If you send a private message to a provider and she doesn't reply, is it me or is this rude?  I might be guilty of asking a dumb question but how hard is it to be nice and send a reply?  Do they really get that many messages that they just blow you off if they don't like what they see?

Not all girls have pm capability.

This occurred on P411 and I can see when the Provider last accessed her account.  She is highly reviewed and I want to see her but it's not off to a good start.

viously, I am an experienced hobbyist. I know how to present myself to a potential new provider and also to women I have seen prior. And yet, I do not always receive a PM in return. I just move on.  

Many providers are flooded with messages on a daily basis. E-mailing directly may make it easier for her to respond in a timely fashion. Better yet, use the contact form on her website (if she has one).

....or follow whatever contact method that she prefers.
And yes - some providers are just rude assholes that don't reply to simple non-objectionable questions. Just put them on your own DNS blacklist and move on to someone else. I wouldnt want to schedule with anyone who refuses to reply to my email. They would probably be a lousy date anyway.

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Since you used an alias, I have no idea if you've written reviews or where you are. If you're in a major city, certainly there are others to pursue.  

Providers are not obligated to return PMs on P 411, but they are required to respond to appointment requests. I wouldn't do this myself as when things get off to a bad start in this business they rarely seem to get any better.

A provider can be rightfully suspicious that you are LE, and therefore would never reply.

I haven't proceeded, that's the reason for this post.  Unfortunately I want to see her despite the snub.  It's difficult to reason with the little head.  My profile on P411 has all the info she needs or wants.  Providers can access your profile any time they want, which she did not.  I receive emails each time a Provider looks at my profile.  The alias is great when posting questions or problems when others are involved.  

I think they have 24 hours to respond... It seems that the OP is not willing to wait that long. It appears he thinks they are just waiting around for his PM...lol.

If you sent it on P411, you can see if she's even read it yet. Most of these gals will focus on appointment requests first and get to their PMs when they can, if at all. I even had one respond months later. If I were you, I'd move on. At this point you are too indigent over this perceived slight that chances are you will not enjoy yourself.  

Just like they're sitting around and waiting for your messages Mack.
Do you really think I would of posted this without waiting at least a day?  I shouldn't of implied common sense in the post, my bad.

I can see why there is no response...sometimes even hookers need a vacation and that means not having to answer emails etc

You sent a PM via P411

If she has not seen your profile and not answered your PM she might be away with family or she might simply need some time off.

However even if the guy is obsessive over appearance, if she feels he is too high maintenance, a simple "sorry I do not feel we would be a good match" would suffice.. Then he can spend his time to find someone else.  

Just seeing those ab bumps is mouth watering and not to mention boulder shoulders and twin peak pecs.  

BUT, how hard is a quick reply to a guy? I just do not get it. I think some ladies have had the back and forth f "why" which they kept answering. After a few particularly disastrous back and forths, I now block that guy and refuse to explain any more.  

The fact of the matter is, some providers on P 411 respond faster to PM's than others. It's not really anything worth getting worked up about. It's like sending a PM through TER, some people get back to you in five minutes, others take five weeks. It is what it is.

That it is not hard to send a thank you, no thank you email or PM...takes less than 5 minutes, if she sees a red flag etc.

Not the case, her calendar states availability.  I can only assume she is booked up and just blew off other inquiries.  Guess that's what happens when every swinging dick in town wants to fuck your eyeballs out.

Where I am located (United States, planet Earth), it's the HOLIDAY SEASON and many businesses are in holiday mode, and many people are on holiday vacations. "If this is an emergency, please contact ..." is a common response.  

Please read the thread before posting.

Why is it everyone seems to be assuming the worst about this poster?  

Thank you.

There are a few reasons why some of us may not respond to a PM/email/text. Most commonly, that's because the correspondence mentioned sex acts/money, asked questions that are already answered in our ads/websites, or were rude/crass/unintelligible. Just something to consider.  

People ask questions here because they want an honest answer, and not be treated like an idiot.  So, if you are not going to give a respectful helpful answer to any thread, don't post anything.  I can't make you be nice, but I can tell admin if your posts are not appropriate for this board.

My ATF seldom checks PMs, or hobby emails for that matter (her assistant has a separate email for scheduling). She's a very busy person with a full life. I think sometimes we don't consider that providers aren't sitting around waiting for our messages. So don't feel bad if you don't get a response to a PM. As others have suggested, try another channel--check her web site to see if she has a preferred channel.  

There was a contradiction on her profile when she would see clients during the day.  After 4 pm, but then states mornings too.  I just wanted to know how early she is willing to see clients.  That's it, nothing disrespectful.  She's probably overwhelmed by clients because she is so desireable.  I won't mention her name.  Next time I'll just request an appointment and she'll have to respond.

As you sent a date request and have not heard back she may or may not have read it for any  number of reasons.
Suggest sending pm referencing the date request end asking if there is scything she needed that you did not supply.
Can also ask if the time frame would work out or something like that.
The beauty of the pm is you can see if they read it. Now if you are ignored definitely move on.
You have no idea they read your date request unless they access your file or contact you.

Go with whatever is on her website and/or what she actually typed into her profile. Sometimes those checked boxes are accidental.

...if that is the case, is not too much to ask.

the hobby is different from the real world in a number of ways... it took me awhile to come to terms with that.  In my experience, though, the vast majority of providers will eventually respond even if we're not a good match.  As for communication, different ladies can have very different tolerance levels for what is acceptable to them.  I especially appreciate those who are friendly, open, and understanding and, fortunately, they seem to be the majority.
 

A lot won't talk unless they know who you are.       They usually have a sheet to fill out to let them know.     You list your references.     Make an appointment when you want it and she will most likely talk to you or tell you what you need.    They don't talk anything on the phone or computer date, hrs. and time.       Use their site to get the information.   After you book.     They tell you a general location and tell you where to go.    When you get there at the time they tell you where to go for service.     Even when you get to know them they don't talk about much for their safety so I don't ask.    One independent told me she gets so many messages , texts, and emails that she pays  a lady to sort out the one's she needs to respond to.   I understood hundreds a day.    Pranks and all kinds.    I think some of the girls don't have access to talk on agency accounts.    I'm  just learning too.