I have been getting all sensual bodyrubs since I've been doing this, but am about ready to "graduate" to trying the escort side.  Based on following TER and TER reviews for a while, it sounds like the most sure course to follow is an agency - generally more reliable, more acurate pics, not rip-offs, etc.  So here's my question.  Doing bodyrubs, I found I could get along perfectly with a fake name and a cell phone and e-mail address I used only for this purpose.  I revealed more just if I wanted to later on.  However, it sounds like the escort agencies want some pretty genuine info - workplace or number, etc.  This makes me very nervous.  I know they all say the info will be used only for this purpose blah blahn blah, and yes I get that there's a safety factor etc. . . . but it still makes me nervous, I don't really like the idea of having my name laying around someone's desk.  Is this just "a cost of business" of going to the escort agencies?  Is there a way to better safeguard confidentiality and discretion?

Thanks,

Wayne

join one of the verification sites.  You can hopefully get one of the Sensual Massage providers you have seen to sponsor you for membership.  Check their profiles and see if any of them belong to one of them.  The site may want some info, but then you don't have to hand it out to several providers.  Look around in your area and see which is most popular, it does vary from location to location.  The sites are DateCheck, Preferred411, and RoomService2000, in case you didn't know them.

Swim

If you're just picking providers at random it's possible that agencies are more reliable, but why would you do that? If you take the time to do some research and check reviews, I think you'll find that most of the best, most reliable choices are independent.

Even some indie providers require your real full name and work info, but most do not if you have references. A membership with P411 or a similar verification site also helps.

I agree that entrusting people you don't know well with your full identity in connection with illegal activities is a very risky proposition.

I use an agency a lot. However agencies are like everything else. There are good ones and not so good ones to down right bad ones. So still do your research. Find a reputable one.  Some will take the P411 references and the like, some will not. In regard to giving them my info I look at it like this. It's in one place. They have shown themselves to be trustworthy. I don't want my info all over the place out there. In my experience the agency will want accurate info. You have to decide if that's OK with you.

to understand that a lady has the right to see who she wants and who makes her feel safe, acts like a gentleman, etc.  Now, if you don't want to get VIP and do the research to find a reputable lady, etc., then keep going to rub and tugs.  Until you get some verifiable references, you will have to give the lady some information to verify you.  Her safety is her first priority.

In that, I am brand new to the hobby.  I'm a VIP here and have been doing extensive research on providers.  It looks like P411 is the "safest" way to go, if I don't want to hand out my name/work info every time I want to book an indy.  Would the experienced hobbyists agree with that?

My question is that how exactly does P411 confirm your identity?  (I have a unique (int'l) name and a quick Google search immediately brings up my profile on my company web site.)

I'd love any insight on how to book the indies, while at the same time not being in great danger to be blackmailed etc. (married).

Hobby on.

I'm in a similar situation, a few thoughts:

1) Since you are already on here why not rely on the reviews to let you know if photos are basically accurate?  I prefer independent workers in general, why not for this too...

2) I have a personal rule starting out I'll not use a provider I can't see the face in pictures, or uses too many potentially misleading photographs (like taken from above at a high angle).

3) I joined P411, that way you just have one company calling to verify work details and a layer between you and the provider.   I think any provider will need to at least check your ID that matches your verified profile (have not gone yet but that's how I understand it works).  But at least all she has in email is a record of your P411 account and a phone number, even if she knows your real name...

If I am off-base on any of these things I welcome correction since I too am new at this...

Going through an agency won't guarentee a better experience than with an Indie.Depending greatly on the agency though...I have heard many stories of the upcharging,and B&S with Agencies. And in my own opinion if an agency gets busted your info is there for the taking and they will do anything to save their ass. Same can apply for Indies as well however, to check their home computer(where your info is most likely stored or was searched) they need a warrant.

Get a spare e-mail and phone. I'd not lie about your name since it can be confusing if you sign your E-mail with your real name and the name on your e-mail account is different!

As others have said sign up for a verification site. But DON'T think this will excuse you from screening. P411 or date-check let providers give a guy an "okay". If a guy has more than 3-4 recent "okays" I don't ask for his personal information...however if he is a newbie with little or no "okays" I still ask for his personal information.

Letting some of your personal info go out there and hoping no provider uses it maliciously is sadly "the cost of business". But if you play right with good well reviewed ladies you'll have nothing to worry about!