Really good advice, as always, from MrF (not about the Red Sox part, though).  I recently had my first experience with a provider in many years.  I joined p411 but had no references.  At first, the provider said she couldn't see me without them but she was very helpful in suggesting other providers she knew who might.  I was friendly and grateful in my replies and she continued to help.  Then, having gotten to know me better, she decided she'd see me.  I won't divulge her name because it would piss off others who've been turned down by her for not having references, and she's a long-time provider known as being a rigorous screener.  In the end we both had a great time.