Ok you guys it has been almost three weeks and I don't want to get burned out already. I am getting like 40 emails a day, it is 3 am and I am sitting here trying to deal with all the email. I don't know what to do. I cannot keep track of all this. Now that I have a new website some people fill out the booking form on rare-escorts whereas others send email; the emails come from one name that shows up in my inbox, then they sign it with another name, or they use a first name (and a common one at that) and no last name, and then the name contained in the email address itself is different. And some request a specific date and time, some ask me to name my own schedule, some write 5 times a day with last minute details. I love talking with these people and getting to know them, but I feel like I cannot handle all these new client emails coming at me. I cannot keep track of all that. Plus, I don't want to keep paper records (no good for anyone) but people get mad at me if I don't respond right away, they get mad at me for not being able to see everyone who writes, I know this shouldn't bother me but I am seriously doing the best I can and I feel like all people are doing is talking sh't. Not anyone here, and not anyone who I have actually had a session with, but I just feel like this is getting out of hand. Would it be unreasonable to stop accepting new clients already, at least temporarily? Do you ladies hire secretaries or a phone service?? Do you ladies respond to all your new emails, or do you pick and choose what you want to and are able to do? What am I supposed to do here?? I'm sorry, I am normally a really laid back and happy person, but this is really getting to me right now. I can't make everyone happy. Any advice would be appreciated. I already am seeing clients 2-4 hours a day on average, and I am pretty much booked for the next two weeks until I leave town for a vacation on June 10. HELP.

Marea

-- Modified on 5/24/2007 12:51:07 AM

Marea,

(Preface - In my former line of work I was involved in process improvement and quality control.)

If you have access to a spreadsheet program, why not set one up as such:

1. On the first tab, titled email/voicemail contact go everyone who you have not actually met. Have columns like: Name used for contact, Other names used, Email address, Voicemail # given, Contact dates, Serious Scale (1 being a date/time has been set-up, 2 being in the process of finalizing, 3 being the contact is gathering more info, 4 being doesn’t seem serious), Date/times for possible meetings.

Now as you gather info, just update this tab. If at any point the gentleman decides to not go any further, erase the record. If you do decide to go ahead and meet, The record then can be moved to the next tab:

2. Tab 2 – At the end of your meeting, ask the gentleman to pick an ID and a Password (together these should be unique). This id will then take the place of the identifying columns from Tab 1 (his email, phone #). Do this for each person you see, not just the ones you’d like to see again. This way there are no hurt feelings, and should someone whom you have no interest in seeing again contacts you with their unique ID/Password, you can conveniently be ‘busy’.

Using the above should keep you from getting swamped (once you get past the initial creation and load of data.)  Having it in a spreadsheet will allow you to sort Tab 1 on Date/Time so that you can know at a glance how your week ahead looks. Having the info on Tab 1 from the gentleman (email/voicemail) protects you a bit until after your first meeting, at which point it is no longer needed. Deleting it when moving the record to Tab 2 protects both of you somewhat, while still allowing you to more quickly verify a repeat client uniquely. You could add a 'Comments' section as well to Tab 2 to cover anything you'd like to remember about meeting up.

I’m sure others could add to the above. This was an ‘off the top of the head’ design set-up. A lot more functionality could be added depending on your needs. Don’t think of it as being swamped, think of it as a nice problem to have. Every problem can be an opportunity.

you must bump your price $150-200 and you will see how fast you will separate the wheat from the chafe. if people get mad at you, that is their problem. And if hey do, cut off comminication. Part of the reason for you being in this is to be in control of your own destiny. Control it. Don't let a bunch of horn dogs dictate your life.

You have only given us one option to contact you, and that's via email. You may want to consider a cell phone. You may be able to weed out your prospects by a simple phone call.
Consider yourself fortunate to be in demand.
Btw, nice photos!

I think both ladies are stearing you in the right direction. With all the activity only 2 reviews ???

I think both ladies are stearing you in the right direction. With all the activity only 2 reviews ???

I prefer email and never give out my number (I do however at times, contact the gentleman on the day of the appt, but phone to touch base)

Here is what I would do:
Put in CAPS on the front page of your site that you are extremely buzy, when you are going on vacation and that you will only answer emails that are sent through the CONTACT page!

Also you can, in your email box and use the SIGNATURE area and write the above there. That way when someone contacts you by your EMAIL and not the contact page, they will get an AUTOMATIC REPLY with the INFO THEY NEED in order to see you!

Hope this helps.....J

-- Modified on 5/24/2007 8:39:03 AM

-- Modified on 5/24/2007 8:40:39 AM

I would simply take the mindset to answer them as you CAN, giving a brief apology for either your lack of timeliness in response or inability to schedule them.

