This has now happened to me on several occasions.  I've posted a review, and then later the provider contacts me and asks me to go back and edit the review.  I've never posted a "bad" review, but I have been honest about what happens in the room, even if it's not to my liking.  I thought that was what reviews were supposed to be for?  I understand that this is their business, and so maybe their worried that my review will hurt business.  But it makes me not want to post anymore reviews if I keep getting contacted by providers afterwards.  By the way, I've asked TER administrator directly and they've told me that I can't even go back and edit the reviews afterwards even if I wanted to.  

Do others have advice on how to make your reviews general enough so that the providers can't identify you? Has this happened to anyone else? I thought the purpose of this website was to share information, but now that I see that providers are reading them too and coming after me, I'm not too enthralled with it.  Love to hear your thoughts.

you also have 90 days to submit the review, so you can wait awhile.  Finally don't give them your "real" ter handle. Join P411 and make the date thru P411.  

I suggest you follow it. I personally review under my alias and I also wait awhile before submitting the review. I learned years ago the hard way to do this after some unpleasantness. If you've been honest in your review then you need to stand your ground with any woman who demands a re-write.
    Unfortunately, due to these kinds of things occurring the reviews are not as helpful anymore as they could be.
                   Regards......RR

To edit a review after a its been submitted and accepted you can contact TER Admin and let them know that you need to make a change.  They will make the review editable and you can resubmit.  But my understanding is that they would frown on increasing scores, rather they would allow you to edit a review if you had made a mistake (Cayden's example) or included information that you shouldn't have.

On the broader issue of grade inflation, I've experienced it and its frustrating as hell. Suspect it has to do with guys trying to either get white listed or simply trying to avoid pissing off a provider they might want to see again.  But grade inflation doesn't do anyone any good in my view.  It leads to disappointment and expectations not being met.  Just be honest!!!

Ok want to speak here a bit as a provider. Two things are jumping out to me. First, you are 100% correct that it is unprofessional for a provider to contact you after you post a review and ask for a rewrite. Should not happen. Reviews can be upsetting if unfavorable but not because of " business". A bad review here or there will not affect her business if majority are favorable. We providers put ourselves in the position where we are rated on the most personal parts of life. A bad review is a smack to the provider that truly wants to please but.....we put ourselves in the position so it may happen. Most providers want you to love every minute and are disappointed if you were not happy. Impossible to click with everyone though so it is part of her business. Using an alias to post unless a high volume provider will not help. Every situation is as unique to a provider as is to you, I do not ask TER handle as part of screening but I know within first few sentences who wrote the review. None of it should matter though....if you are writing your honest assessment of what actually happened, provider should not contact. If she does kindly decline to rewrite. Will say that the fact that this has happened to you " several" times is telling. Here or there ok but several times makes me think perhaps you are an aweful tough reviewer. Maybe just your ladies but if you find yourself giving out honest but consistent low numbers....something is wrong. Either you need to jump up a level to a standard you are happy with.... If everyone you see is subpar to you and they have overall good reviews it may be your expectations or choices. Not sure, I could be way off but food for thought if several ladies have contacted you.... Something is off there. I am assuming you are giving lower numbers or else they would not be asking. Either way.... They should not ask.....but in all fairness if happening often sounds like you are unhappy with hobby.

Should have included.... I have 60+ reviews. I have beautiful reviews and horrible ones as well. Have never....never... ever contacted and requested a rewrite. I also DO NOT READ unless the numbers are under #8. So if #7 or lower I will read and yes I will know who wrote but I only read as constructive criticism. If a great review I only read if my reviewer asks me to read it. I do agree that gents should be able to write openly and agree if critiqued by gals, will destroy reason for review. Many of us do not read unless requested but we all will read the bad ones....want to know where we went wrong.

I think Lisa's point on being reviewed on the most private part of their lives is a good one. Any review should be courteous for sure. Just don't inflate scores!

PS - Lisa I think you're cute. No BS

There are just as many scores that are low as there are high. TER's performance guide, while not perfect, is pretty good.

One of Lisa's reviews is a 7 when he got twice as much time as he paid for! This particular guy doesn't seem to give out anything over a 7 and that's his choice, that much extra time would certainly make it seem much more like a girlfriend than a PFP experience.

It all averages out in the long run. Stop whining!

