OK, she knows who you are.  You also know who she is.  I don't see a scenario where she is going to do anything stupid. Are you?

I would recommend you don't see her again.  You are clearly too freaked out to enjoy yourself with her.  This sort of thing is going to happen if you see local girls.  I've seen providers in restaurants and shopping malls on more than one occasion. I even walked right past one with my ex wife a few years ago.  She said nothing.  No intelligent woman will.

She's not "the other woman".  She's an escort.  Escorts don't make a living by outing their clients.

I started hobbying a year ago and have seen a dozen or so local providers and the thought of running into one of them at the mall or grocery store have came up but never occurred till yesterday. I went to a kid's birthday party with the wife and son at one of those jumping house places and I saw a very familiar face that made my heart double it's speed. She wasn't in make up, had jeans on, and t-shirt instead of the sexy lingerie but I definitely recongnize her.  I tried avoiding eye contact or look her way but apparently the wife knows her. The wife introduces her as a mom who's son's name is very familiar to me as a kid in the same soccer league team as my son. Unfortunately, I had visited her four times professionally so I know she recognized me. Now, she knows my real name, my family, and what I do. Now I know her real name and that she is a single mom. I feel like a stupid fuck for repeating with local providers. It was the longest 3 hours of my life. Any advise? Do I contact her to make sure she doesn't say anything or just let it be?

I would think you have little to worry about.  She doesn't want her doings exposed anymore than you do.  My advice is to just keep your mouth shut, she will probably do the same.  You are under no obligation to ever see her professionally again, so just move on.  If you contact her to make sure she keeps quiet, that will only serve to let her think you don't trust her, and thus, she may not trust you to stay quiet.

Best left alone unless, of course, you decide to see her professionally again.  If you do, I think it likely you will both have a laugh about the situation.  I'm sure the chance non-professional encounter was just as much of a shock to her as it was to you.

Swim

Thanks Swim. Unlike my usual self, I kept to myself and didn't socialize and kept a low key. As we were leaving the party, my wife and son went to say good bye to her and other parents, I was just relieved the party was over.

I do try to hobby out of my immediate suppoundings but it's always possible to bump into someone during ordinary activities.  One should mentally be prepared, that should that happen you give no outward sign of recognition.  Say you pass in the grocery store or mall, a slight nod ofthe head as you pass as you would to any non-hostile stranger.   Neither of you can be sure who the other is with or that you might be over heard.
SHE has as much reason as you to not want to be outted!   Whether you are comfortable or not seeing her again is up to you.   You might see her again at games or practice & you will have to continue to keep your collective cools.  I wonder what she thinks of it.  A secret affair is very HOT!!   But can get messy too.  
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I'm sure she felt as mortified as you did.  Let it go as I'm sure she will be smart enough to do the same.  I've had rare occasions of running into local clients and I just ignore them and get on with my day. If/when I see them again, we can talk about it.

Ever heard the term you don't shit in your own backyard?

Oh and here's another piece of news, WOMEN TALK. Maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow but if there's interaction between them, it only takes one of them having a hormonally imbalanced bad day and then you're fucked.

Consult a divorce attorney and then think about a confession. Or continue playing russian roulet. Hey maybe you'll get lucky and see a gal that actually lives in your own neighborhood. How cool would that be?

I don't have kids but that seems like an odd rule.

Because that is what your panic amounts to.

You are her client whom by your admission has visited with her four times.

She was at a neighborhood child's birthday party minding her business.

Do you think that we like running into you guys in our private lives?  We don't.

You know her name - and now you know hers, her child's name and why she works.

You shouldn't lawyer up - you should be cool just like she's going to be cool.

The only thing she is lamenting right now is the loss of a client since your paths crossed.

You guys seem to think that all we do is gab and wait and lurk to out you.

We don't.  It doesn't serve us in any way.
Think about it.

Meaning feelings were probably heightened and she was probably more invested in your relationship than you were.

We're talking about a client seeing a local provider on four occasions and running into her at a child's birthday party.

This woman is not going to announce "our children play together, you live in my neighborhood, we share mutual friends and participate in the same community and oh...by the way, your husband pays me $250 an hour for sex once a month when he says he's at Home Depot"

Cross the line into sugar baby relationships and the shit gets real on occasion.

A basic P4P and you share community ties?

That woman doesn't want any trouble - she's just working and raising her kid.

I'm thinkin' she doesn't want the soccer team and her child to know that she is a provider anymore than you don't want your family to know of your visits with her. Just act normal about it and, like someone else mentioned, if you see her again then you can discuss this.

Have fun & play safe!

If he just saw her as a client once or twice? No, she won't out him.  

However, if he pretended to be her significant other and kept hanging a carrot of potential "happy ever after" while boinking everything else that moved it sucks to be him.

My advise to OP in that case would be to go into witness protection yesterday.

Really? Because she's on her . she is going to tell his wife she is an escort and dated him? Wow.

The lady is not going to say anything to anybody. And you won't either...right?? These kind of things do happen occasioanlly. If you see her again professionally, you can laugh about it. If you don't see her again professionally but you still see her outside (birthday parties, soccer games) then that is the only context you know her in.

Thank goodness the soccer season is over so at least I don't have to worry about them chatting during soccer practice or games for a while. I just have to make sure I go to the next few kids parties to occupy my wife incase the soccer mom is there.

I'm sure there are more than a few providers on this board that were said "you're the one for me" by their former clients, began to date them only to discover it was all a lie.

How about all women who have been lied to and cheated on count free pussy time and send the bill?

How creepy is that?

No way in hell am I going to see him and it was just a little eerie that he might spot me at the nearby grocery store or gas station and recognize me from my pictures.

