Try butt-man or something a bit more user friendly.

Should i try again with a provider who said no a long time ago? I had schedule a meeting and we got down to phone calls and she seemed hesitant to see me, so she just said i needed a reference even though she is newbie friendly and i was verified on 2 sites. A longtime ago meaning about 6-8 months ago. We didnt leave off on a bad note i dont think. I am interested in this particular provider and am hoping to see her this month. I have seen providers before though i they havent vouched for me on any site.

A different handle. Maybe it scared her?

Just sayin...grin

Is that what Peter Griffin was hawking at the ballpark to help pay for Chris' private school?

"Butt Stretcher! Butt Stretcher!"

Anyway, 6-8 months should be plenty of time for another try with her. What have you got to lose? By now, I expect you'd have more or better references, although it might have been something else about you that put her off before after you'd already been scheduled.

Providers don't remember most guys for very long, for good or ill.  She probably doesn't remember you, although the other poster's idea about changing you handle isn't bad.

to vouche for you on whatever site you use..

Just make sure they are well known and you can use them as a good reliable reference..

then I would have at it again

I have trying to see a provider I had to cancel with at the last minute.  I waited about 10 months, even saw ladies who were personal friends of hers, but still no cigar.