My wife and I are looking to meet up with a provider (which we've done before), but we now have kids so our risk tolerance has changed. Curious what providers and hobbyists think of using an STD test result sharing site to clear the path for everyone? To be specific, there are sites out there that let people share their STD test results with each other without disclosing names. If a test comes back positive, that info does not get shared, so everyone can just go their separate ways.
Would it be offensive to a provider to be asked to do something like this? We're both willing to do it too and even pay for the cost. We just want to have a safe and fun experience and thought this might be a way to do it? Would love to hear from providers and hobbyists alike. Thanks.
I don't see how one can refuse if you are offering to pay.
Just be clear that it is for safety and that you aren't trying to have BB.
I agree that if we all have nothing to hide, we should be able to just all get tested with each other, but in reality that doesn't occur.
All you can do is just protect yourself and minimizing any kind of risk you take on.
are not going to take chances with STD's, they can't afford to. From what I have read, you might get a chilly response if you bring up the subject. If you are that concerned, I think you would be better off finding another hobby. Remember, if a test result is a couple weeks or months old, it doesn't mean she's clean today.
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In my area, I've seen women who have been in the business for years take huge risks with their health in order to get ahead of the competition. These are not fly-by-night providers, or low-end (or extremely high end).
I think the OP's question is well-founded, this is a very risky enterprise and they are right to be concerned. I just don't think they will get the answer they want. Most providers would be offended to be asked for STD results, it's just the way things are. That's part of the hobby culture/etiquette, at least for now.
Most providers would be offended at being asked. It just goes against the cultural norm, so to speak. They type of service you describe is pretty new, though, so it's possible things might change.
There is no way to reduce risk to 100%, because no test will account for window periods, and partners since being tested. So whether or not she would agree, it's important that you know beforehand that there is always SOME risk, and it's impossible to escape that in this lifestyle.
There are some (but very few) providers who are members of said sites and might be a bit more open to being asked. I'm one; the reason (for me) is to demonstrate a commitment to hobbying safely and responsibly. I know of one other but that's it.
If a client or client(s) such as you and your wife were booking a substantial amount of my time i.e. 2+ days then I would go through this process willingly- I test on a schedule and I have nothing to hide.
If this were for a run of the mill hour, two hour, three hour kind of deal I would not go through the hassle to be frank.
I also would do not do it if there were some idea that unsafe practices would be permitted if all tested cleanly because more of then than not, this is why providers are asked to share test results.
I completely feel the same.
is there is no way to know if the girl you want to see is the one who took the test. All she would have to do is have a friend take it for her, and presto...she gives her the password, name, whatever else is needed to fool you.
If you're not engaging in unsafe acts, you should not be that paranoid about it. By that I mean, if you INSIST on a bareback blow job, then that's your problem, not the providers' problem. Also, a clean STD test means NOTHING unless she has not had sex with ANYONE in six months, so again, you're deluding yourself into thinking she is safe just because the test she took last week says so. AIDS can take 3-6 months to manifest, and so can many others such as Herpes or HPV.
Appreciate the responses from everyone. Thanks!
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