It is true that many providers are naive and will talk about sex acts (or lack thereof), but that is not the way to go about things.

See well reviewed providers so you'll be safe and know what to expect.

Well I was messaging this young lady, and well me being new and all I ask her what she can't do.  Primarily because I don't want to be upsold.  She told me right off the bat that she doesn't do anal.  Well I have no problems with this as "I" did ask her, but now that I think about it as I read through the threads any conversation about sex is almost taboo.  I understand that now and would like to know is it that some girls are more open and just say as it is, or me asking things like that would somehow make the provider annoyed?  Well what would be the proper etiquette for finding out what you would get from these providers?  Yes she has a review but since it's my first time I'm too cautious.

at least 5 or 6 reviews from established reviewers.  Do a search if you don't understand this guideline.

I would say the first step is to get a VIP membership to read all the "juicy details" which describe exactly what the provider offers on her "menu", I do not reply to explicit and crude emails because I find them dangerous and innapropiate, so always stick to well reviewed providers in order to find out exactly what you are looking for and avoid discussing any services via email or over the phone.

If for some reason the provider you are emailing has a run in with LE, your words are right on her computer discussing sex for money. First rule of hobbying is "NEVER discuss explicit services via email or on the phone." Most providers will either just delete your mail, or tell you to "fk off." I am sure neither of those, would appeal to a first time client. Simply put, don't do it. If you don't know what she offers AND for how much, you should not contact her. Rates, photos, reviews, and availability should be researched BEFORE you send that first email.

...Someone mentioned that a naive provider might answer a question like that in an e-mail.

Sounds like she is a newbie too & you both made a newbie mistake. Is it a red flag that she did answer you, probably not? I wouldn't see her though because you don't know what other newbie mistakes she might make.

The advice of the others is valid. You should get the VIP membership & use it to research well reviewed providers so you can see only well reviewed providers.

Of the sessions she has.

You CAN get away with asking explicit questions, but it's in how you finesse it.

I won't get into the X, Y and Z of how, but suffice it to say, there is a way you can do it and get the information you want...with many women, at least.

So yes she's reviewed once (a month ago) the guy that reviewed her has been reviewing since 2006.



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As someone new to this, as others have said, you should not be looking at someone with but one review, but providers with a minimum of 5-10 by established reviewers.  You have already learned one very valuable lesson about the language used in communication with providers.  Read the self help center, get VIP membership and learn to research the providers who interest you.  That is as important as their screening of you.

Swim

lol ok I get it now.  I just read a recent thread of an upsell where the girl had "1" good review.  I would had already made too many mistakes if it wans't for these boards.  Thanks everyone...