Hello

Though as you can imagine this is a very frequent question here I have provided a link to a reliable STD risk chart from the San Franciso City Clinic.

Note however that risk and incidence of risk are not the same thing. Probabilities of infection where present are highly debatable and reliable health information sources vary in the extreme on this subject.

Cheers

GTM

“Do providers often check themselves for STDs?”

It depends what you mean by often?  The fact is some don’t and you will never know which one.  IMO, tbest approached is to take control over you own safety and assume that they don’t get tested and are infected and take proper precaution that is compatible to the risk you are willing to assume.

“ Is it appropriate to ask a provider when was the last time she got tested? “

NO!!!!!!!

I want to live the adventure but I am very concern about getting AIDS or any other STD.

Compared to other STDs heterosexual sex is not a significant route for the transmission of HIV. The HIV transmission rate per unprotected coital contact with an HIV+ partner is less than 0.20%. The comparable number for trichomoniasis, gonorrhea and Chlamydia transmission is 10 to 50%. Fortunately trichomoniasis ,gonorrhea and Chlamydia are still treatable.

How effective is a cover?

For STDs like HIV, gonorrhea and Chlamydia, trichomoniasis, the cover if use properly can be >95% effective against transmission.  For HPV and HSV2 the cover may be ~50% effective.

“Is DFK and BBJ really dangerous? “

DFK is considered by many as a De minimis risk.  As the insertive partner the BBBJ risk is small and much less than for the receptive partner especially if she allows cim or swallows.  The risk is greater for if you deep throat because gonorrhea and other STD usually colonized pharynx rather than the oral cavity. The biggest risk is non-specific urethritis from bacterial in the oral cavity colonizing the male urethra.