You are the new kid on the block, and as such have every wolf howling for your attention.
In time your volume of e-mails WILL level out to a more manageable level, and at that time you may wish you DIDN'T need to lower your rate to revitalize interest in you.

I know a lady that raised her rates due to crazy volume levels, only to see business drop off more than she'd hoped.  But, after a little tweaking of her choice of advertising venues, she's busy again.  Every situation is different, and moving your rates frequently often makes guys wait for the special, but it will slow down the traffic.

If you choose the "assistant" route, you should mention that on your website.  It's not a problem, but some folks find it important to get a sense of the lady they'll be seeing.

and I'm not suggesting that you do so or not; it may be a good idea to notify your current favorite clients that they will be grandfathered in at the old rate, at least for a while.

They will appreciate it and reward you with loyalty and you don't have to worry that you may suddenly face a steep drop off in business.

Many providers that I know and see work this way and they have my loyalty for doing so.

1.  Delete the e-mail address from your web site and change the verbiage to "Must fill out contact form completely".

2.  If you want to stay with an e-mail address, put an auto responder on your e-mail indicating e-mails will be answered with 24 hours IF all information requested on your web site is included in the e-mail.  Also, add "serious inquires only" to your web site.

3.  The phone assistant may be an expense you do not want to have at this point.

4.  Don't put your phone number on your site.  Only give it to those gents who have made a date.

With problem you could get an assistant, I got a rel close friend of mine and I pay her weekly.It would save you so much time.Maybe you could try that.

...as a hobbyist who is respectful to providers' time, might I suggest a few things.  You're new (and very hot, I might add), so it's only normal that people are going to be coming out of the woodwork to see you.  Also, all of your communiques on this site have been refreshing.  It's admirable that you want to respond to everyone and piss no one off, all while avoiding burn out.  But let's get practical.  The people who write you multiple times on the same day, even if it is to add info, are the people you should prioritize as "LAST, if even...".  I know it sounds cold, but these people are not respectful of your time, much the way some idiot who calls every few minutes after leaving a voice message.  These are people YOU SHOULDN'T SEE nor WANT TO SEE!!!  Until they catch a clue, you shouldn't worry about their feelings.  I know, for the genuinely nice people like you and me, this can be hard to learn.  REMEMBER... you're not the cashier at Mickey D's trying to deal with a rude customer.  You're THE BOSS!  Give top priority to respectful repeat clients WHO YOU LIKE AND WANT TO SEE AGAIN.  Next comes repeat clients who're respectful, safe, but they don't exactly float your boat.  Who knows, you may discover with a repeat that he's funny & charming and gets re-categorized to the top.  After the repeats, priortize the new contacts based on their respectfulness.  Did they respect your wishes and instructions in contacting you and providing the info that you seek?  Or did they send you crap like, "Ur hot.  Can we get together tomorrow.  Call me at 555-I'M-DUMB?"  Seriously, don't feel bad about ignoring these types.  Immediately DELETE their emails and don't take their calls.  It may take them a while, but they will catch a clue or just move on.  Verbage on your site letting people know that you don't accept same day or even next day appointments, and that the more lead time they give you for screening/verification the better is a step you should take (if you haven't already).  Specifically state on your site what info you require (full name, at least 2 credible references, date & time of desired appointment, etc.) and plainly state that failure to include this info will result in their message being trashed.  Again, only worry about your CLIENTS' feelings, not some schmuck who's looking at your site.  If he's a quality individual, he'll understand.  

Now, I would avoid the suggestions stating that people should ONLY use your contact form, as well as those suggesting that you raise your rates.  Explanation:  someone who uses your contact form can't control what email account "their" email to you was sent from.  That's a problem, and a reason that I will NEVER use a contact form.  I will take the EXTRA time to specifically make sure that I included ALL the info that was requested on the contact form and that it's tidy and clean.  But for security, NO contact forms.  As for increasing your rates, this could backfire.  Remember, you want REPEATS and you want your REPEATS to be able to afford you at a reasonable frequency.  You want to cut down on stress?  Have a steady stream of REPEATS that you like seeing and are putting good green money in your pocket.  Then you'll find that it's very EASY to not worry about the "why haven't you emailed me back, I've emailed you 5 times" disrespectful idiots, not to mention the stress of the "unknown".  Also, 2 very popular providers in my area have raised their rates to squelch the runaway demand they were experiencing, only to come back and lower their rates to what they originally were.  Both are dealing with rumors that they're burnt out.  So the move backfired for them.  If you DO decide to increase you rate, grandfather the rates of your repeats as had been suggested, and be sure that your DEMAND won't diminish to the point, that you have to go back and adjust down again.

Lastly, enjoy your vacation.  And don't wait too long to take your next one.  And if you do decide to take a working vacation, might I suggest North Carolina!