Hi all.  I'm getting ready for my first visit with a provider and have done a ton of research, both here and elsewhere.  I'm more excited than anything else, but I don't want to be overexcited.  Knowing that providers are very skilled in their arts, I'm anxious about just how quickly round 1 might go.  I'm not worried about being rushed (reviews clearly point out that won't be an issue), but I would like to ease into the fun part vs. a quick pop.  

So, the question:  Expecting that I will be nervous and best to let her lead the way, what is the best way to communicate to my date that I'd really like to work up to things gradually (i.e., enjoy a drink, kissing, touching, massage)?  Obviously, simply stating this is ideal, but if she's particularly quick moving (as I've read) I do not want to send the message that I'm somehow not happy.  

I've got plenty of time (a couple of hours), and in email chat have said that I am looking forward to a casual, laid back and relaxed visit.  Of course this means different things to different people.

Also, thanks to all the great advice and insights provided through these board threads.  Really appreciate the ability to go back and read up on the hobby.