What exactly are these gals asking? Higher scores, or correcting/changing things about the session?

If you are a "newbie" and this has happened several times, you might be doing something wrong. Since you are posting as an alias, we can't look at your reviews to get the information to give you a good response.

I have never had this happen to me, but I did have one provider email me and give me a bunch of $hit about a comment I left that was not critical at all, just my observation. She did not ask me to edit the review however.

Good luck in the hobby!

If they don't like the scores or content, too fkin bad. They have the option to delist and not have reviews. Can't have it both ways.

The feedback to stop whining about inflated scores is coming from a guy that's given appearance 10s in 30% of his reviews and "once in a lifetime" performance 10s in 43%.  

I'm just saying...

END OF MESSAGE

Since you took the time to look up my reviews (looks like you don't have the guts to come on a newbie board with your real ID, so I am unable to see if you even have any reviews), you should have seen that the 10's I gave out were to some very highly rated providers, who are still getting a lot of 10's..........they deserve them. You were probably too lazy to look that far. OMG he gives out too many 10's!!!!!!!

Of course there are the guys (like you maybe, we will never know) who give out incorrect and deflated scores because they are too stupid or lazy to look at prior reviews and photos on a website, or are impossible to please.

There might be a couple of 10's I gave out AT FIRST when I was a newbie that I might not give today, but so what? I didn't (and don't) whine like a baby if I don't agree with a another person's............OPINION.  

Stop whining and worrying about other peoples OPINIONS. Grow a pair. Maybe learn how to perform for the ladies and they in turn will treat you to a 10.

And that's the TRUTH

Suspect you wouldn't be so hostile if you hadn't been accused of inflated scores in the past - OR - you didn't feel a ring of truth in what I was saying.  

Look...I get that you love the ladies and they love you back.  But by definition you can't have "one in a lifetime" experiences four out of ten times.  Unless a 10 isn't REALLY a one in a lifetime.  And if that's the case, then 9 isn't really model material, 8 isn't really hot and 7 isn't really attractive.  

And THAT is my point.  

Suspect you're the kind of guy that needs to have the last word.  So the floor is yours.

PS - Newbies...isn't this fun

Well you are a LITTLE more clever than most, but not that much (like that last word in an argument shot).

This rating system is not like finding out how many MPG your car gets, opinions count here. Let's agree, for the sake of argument, that guys like me give out too many 10's, well just for your information, there are guys out there who score the ladies low, like the boss who say's "we rate you on a 1-4 scale..........I don't give out 4's".

The end result here is you get a MORE accurate score because I give out 10's, balances out those guys that describe a fantastic session and give out a 6 or 7, when most would score it higher. Again, I usually see highly rated gals they are already getting 10's, so I am not screwing up the system.

Yes, I have heard your "one in a lifetime" argument before, does it look to you like that is taken literally here? If so, each reviewer would get one 10 in each category and once they used it, would not be able to use it again.

I will agree the system is flawed. None of the women I like are "Model Material" they actually have breasts. And YES after 20 years in a marriage with "barely worth the effort" sex, I am having a GREAT TIME!

So since YOU sound like you need to get in the last word as well..........................

 
 

hey everyone! appreciate the feedback - including from the providers! Just a few responses to what some of you wrote:
a) It's not about using my alias to get feedback. These providers figure out who I am based on my review (which are admittedly pretty detailed), and they contact me on my email or text.  However, I do like the idea of waiting awhile before posting, so will definitely take that advice.  
b) As I said, I've never written a "negative" review - meaning I've never given anyone anything below a 5 or 6- mostly they are 7-9's.  But I do give honest feedback, which is probably too detailed which gives me away.  For instance, i had one provider eat during the session, which she then asked me to edit out since it was hurting her business.  But it was the truth!  Plus, when I asked TER if I could edit the review out of curiousity, they said once it's posted no i couldn't.  
c) perhaps, as some have suggested, since i am a newbie maybe i'm doing something wrong with my reviews and my expectations are too high?  perhaps that's true. but i do feel if i'm paying for a service, i should get the full enjoyment of that service and if i tell the truth about my experience from my point of view, i guess i wasn't expecting to have to deal with their issues.  
d) i guess i will just take the advice to let it go and move on - and be more careful about what i write. thanks again for everyone's feedback!