If a hobbyist has a p411, Date check etc.. with references be good enough for the provider. I on the other hand do not. I feel he should still provide me with his full name and phone number. Some members of these sights think that they shouldn't have too. Wouldn't it be awkward if a Uncle or a friend show up ? Is there any other methods to this madness ?

Most guys aren't comfortable with giving their full name.
And unless you check their ID, you won't know if the name they provided is actually them.

A few things worth mentioning:

#1 - If a guy gives you his full name and phone number, he can still send his friend or his uncle anyway.
#2 - The whole point of those verification sites is so that guys don't have to hand out personal information to providers.
#3 - If a guy did use his P411 or DC account in that way, you could (and should) report him and his membership would be revoked.
#4 - Those sites have built in checks to avoid you requesting personal information.....I think DC has a secret word you can ask for (I think that's right.....but I had a DC account only for a few months and never used it) and P411 handles are based on information that you can verify via identification - this is addressed in the last question of the FAQ on the P411 site.

I've had ladies ask me for personal information in spite of my P411 account and my okays.  I politely tell them three things:  first: no, they can't; second, I can provide personal references if necessary: if that assuages any concerns and third:  if they still insist on personal information in spite of the P411 okays and the personal references, I'll politely pass on seeing them.

However, as previously mentioned, every provider has her own preferred way of screening.  Many guys will be reluctant to give out their full name for a variety of reasons, like his work situation, his family situation, etc.  Yes, it would be very awkward for both of you if a guy showed up and was a family friend or family member, so knowing his name ahead of time would help avoid that situation.  Being single with no significant other to worry about, I have no problem giving out my name, but in reality, I can't recall ever being asked for it, even before I had a bunch of references.

You would have to ask some of the other providers in your area, privately of course, how they screen.  But don't be surprised if you don't get much info from any of them.  The girls seem to be very protective of their screening procedures, from what I have read.

Swim

every provider has her comfort level..if he has plenty of OK's and is screened properly..there is no need to check his license for name verification..i have been told numerous times that my ID will be checked..as soon as i walk in..it has never happened..probably a combination of karma and trust..always trust your gut feeling..you will know..

this takes care of sending anyone but himself, and why most providers require references from other escorts. just because he has an account on a screening site, does not mean he is always a good person. do more research. don't just take an ok at face value. call those providers. some are bitchy and will just say i gave him an ok and not saying any more, and some will put you at ease by telling you what you want to know.  

The whole point of P411 is that I do not have to give a provider more.  I do use an email address that includes my first name, but I'll never give a provider more, no more than I'd expect her to give me her real info.  I'm polite about it, but it's a full-stop deal breaker.  P411 tells me to have "something in my wallet" with the trailing four digits of my secret number on it.  Mine is a GameStop card without my name.  Everything else is locked up in the hotel safe.

To each his or her own, of course.  You certainly can ask for a name.  Just know some decent guys (usually those of us who are UTR in our own right, due to family or sensitive job circumstances) will move on.

Number ONE, you have to choose the level of screening that makes you feel comfortable. There are always going to be men who don't want to give you what you ask for, and you have to be ready to turn them down.

THEN you have to sit back and see if you are getting enough business to satisfy your needs. If you are, then screw the guys who won't comply!

On the other hand, if you decide that you are losing too much business due to tight screening rules, then you have to figure out ways to loosen up and still feel safe and comfortable.

But it's never a question of what they "should" or "shouldn't" give you.

If I have never used a provider before, and my job is such that I am not able to give out my real name or office phone number to anyone, am I out of luck?  I am happy to meet with a provider in person in a public place and pay for that time to get her comfort, but that's all I can really do.  Should I give up trying to find such a provider?

got something to hide or have bad intentions.  
If not, what's the prob?  
Look...Ted Bundy was a very charming man. That was until he was alone with the now dead victims,
Look, keep the playing field even...stick with girls that have no reviews. Seems only fair to go in it as blindly as you expect her to do...jus sayin

"Guys worry about the girl is fat or not. Providers worry about the guy being a serial killer"
^^^Wanna trade places? LOL

P411 is the answer.

And FWIW, guys aren't worried about the call itself, we worry about a provider having knowledge of our real life identity.  At least some of us do.  Hence, P411.

If you have no references, then join a service like P411 or date-check (there are others, too). Some cost money, others require significant personal info - but that info is protected and not given to the provider,

There are girls who do not screen, and some who screen very lightly. There is risk involved with dealing with those girls who are not as careful as they should be.

Keep reading these boards until you come up with a plan that works for your comfort

Given the fact that LE has at one point or another infiltrated all of the verification sites, whitelists, okays, etc. mean nothing to me. I get that everyone wants to stay discreet and what not, but I get SO PISSED every time a dude balks at my screening protocol.

I can barely remember what I ate for breakfast, let alone remember specific details on one of the 30+ naked guys I saw in 6 weeks as a provider.  

Just sayin'.

Always,
Gina

Ask for what makes you feel comfortable and if they don't like it don't see them.  I know plenty of guys that will give you what you want and if they won;t its there loss.