have their provider do it to them! Seriously, I had a fellow pay me extra for shaving him.

Personally, I like the hair, but then I'm an older gal and I like the more natural look. As long as he's clean and smells good, I prefer the hair stay on their bodies.

I just trim with a pair of cuticle scissors.

Do not use the sideburn trimmer on a Norelco whatever you do.  That will produce a bummer of an ouchie.

By and large, gals like things trim down there.  They will give better service if you do.

There are threads where people discuss their favorite razors and methods.  Some gals even offer to do it as a service.

I would not bop down to your local hairdresser and ask for it though.  8o)

I have it done every 6 weeks.  My girl loves it.

Should I contact my provider and ask her if she wants me to get a wax, or if she will offer to shave it for me, or if it matters at all to her?

Personally, I would recommend Brazilian waxing. I am a regular recipient, have it done every 4-5 weeks and absolutely love the look and feel, both in terms of enhanced sensitivity and silky smoothness, produced by it. Depending on the area in which you live, however, you may have difficulty finding an aesthetician who is comfortable with, and regularly performs, male brazilian waxing.  If you are curious about the pain/discomfort associated with it, the best way I can describe it is that it is comparable to what you feel when a bandaid is quickly removed. Surprisingly, waxing the penis and scrotum is not nearly as painful as waxing the chest or back, where hair is deeply rooted. You will thoroughly enjoy the "optical inch" produced by the enhanced visibility of the penis's full length. You can expect, depending on your personal hair growth pattern, to be hair free for approximately 2 weeks, followed by escalated growth to the point that it will be ready to wax again after 4-6 weeks. Unfortunately, you can also expect to spend considerably more than ladies do for this procedure.

At the very least half of those I see shave or get waxed. Those who shave usually do it themselves.

I actually found this to be an easy answer.  I would definitely shave everything down there, including the boys.  If you want the full attention of the lady down there, she will appreciate you being baby smooth. No one likes to get hair between their teeth.  And some women find razor stubble to be uncomfortable in CG.  Also I think you will find being clean shaven will improve the sensitivity for you.  And it's simple to do yourself.  Gillette fusion razor and some shaving creme.  It is amazing how smoothly they will shave you and I have never gotten even the slighest nick from one.  Sounds a bit scary but they work very well.  Hope this helps.