If the response is:  Not so good; then I'd have to advise you to keep a fire wall between your escort life and private life.

I have known some escorts for over 20 years, and we are very friendly, but keep certain boundaries to limit our involvement.  This actually helps a friendship because when friends honor each other's limits, that sets a very firm foundation for the friendship.

If you have a gut feeling that any of these friends would be trying to move in and take advantage, that's a sign to back away.

Some friendships that I thought I had with other escorts did not work out so well because those boundaries got crossed.  It was sometimes kind of sad and emotional to break off, but at least I learned.

Is it ever ok to make friends your clients? I've heard of the latter, having great clients that blossom into friends, but is it often too messy or complicated when money is involved for companionship? Sure, I would like to stick to my boundaries, but my "friends" have shown definite interest in becoming "clients" but the fact that these guys know some of my personal information, ie. real name, where I live, family, etc, could it be damaging and/ or dangerous? I am worried that they may try and take advantage of the situation and look for "freebies" and more OTC time than I may be willing to give. I'd like to remain optimistic, but I'd appreciate feedback from the providers and the gentlemen.

The scenarios are: One gentlemen I knew before I became a provider and he was my last random hookup or "practice" before I switched over to business. I explained to him his role when we hooked up and he was cool, I perceived him to be a little put off that he was being used for a "hooker sex experiment", but he had fun nonetheless. He's married and has a high profile job so he may not be a big threat, he just has a need to "see me" again which he expresses through countless emails and says he wants to be a "client" if we can have fun again. The other gentleman is like my FedEx man, we sparked up a convo about adult functions I have hosted in prior to becoming a provider, which only confirmed to him that I was a freak, but it's like OH SHIT you already know my name and address, now come to my in call and bring $$$? Seems a little weird to go there, but he's stopping at nothing to ask for a "date" with me and being " too busy" can only go so far - I'm usually home when he's delivering packages! And the last gentleman is my local "bartender" friend and he gets the whole deal. Though we are friends, when he wants to do "business" he lets me know and behaves accordingly. Drinks are always on him, extra cash is available when I need it, so often I let things slide a little like he stops by MY house, not my incall, and calls me when he's "out" or stopping by late, he can sleep on my couch, that kinda thing. He's told me he's happy with his home life, a new wife and baby, so no threat of interfering in my life or anything or am I just naive? Whew! HELP!

It is potentially dangerous to you.   The question is can they make the switch to paying clients & not break the rules going forward?   It's unfortunate that they already know so in that sense you've already incurred the risk.  

#1 & #3 have a lot to lose...  you are as dangerous to them as they are to you.  Can they keep their mouths shut...  they must tell NO ONE!  

#2...  does not seem you have any leverage on him...  seems highest risk.  I'd say NO.  

I'd be freaked about anyone knowing as much as they do.   What's done is done, but you must be more secure in the future.  At some point, you'll move your incall & hopefully eventually these "friends" will drift away.  
I do not know these people.  It is a judgement call.  Some of us do know ladies real information...  and we keep a lid on it.   Question is can they?

skb

Nope, not, never, no...

One ex-coworker offered me $1000! "I've always wanted to f*ck you!"

I just pretend like I don't know them and they have me mistaken for someone else.

You have the same problem with dating a civvie when you are doing this. I had a hot guy pay for my drink last night and I didn't bother exchanging numbers which surprised him. But there is too much to hide, too much for him to find out, too many ways it could bite me in the ass for someone to know my personal info AND my professional name, etc. I don't need the drama and I'm not into lying (but DAMN, did I wish I could suck his c*ck!).

Someone has to earn your trust before you trust them, so very, very few people should ever know you are both "Superman" and Clark Kent!

but that's why I asked on the NEWBIE board! I will bend over for my spanking now, thanks!

Thought it was a decent question to ask, it's better to not go there and my in call is not at my home. #1 does not know of me other than my stage name and that I was thinking of starting in the biz. #2 and #3 know more of me when I'm not working, too many gray areas and issues there. I got it.

Thank you, that was so real. I can't even pick up on my real phone to my guy friends before I made the switch because it's too risky. I can't even fathom dating right now, because I don't think a regular guy would get the difference between work and our relationship. Thanks girl!

stay stealth and taken to your grave.

There are plenty of providers with husbands, boyfriends, and best friends that do know what they are doing.

I have a guy friend who has been there "from the beginning" and knows what I'm doing (and thinks it's hot as hell!) that I trust implicitly.

The "don't tell a soul" code is often with married men who don't want to risk even a so-called best friend ratting on them to their wife.

There are people who truly love and care about you as a provider that you can trust to not to try to expose you and get you in trouble. You just have to know for sure who they are.

I have met great people on both sides of the fence - in my personal life I have great personal friends and in my provider life I have great clients. HOWEVER, I never let the boundaries cross - I don't let my personal friends (outside of those I deeply trust and can count on one hand) know what I do - NOR would I become their provider IF they ever found out what I do. AND, I don't involve my clients in my personal life (i.e., hang out on my off time, invite to family events, etc.). It has nothing to do with the quality of clients, it is just for the safety of the business.  I have had some unfortunate cross overs. Once an old coworker called up the agency I used to work for and I showed up at his door - I didn't remember his name but knew his face and he recognized me. He became a steady regular in my provider life but we had no interaction in my personal life. Another time, a guy in my graduating class 2000 miles away called up and got me - same situation though he tried to get in with my personal life and I blocked that attempt.  I have handled them professionally and moved on. Being independent it is a little easier to control some of those "whoops" situations but they still exist. Just use common sense.

Have fun & play safe!

Summer