I know my ATF well enough now that the whole setting on the couch stage is long past. I usually arrive and recive a warm hug and kiss. Straight to the bedroom where she gets nude I usually get down to my skibbies. She will lay with her head on my chest while we chat. As the we continue she will start slightly rubbing my chest and legs, and kissing my neck by time we start I'm very turned on and ready to go.

Re:Setting the scene

Set the mood yourself .... bring candles, turn down the bed, soft music, take charge ... if your a bit nervous tell her and start with a back rub .. you giving her one should settle you down  .... as for talking about an hour .. that's your fault ... if you let them talk, they will talk, and talk, and talk ... sounds like you need to get over your nervousness first ... so next time do a little more research into providers you want to see and get comfy with them over the phone or by  email .. that way you'll be talking to a friend instead of a stranger when they come knocking on your door ... hobby safe hobby well hobby all you can be ...

It can be a difficult situation or enviroment to get accustomed to, being so close and intimate with a total stranger within that first hour or two. With a little time and experience though, most can get used to this feeling and seem to focus on what we are there to do fairly easily.

I would agree with the other reply that you could/should be more assertive and communicate more of what you would like to do with the time, she can't read your mind. It is perfectly acceptable to initiate foreplay, offer or request a sensual massage, ask her to have a drink with you, or whatever else would help set the tone or atmosphere you desire.

However, it will not be a perfect fantasy each and every time. Sometimes the two of you just may not "click" or connect in any way. I have, after many disappointments, learned not to make specific expectations before each encounter, other than the basic service to be delivered. With some I will talk a lot more, while other times we may spend much more time with foreplay, or cuddling, etc. Eventually after many "average" dates, you will most likely find one that is just what you were looking for at the right place at the right time.

Just remember to have realistic and obtainable expectations and you should have a great time

Best of luck to you

A few hints. I do not know about other ladies but I have a spot on my pre screening form for "other requests instructions etc" If not make your own spot in an email. If you enjoy something to set atmosphere be it a certain type music, scented candles etc it is perfectly acceptable to mention so. Take for instance you might mention you realy enjoy scented candles and soft lighting. You can also use this area to ask about beverages if she might like for you to bring a bottle of wine or something of that nature.
An other suggestion that has already been mentioned is suggesting or requesting a massage either giving or recieving which ever you enjoy most
or even both
when you feel you are ready to get past the small talk that is normal at the begining of a session with someone new maybe suggest "would you like to get a bit more comfortable?"
join her on the same couch
she wont bite
unless u want her to lol
that will give a chance for a bit of inocent physical contact while getting aquainted.
any other questions u have feel free to ask