What is the right way to introduce myself to a lady who seams to be what I am looking for, so I can convince her I am ok and want her to feel comfortable with me. How do I work out details, and not break the rules of have misunderstandings. Thanks.

Just contact her and tell her you're interested in getting together. She is probably going to want some personal information about you and a refrence or two to verify who you are. Do not discuss specific acts. Do not discuss money. If you want a specific activity then start by reading her reviews and see if it is on the menu. If she has a website then her donation amount will be posted there and there will be no need to discuss it (unless you're cheap and are hunting for a deal). Some girls like to meet on neutral ground before committing to a date and may wish to be compensated for doing so. It's not brain surgery. Just do what it takes to make her comfortable. She'll let you know what that is.

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Thanks! Kind of what I was thinking. But I am also unclear if there are things I can say, which would ease her worries, and what that may be. And what can I expect her to say to ease my fears?

It's not necessarily what you say but rather what you do. If you  give her the screening information she requires without hesitation then she's certainly going to feel more comfortable with you. Don't expect her to cross the line (legally) with anything she says to alleviate your fears. If you're both smart, neither of you will say anything that's out of bounds. If you're really a newbie I would suggest going with a girl with several pages of reviews. You'll get a good feel for what to expect from her and you won't have the need to ask some of those uncomfortable questions. Chances are that if the object of your affection ( or lust) has more than 30 reviews, you'll end up having a good time.

Apart from not mentioning money or specific sex acts just be yourself

When I first started and didn't have references I made sure of those two things NOT to talk about and just asked to meet her for a certain amount of time and a specific date and time...tell her about yourself in a general way and find out what she needs to be comfortable to see you

Be natural...she has MUCH more experience than you at weeding out the time wasters who want to talk to a pretty girl but have no intention of setting an appointment or those who are creeps or LE or whatever else they watch out for

Probably in the average week they get more emails and calls than YOU will make to a provider in your lifetime...they know all the things to careful about

If all else fails sign up with a verification service like www.Roomservice2000.com ...you'll have to give out a lot of info to get accepted but once a member practically any provider will see you

I understand the basics, just play it cool. But I am still wondering, what could I do to ensure I am not walking into a trap. I recall a few years back a lady asked me if I was LE, that seemed to put her at total ease. Does saying or asking help?

If you are concerned about traps, use reviews to select a provider with several reviews, some would say pages, for me only 4-10 are adequate.  Check the provider's website if she has one to see how well she does verification, if you are uncomfortable with what is done move on to the next on the list, but realize that strong verifiers often require information from you but will not get into any specific details concerning services.  Stay away from anyone who is too graphic or try to get you to explain what you want upon first or any contact prior to when that person is committed.  Do not attempt to be cheap, you may want to find a very large hotel in a large city for any encounter instead of doing incall or having the person at your home.  Most of all, avoid being tipsy at the time of the initial face to face contact, drinking during may be ok, but before is stupid.

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