Guys heres a hint that wold make life eqsier, If for some reason and it happens you decide to take advantage of a lady who is offering some amazing time, its really important thqt if you make this decision in the last minute, (I know your sitting there thinking , what the hell I'll go for it)

Please send your references through with the last minute request, its still may be impossible but it saves a little time . And a contact number the number of times I get a last minute request and its not possible to get back to you without a contact , that would not matter if you got your email on your phne , but some do not.

Its not a problem for me as I like to keep my visitors to a few in anycase, but I do get a lot of last minute rushes when I am offering a special or something, the same for other girls I know.

Its really basic, but it really helps to give as much info as you can. In your first contact.

Tara

Great advice!

...Along with a contact number, indicate the best time to call as providers want to be discreet and not call when the SO will hear.

I prefer to send an email AND a TER PM so they know it's really me.  Some guys don't give out their handle but I have no problem with it.

mainly just trying to find out the best way to reach you

I am not going to spend my free time hunting down refs that could have gotten back to me either...you reap what you sow.