But your story is not only really creepy, it sounds like a great plot for a movie!

The truth it is impossible to completely eliminate all possibilities of any overlap of your personal life and secret life no matter how far away you go. Serendipity has funny sense of humor!

And no way is she going to out you and risk that your pissed off wife is going to call the po po on her. With the possibility of CPS getting involved, she will feel she has a lot more to lose than you do. I bet the blood drained from her face when your wife introduced the two of you...

I read a warning about a guy on a private provider site who would see escorts, go to therapy with his wife, confess, then the wife would get the escort busted!

Any complaint to LE puts you above the radar immediately. And if she has a young son, she is at risk of CPS getting involved with a charge like that. She will feel she has way more to lose than he does. There's no way she's going to risk losing her son and her livelihood.

Jody, you live in some kind of universe, but it isn't reality.

Pretty much

No sane escort would ever see a former client as "more of Sugar Baby Sugar daddy thing" or have a relationship with one.  And you get what you negotiate for playing with crazies.

I have a rule to not visit women that have children, in particular local women. Don't say anything, don't confess. But do assess your legal options. And stop eating where you shit before you end up in more situations like the one you're in.

Actually the universe I live in contains the follow:
I was seeing a provider for quite some time and was more on a SB basis. She knew everything about me. I knew everything about her. When my job changed and I was no longer spending several days a week in her city, I terminated the relationship. Shortly thereafter, She promptly outted me to my ex. Apparently she remembered that I had a long term separation but had forgotten that I received my divorce months earlier.

While it caused quite a stir, it amounted to some embarassment only for myself. You're women first and a providers second, the possibility of a woman in anger telling another woman "I've been sleeping with your man", is very real.

I could tell she was surprised too. I just said "hi, nice to meet you" and didn't talk to her the whole time.  I just hung out with the other dads.

I'm sorry to hear this happened to you and I can understand your need to warn others to keep it from happening to them.

I actually pursued arrangements first and really didn't like how the line is blurred with an arrangement and a "real relationship." There has to be some kind of chemistry and attraction on some level for it to work, which is not the case being a provider. I didn't like the sense of obligation that came with it because you are counting on the guy for your income. And an arrangement/sugar baby doesn't have the legal risk a provider has... it's so close to a girlfriend who is getting financial benefits, it would be very hard to pin a prostitution charge on her.

She knew your ex had no recourse legally (in your relationship with her), so she felt safe outing you.

This isn't much different than having a mistress who can get jealous and out you.

You gotta compare apples to apples.

On that note, I did meet a guy whose regular fell in love with him and told his wife hoping to bust up the marriage so she could be with him. She took the risk of recourse by the ex for the reward she thought she might get. It didn't work. He stopped seeing her and his wife forgave him and they worked it out. This is a very unusual circumstance and I wouldn't go around warning guys about what might happen based on an isolated incident. The norm is for providers to keep what they are doing a secret from anyone who could get them in trouble legally. They have too much to lose.

After thinking about it, I do admire her a lot more now. She is doing what she needs to do to take care of herself and her son.

I didn't know she was a milf. I am going to the next county for hobbying from now on.

I do know she's doing what she has to do to support her son and herself. She's is worth the $$$$ per hour.  Too bad I can't visit her anymore.

The truth is this stuff happens a lot. How the heck are you to know that she was the mother of a kid on your son's soccer team.

It is up to you decide if you want to see her again but since you are married and in so much angst, I would advice against it. Just be careful and act as normal as possible if you run into her again with your wife around. Also do not try to skip any future events children events where you might run into her. It might provoke other suspicions from your wife.

No are you confident she even recognized you?

In this particular scenario the provider in question most likely severely cut her rate thinking that Sugar Baby status will lead to the girlfriend and boyfriend relationship and end with marriage.

Once ditched, she has probably put her provider hat back on and got PISSED and saw that one way for revenge. Hell knows no fury woman scorned and all that.

What she should have done instead is to send an invoice for the difference between her rate and the rate as Sugar Baby.

I agree with most everything everyone else has stated. She has nothing to gain by outing you to your wife. She doesn't want anyone to know what she does, anymore than you want your wife to find out. Her child plays soccer with your child. If she "outs" you to the wife, then EVERY soccer mom will know now what she does for a living. She is not going to put herself or her child in jeopardy like that.

And to the person stating that's why they don't see MILF's with kids... head's up that MANY providers from age 18-60 have children. You would never know unless they told you, or possibly when you're already in an appointment & possibly she has stretch marks.

Once she went back to being a provider.

To the ex, she would have just been a mistress or girl friend.

LOL invoicing for the difference!

That's why it's "show us the money" before the panties come off!

You have spent four sessions with the lady. So she offers good enough service to be a repeat. Clearly she would be foolish to out herself and you in the process. So unless you're to freaked out to see her again, or you don't think you can both be professional about it. Why not see her again. So she now knows more personal information about then she did before. You know more about her then you did before. Hell you never know. Knocking down some of those barriers might make the sessions even better.

Still a newbie and a lot to learn

I know you were in a state of panic when you wrote your piece, but here is some rational thought.  You don't need to contact her to make sure that she doesn't say anything.  It is obvious that she is not going to say anything, she would only out herself as an escort if she did that.  You are stressed out now (which is understandable), but one day in the future, you will look back and laugh at this.

Escorts who have kids are the most discrete people in the world as far as I am concerned.

Based on what I have read so far, I really don't see any compelling argument as to why you can't visit this well proven "very discrete" provider anymore.

Why are you seeing ANY providers??
Nevermind!!
Just call me old school.