Maybe the answer will be that you are "simply shocked to find out that there is gambling going on in this establishment", but here goes anyway.
After reading a number of reviews, I am pretty surprised at the frequency of DATY. Not to be jaded, but why pay to be on the giving end? It was only a few minutes before someone else's Johnson was in that site. Doesn't that bother any of you guys? To that point, what's with all the DFKing as well. Another guy has just shot his wad in there , maybe only a few moments ago, and you are licking it out?
Maybe I am missing something, or maybe it is only a vocal minority that is engaging in all of this.
Absolutely no disrespect intended toward any of the ladies. They are the paid professionals making their own informed choices. It's some of the guy behavior I am not quite getting.
don't do those activities. But if those make you uncomfortable how does putting your own woody in a well-used site make you any LESS uncomfortable?
Splurge for upscale provider and it may be days.
When you are with any woman... civie or pro... you've got to block out her past just as she blocks out yours. If you can't get your head into it, maybe this hobby is not for you. No harm, no foul.
I have a few Favorite ladies but when we are together the world beyond our bubble ceases to exist.
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Well, you may not have intended any disrespect toward us, but you clearly have some misconceptions about hobbying.
1. Why DATY? Why not. Its his dime, he's paying to spend an hour with us doing what he loves to do. If a gent happens to love DATY, then that's what he's going to do.
2. Someone else was there only minutes ago? Only if you are scraping the bottom of the barrel, seeing women who cram one appointment after another as fast as she can book them. The "Take-A-Number" stand outside her door will usually tip you off to this business model though. Failing that, select ladies who's rates are mid to high range.
3. Some guy just shot his wad in there? Probably not. Few women allow CIM, and I'm pretty sure any woman that does is smart enough to rinse her mouth out. Never tasted spooge have you? Not a flavor a lady wants hanging around indefinitely.
4. Don't worry about what other guys do or don't do. The reviews they write are a reflection of their tastes, and preferences, not a standard that all hobbyists need to follow. Do what is comfortable for you, and refrain from whatever you feel is unsafe. Many men love to DATY, but not all, and a lady isn't going to feel slighted if you prefer not to. Same goes with kissing. If you don't want to kiss her, don't kiss her. Its your money, and your experience, so enjoy it as you see fit.
are you planning on making sure any lady you see has not allowed any of those activities prior to YOUR session. If so, good luck in this game. What makes this game so GREAT, is that each player (on both sides of the envelope) enjoy certain activities. Based on your post you only enjoy certain types of activity, and you are more than entitled to that. But honestly, this is P4P, and if any of those other activities bothers you (and obviously they do, hence your commentary), you would be very well served to find a nice virgin who no one has defiled.
FWIW, I approach each session with each lady in similar manners. That being, she has showered and cleaned herself up from my predecessor. As well, I have done the same. If you can't deal with that, this is not the game for you.
I feel that the trick is to find a woman who prices herself sufficiently high so that she only gets, perhaps, two or three calls a week, maybe even only one call a week.
As for what *WE* do with our time? Well, I think recipricating the effort for a lady that you enjoy spending time with cannot hurt your experience in the least. I also feel that the odds of coming across her last Beau's DNA is minimal at best. While some women may enjoy the taste of DNA, I doubt they would be twisted enough to mix it with your DNA, and the ones that do not, probably wash it down with a glass of that wine I like to bring with me (which is why I bring some with me!)
As for risk, well, if you want something without risk, I suggest you start collecting coins. The Danbury Mint and the United States Mint would both appreciate your time and money.
As for what happens between us, her room is like Vegas baby! What happens in there, generally stays in there. Oh sure, I'll write up a nice little review for you, and it's probably mostly accurate - but keep in mind TER views them as "fiction" anyway. It's one of the reasons I don't even read the reviews, unless I'm in a "Penthouse Article" mood that day.
Honestly, the only data I take as legit are all those drop down boxes you have to fill out when you write a review. Everything else is subjective and even then, a lot of it may be done only with that one client, I may not even get to have that fun! Then again, perhaps there is a companion out there that is giving me a little extra effort and the rest of you are not getting that mileage, eh? lol.
Specifically speaking, if YOU have a problem engaging in a specific activity with a hired girl, then YOU may choose not to engage in it. As for ME, I choose to engage in a lot of things I probably would not have when I was 20. Just keep in mind, you may actually be safer engaging in those activities with a woman who gets herself checked by the doctor periodically than with a civilian who thinks she's bulletproof.
Now, as for 20 year olds...well now, there's a can of worms we better let lay. I can just picture how some of the clients think about the youngings...so glad I'm "middle" aged (defined as over 30 but under 70. How's THAT for a definition! Screw the hill, I'm digging a tunnel!)
"It is more blessed to give than to receive."
Seriously, I can remember my first time doing DATY, and I got so horny from that, I came on her ankles.
Seriously, I can remember my first time doing DATY, and I got so horny from that, I came on her ankles.
We all find what we're comfortable with, or not. We all find what we're comfortable pretending does/doesn't happen, or not.
If not, then move on. There's nothing to see here.
I don't think this hobby is for you. BTW, helluva first post! You should lurk on the boards, before you post. You might want to read the self help center before your next post. Also check the Erotic Highway board. The LG has discussed ad nauseum your concerns. Good luck
Wow...why are you even in this hobby?
So it bothers you to DFK or DATY but not to have intercourse with a chick? As others have said, if you seek a higher end provider then no, "It was only a few minutes before someone else's Johnson was in that site" MINUTES??? yeah, stop seeing street walkers. As with DFK and DATY is more a GFE thing. Looks like you're looking for a "wham-bam-thankyou-m'am" type girl. I mean pleasing the girl should not be your main objective, but it's still an objective. Trust me, you please a girl and she'll go to more lengths to make sure you are pleased.... Also you're gonna have a hard time finding high end providers who just want to get right to it...I mean why pay 300 for it when you can pay a chick 50 and get it?(your logic...not mine)
A Good high end provider will shower in between clients and wash out any "wads" anywhere. Not to mention high end providers won't book more than 2-3guys per day. I consider myself midgrade and I see about 1 client per day. Maybe 2 every once in awhile. I also take days off at a time.
I think you need to find a new hobby
I have to agree totally with this analysis. One of the main reasons for engaging in this hobby is to deal with women who have become completely comfortable with their sexuality and sensuality, who know how to enjoy what a man is doing to them, as well as they enjoy pleasing a man. This is quite a bit different from the civvie types who often have more baggage than an airlines at Thanksgiving. For me, DATY is the appetizer before the main course, but like a good appetizer, I like to engage it in when changing positions and to allow the sensitivity subside to prolong the pleasure. I agree, this individual needs to find a new pursuit
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