I'm 18 started college this year and I'm having a hard time making ends meet so I've been researching about escorting. I'm here to ask if what I've found is actually true based on reading some reviews and lurking on the boards. From what I have found all escorts are really prostitutes because for some reason men these days will not pay just to talk to a girl and hang out give them respect and treat them like they're somebody special (witch is what TRUE escorting is)  they expect sex and if they don't get it shes an upsell or rip off or this or that. But I do hear of women and men that get paid to go out on dates with men. I read the reviews on girls ads that say time and company only to find they are putting out with their clients for the fee on their ad. If I was to start escorting would I really just have to accept the fact I would be a prostitute not an escort because I wouldn't last very long as a time and company only escort because I would just be reviewed as a girl that doesn't provide services offered even tho I would be putting in my ad time and company only?  Because I get the feeling if I did that men would still expect sex and really the whole time and company thing is just a way to avoid the police catching you. But if I'm wrong and true escorting is still alive and kicking how would I go about that and be successful at it while making it clear I do not put out ?

If I were you, I would sign up on a few sugar daddy sites and try your luck there. The men are more naive, and easier to get money from than here. Guys here not only expect gfe (The Girlfriend Experience), but it's not just an in and out thing either. They expect you to stay the full time and give them as many pops as they can get, which can vary from one to sometimes 3 or 4 depending on your target market. Yes, they would rip you to shreds as a "total rip off" in reviews, if you did nothing sexual.

If you want to do say just a hand job, look into the world of FBSM providers. They don't charge as much as gfe providers, but hell even 100-150 just for that is not too bad. You don't have to kiss them, let them touch you, etc. I would hate to see you come here and then get hurt for not knowing what it is you are doing. So much more to this business than other ones that are not illegal.

There is screening so you know the guy is not a cop or worse...a killer, and that takes time to learn. I would find a provider in your area to maybe mentor you, before you do anything here on your own.

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stress relief. If you are not willing to "get physical" with your clients, then you might want to reconsider another means of earning some cash.

That being said, many ladies in this business started just like you, as college girls trying to help with their expenses. Some girls go to strip clubs, others get into providing.

If you enjoy being with men, why not?

That most of the time in this current day and age, escort is a euphemism for prostitute. It is, as you said, a legal thing. You can't very well advertise prostitution.
If you were to decide to explore providing the literal form of escorting, it would be in your best interest to make it absolutely clear in any advertising that this is your intention. Spell out that you offer your services for social engagements or dinner dates only. You do not see clients behind closed doors (BCD).
You may have to field some inquiries about hotel dates, or if you do incall / outcall, but that's simply the way it is.

You may alternatively have luck looking into a Sugar Daddy / Sugar Baby relationship. Although again the common expectation is for a sexual relationship, there are some men who may be willing to compensate you for companionship alone (More not than often), providing you are drama-free, intelligent, attractive, and entertaining/interesting. Again, be clear in your presentation. Another aspect of a SD / SB relationship is that if you decide that sex for money is not outside your limitations, a SD/SB relationship limits it to a single person that you would develop a longer term relationship with, as opposed to multiple partners.  These types of relationships usually revolve around having a specific financial need of yours taken care of in return for your companionship, be it sexual or platonic. Say, a car payment, or half your rent, that type of thing. You reach an agreement (arrangement) as to the frequency of dates.
Some people refer to it as a benefactor/mentor and protege situation (Although these terms are not used with the strictest accuracy, especially if there is sex involved).

As I'm writing this, I see that other members have replied as well. Listen to London if you decide to pursue Pay for Play escorting. Find a Provider Mentor. Introduce your self to a couple of experienced, mature providers in your area.to find one willing to give you solid advice.
And yes, the Full Body Sensual Massage would be another option. Just remember there are still legal risks in that field as well.

Do you have PM privileges?

than you may have read some hobbyists referring to TER as a "fuck board". Hate to be so blunt, that's what most  if not all of us on this board like do when we meet with escorts.

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That's a tough question Crystal.  

For the massage option, you would have to see what other providers in your area are charging.  Check Backpage under body rubs. Or craigslist under therapeutic services.  It's still a risky venture though. You are putting yourself in compromising situations and you are breaking the law.

FBSM means you finish with a hand job. Every client will be asking you if you provide extras, meaning blow jobs or intercourse. They will want to be allowed to touch you, preferably under your clothing or while you are nude.  You have to take all of these thing into consideration when deciding if this is right for you. And, you should be able to give a good massage for at least 40-50 minutes. A good many providers have at least some massage training.
In my area (Boston) this type of service, with a hand job only, is likely to cost 75-100 for an hour long massage appointment, with a tip of 30-50 depending on the sensuality of the provider and the experience. (How much "roaming" is allowed, and the feeling that she was truly interested in making me feel good, not just get me off her table)

The Social/Dinner date, it's even more difficult to say, being that it's not the norm these days.  You have to consider what you realistically believe your time to be worth, then start off a little lower than that to establish yourself.  It's not a crime to think your time is priceless, but it's not going to get you very far either.  Consider what a dinner date means in terms of preparation, travel, appropriate clothing, etc.  The rate you request can be subject to a great many variables in addition to just the time spent together.  

