buying into an even deeper fantasy to appeal directly to underlying machinery and a billion years of history: imagine the condom isn't there.  You're not having sex as recreation; you're trying to impregnate.  This attitude really puts your mind on the back burner, and to such an animal, the very concepts of cheating or anything else outside that little room, is meaningless.

Also, there are certain aspects of these types of meetings that are unnatural and therefore, I think, may be interfering with the process because they belie the illusion.  Mainly it comes down to the lack of initial flirting and the shortening of foreplay.  I'm thinking of trying out a "dinner date" type arrangement.  More expensive, but maybe it'll help me fool myself into thinking everything is "normal."

Re:Orgasm Block... A Newbie Problem? Need Advice

It sounds like you think too much. I'm merely looking for a fun time when I'm with a provider and most providers are more than willing to please. You might consider setting up a physical with a doctor just for peace of mind. Otherwise, just sit back and enjoy the ride.