I'm new, as in have yet to take the plunge. I've done my homework and everything is in order. But, i have a weird issue. I don't think i am a "typical" hobbyist. I'm fit and relatively handsome, a little "geeky" maybe, not creepy, but realize personal tastes vary. I'd hate to waste my and her time. Am i over thinking this? Is this a valid concern?

sorry

Hobbyist come in all shapes,sizes, and colors...

I apparently read it wrong.. So many flames and attacks here of late.. gets annoying at times.. My apologies to YOU for offending YOU...

But an answer to your question... We do not judge on shape size or color, as said before, we are EOP's. (equal opportunity providers)  haha..





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I don't think i am a "typical" hobbyist. I'm fit and relatively handsome,

I don't think they rise to the level of being
rude or offensive.  Not even close.  Just the
sign of a noobie.

But that's just my opinion.

Heck, if you read some of the reviews, you'd
think most of these guys are super human.


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My appologies. It was insensitive of my to think a "typical" hobbyist exists. As Ciara said, "hobbyist come in all shapes,sizes,colors, et al."  The period between "typical" and "fit" indicates a new sentence. My point was not, hobbyist are unfit and homely. My primary concern was my appearance (tall, bespectacled,geeky), making someone uncomfortable. I thought my question was both valid and clear. Apparantly it was not. So, in the interest of pith and brevity, let me try this. Perhaps my anxiety over the way i present myself and look is simply cold feet.

If your $$$ is green and spendable, then you will be welcome.  Good hygeine necessary also.

Fat and Bald and have an enormous amount of hair on my body.)  

I was paranoid about it all, as usual.  Big part of the reason I didn't date much. (at all!)
 But I figured the ladies have gotta be used to not barfing when they see all of us shulbs at their door.  So, I thought, I'll take that.  

Then I was surprised that not only did they not barf but (the ladies I have met) can get to the meat and heart of a fellow very quickly and the mortal coil isn't the issue.  
I've found so many women who enjoy my body as much as I now do, it has given me a new lease on my joy.  God bless them all.  I'm sure there are women who don't enjoy us un-Clooney shaped guys but using TER has made me miss them completely.

I've since met at least 100 different hobby boys at various functions and can tell you that there are some good looking motherfuckers in the group. But most of us are just regular guys...just like most of the glorious women.

Just roll with it dude.  I'm certain that my providers have experienced men far more attractive than me, and much worse.  

I think most providers expect to give good service to most anyone that meets the standards of hygeine and courtesy.  That will be what they judge you on.  If you are clean, nice, and have a sense of humor then they probably are being somewhat honest when they tell you they had a good time.

Thank you JP. Your post has helped with a thousand worries.  I am a noobie.  The years have not been as kind to me as I wish and I would describe myself the same as you... fat, balding, hairy everywhere else (almost). I've been leafing through the back pages of the voice for years thinking about this, and more so recently. My big concerns were (i) how to be sure I'd have a good experience, and (ii) how would she react to seeing me?

I was happy to notice the ad for TER in the voice last week. I've been able to research a provider and schedule my first appt for next week.  Posts such as yours have done wonders to make this easier for me.

Thanks,
NYA

Getting over my own "looks" meant getting over my own nerviousness in sexual performance.  (Not erection issues so much as wanting to please my partner.  I mean these women have had more experience than I'll ever have, yet I want to make them happy.)  The advice I was given by a couple seasoned hobby folk was, relax and treat it like a massage.  (ie. let her take care of you, she knows what she's doing.  Until you're comfortable.)
I'm the sort that likes to take care of my partner if I can. So that advice didn't last but half a date.  But it's a sound mentality to begin with. It's a comforting frame of mind to go in with on your first couple dates.  You're babying yourself!  Allow yourself to be babyied!  

That can't be how you spell babyied.  I'm to lazy to look it up.

Have a gas!

So do I! We were supposed to meet last evening, but she called monday to tell me that she had a family emergency and would have to make it up to me. I was careful in reading her reviews and I know that she is somewhat hard to meet sometimes, so I'm not concerned.  Her reviews all made me believe I've chosen the right person and something in her voice tells me I've chosen well (it had to be obvious to her that I am a newbie and without saying hardly anything at all she let me know I can relax and take a breath).

So, I hope to reschedule soon and I will be glad to post my first review.

Let her know you're interested in the reschedule, if you haven't already.
She sounds great.

She and I spoke briefly this pm thanks.  Alas, for me, my schedule probably won't allow us to meet for about two weeks.  Stay tuned. . .