Say for instance you look at what some full service providers might ask for a dinner and BCD date.  In my area say, $500.  Of that $500, 300-350 is for an hour of BCD.  My numbers might be off, but you get the idea.

It's a risky business, no matter how you approach it.  Don't jump into anything before you consider all the pros and cons, and get some reliable advice from someone on the provider side of the business.  If it sounds like I know what I'm talking about, it's only because I am old

Lily of VA, I believe she goes by. I would never go under 150 period, but that is up to you. For the risks you take, it is not worth it. As for touching...nope. None of the FBSM providers I know allow that...that is gfe, and a higher rate. They are nude and use their breasts to rub on the guy, but allow NO touching of any kind from his part. They tend to get 150 for the hand job ending, 200 for the bj ending, and flat out 300 for fs ending. This is in New Orleans though, and they are reviewed providers. Lily used to charge 175 flat for her services and she was near Virginia Beach. Richmond is also a good area for providers there, because there is not as much competition.

Social dates, and I have offered them in the past are slim to none. Most men will only pay for meet and greets over dinner if you are trying to find out if more if possible. We do this for couples and first timers, to see if they really want to take the next step. I charged 100 per hour with a 2 hour min. 3 a year was the most I have ever gotten. Most men are not going to pay you to watch you eat, when they can easily do that with a civie girl for free. Sugar daddy sites are where you will have the most luck with that.

It is MUCH easier to deal with only one or two guys vs. a shitload, and you screen them in person like in a public place vs. having to go in blind. Since it is not viewed as illegal, no harm in meeting someone from those sites.

Just don't go in blind thinking this is easy, because I can promise you it is not. You need to learn to screen regardless of why you are meeting. Anyone you meet on a board such as TER, is considered an intent charge if you show up and do nothing. SD sites on the flip side, are not under that tag.

while it's true, there are ladies who are just 'escorts' available to attend social events with a guy as arm candy.  There is probably no sex involved, the guys just want a pretty lady on their arm for appearance.  However, I think those ladies are a very small number in relation to the escorts that are available on this board.  As one previous poster said, by his own admission very bluntly, this is pretty much a fuck board.  The majority of the guys you would meet thru here want sex, both oral and/or intercourse, and are willing to compensate you for it.  If that's not something you are willing to do, then this is not the place for you.  You need to look for some other way to supplement your income.  Not every gal can do what these providers do.

You have to do what you feel comfortable with, and if you don't feel comfortable having sex with a stranger that you just met, that's ok.  But that's what most escorts do.  FBSM is a possibility as also mentioned, but the 'happy ending', aka handjob, is pretty much expected as part of the deal.  If you are willing to disrobe, let the guy touch you, maybe rub your body on his, you will be able to command a higher rate than if it's strictly a non-nude massage with no touching by the client.  Again, only you can make the decision as to what you are willing to do.

If you want to be a true escort and nothing else, you must post ads and make sure that it's plain that you are only going to be a companion and nothing more.  This is not the place for that.  Where you would ad for that, I'm sorry, but I have no idea.

Swim

London is right about the massage rates. I was speaking from my limited experience with AMP's, which I realize is an entirely different ballgame.  That goes for the roaming aspect as well.  It's more prevalent for that to be expected in an AMP than an independent massage provider.  Doesn't mean they don't want it or won't ask for it, but she's right, it's not the norm.

Sugar Daddy might be more in line with what you are hoping for.  Think of it as a fuck-buddy that helps you pay your rent.
In the SD discussions I have seen, some (a select few) actually say they have an interest in "helping out" in regard to mentoring, guidance, etc.  Ultimately, most want to get laid at some point, but there may be a few who get some personal satisfaction from the feeling that they helped guide someone along the way.

And enjoying men has not a whole lot to do with it...I highly doubt she will be thrilled to fuck an over weight 60 year old. I absolutely enjoy women but to have sex with a fat 60 year old women is not my idea of enjoyment.

She might be quite different but by the tone of her post, she is not too keen on the sex part.

Escorting is not for the weak at heart and someone should tell her what she could be in for because she will be in for a rude awakening.

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When you post an ad, include it is not for sex but only a social event.  True, fewer clients and lower fee, but should be fine.

Men in need of social escorts invite their coworkers, not naive little girls.
If you ain't ready to fuck you don't need to be here.
As mentioned FBSM is an option but I doubt you could stomach jacking off an old man's dick.