as a very green provider, not sure whether or  not to ignore remarks on emails from prospectives
when they know that i am only offering my companionship, but upon seeing my photo will say things like 'god i'd like to lick you all over'..if i acknowledge the comment, am i illuding to something other than companionship for time offered..is it best not to continue to talk with such men?

I think your question might be best placed on the "providers only" board first.  If you don't get a satisfying answer there (though I suspect you would) you might try the "Legal Corner" board.  Though I'm a client, not a provider my advice would be ... if you are uncomfortable, trust your instincts and bail.

Many providers state on their websites that emails of that nature will simply be deleted.  It's not a bad policy.  Legalities aside (although some liability is probably there), you're likely setting yourself up with someone who's unfamiliar with the rules of the game.  Why do that to yourself?

IMHO a man who doesn't know how to act via e-mail, probably won't in the room either.

Granted we are all pigs, but that's no reason for bad manners.  LOL

Starting new as you are, follow the earlier advice -- stay with gentlemen.  There are enough of us out there.  Yes, we're all horny toads, but first impressions matter and the nimrods out there that we compete with for your affection need to learn to treat you with class, not 8th grade behavior. Aim high, and don't settle for less.  We "good" guys treat quality women well....

but would never say so in an e-mail.  Many providers for good reason, simply delete those notes and ignore the senders - now it is a totally different thing once the session has started, to voice one's preferences.
Bottom line - stay away from those unless it is time to play.
Seek further advice from your fellow providers - being a newbie for the ladies is no different that being one for the clients - you will be surprised I think by the support you have in the community if you just ask.

My suggestion is to delete emails of this nature, and i agree with another poster who said that if the guy is like that in emails he may very well be rude or worse in the room, and we do not want you to experience that.
Also a sweet lil gal form buffalo (ciarahasfun)just posted on the national board what she calls her PHD, it is a seaies of her blogs. That information may help you. There are many many wonderful sweet gals on TER who I am sure will help you , just ask them

Also if I may be so bold as to ask you to post your web site and what is you location heck you never know maybe one day we can have a cup of coffee together.

Thank You

good suggestion, thanks........
as for the java, out in the swamps of joisey here

no web yet..staying under the radar very much for now for change in marital status about to occur reasons i do have a photo though which i could link..thanks again

As a  Joisey guy to a Joisey gal....HI  ! !
if you are comfortable posting you email addy here please do so ..........java in da joisey swamps could be phun.

Thank you
and
Happy New Year

you must be pullin me leg...a joisey boy..o my I have now problem putting on my address,  but i dont know if i'm allowed to, since I am not an official member of the site..???

in the above post ofthewildflowers would like to post her email addy but is not sure if it is within the rules,. she says she in not an official maeber, i think she means she is a basic not vip member. so my question is can she post her email addy - not an ad post just the email addy ?
it may help to read a post or two above this one.

Thankk you
and
Happy New Year

In general, the posting of the personal contact information (name, address, phone, email) of anyone by anyone is not allowed on TER's discussion boards.  This is in place to protect that person's privacy, because you never really know who is posting what, or with who's permission.  Without this safeguard, it would be easy for damaging personal info to be introduced to and remain on the discussion boards before it was discovered and removed. Moderators will sometimes grant an exemption to this policy (posting an email address contact for meet-n-greets, etc.).

TER has also set up the Private Mail (PM) system as a way for TER members to communicate privately with each other (and one of the excellent reasons to get VIP membership).

However, because it is usually available on their required ad post link, providers are allowed to include their contact info (email and phone) in their own weekly discussion board ad posts, which must meet the TER ad posting guidelines for authorship, content, links, location, and frequency.

Providers are not required to be VIP members to post normal discussion board messages anywhere on TER, or are they required to be VIP members to post weekly ad posts on the regional boards of the areas they service.

Providers may also include a valid link (as defined in the the TER ad posting guidelines) in their non-ad messages on any discussion board.

thank you..however, if he is a VIP, can he find me on private message or email?
if possible..otherwise, thanks for your response

Thank you for the reply.

Based on your 3rd and 4th  paragraph is it ok for ofthewildflowers to post her email addy on the new york board?

Thank You
PS
sorry not trying to give you a hard time just want to get in touch and do it the right way, and not get me or anyone in trouble, since i am not vip at this time.

Do you advertise on the NY or Philly TER board?  I've searched both for you and haven't found you.  I would love to see you next time I come to Jersey.  If you advertise on TER then you probably won't get creepy dumbasses asking explicit questions.  

To answer your question, DO NOT say you will let him lick you.  The best way is to have reviews they can look at.  If you don't have any yet, then try using code words or abbreviations when communicating to let them know what you are willing to do.  It's always a good idea to verify your client before speaking explicitly.

to TER.  There is a lot of info that people will share with you privately.  And to use TER's private mail system you need VIP access.  Good people like Tori or Stacy (sinsoftheflesh) will offer you important advice that can't be posted here.

Then after you get 3 reviews you can request access to the providers only board and get even more info.

If you want to be safe, this is the best way to do it.  20 bucks might save your life.

thanks for the tips
not the 20 bucks
other issues
thanks

As stated, providers can include their contact info (email and phone) in their weekly discussion board ad posts.

It is my understanding that per her choice, ofthewildflowers does not currently advertise on an online escort mall, does not have a TER review profile, and does not have a personal web site (or chooses to not share it at this time).

Without including a link to one of those three things, she cannot post ads on TER regional discussion boards.

so alas..if i had VIP, and the gentleman, followme did not..it would still be not in the stars........

Within the fence of rules and regulations
shall live the lust between our loins
the beat between our hearts
for sadly, not to resurrect
will be these silenced stirrings
of our 2 enchanted souls

thanks anyhow
emme

-- Modified on 1/4/2007 2:48:34 PM

-- Modified on 1/4/2007 3:13:13 PM

The part about our loins .............well I had to..... well you know........
We will find a way to get in TOUCH (so to speak).

also it is unusually warm here for January but it ain't nuttin like a HOT JOISEY Girl

Thank You

yes so warm......
i could feel the sand beneath
my feet right now and the ocean waves
towering within.
***********************************************

What fades
the thriving season,

departs now,

the wish of spring
eclipsed,

in sorrow's grasp
in ailing arms
fails to resurrect,

these silenced stirrings
born on whims
where two had longed,

though never met
in kiss.

Get a room!  roflmaoooooooo

- atl_mg, Newbie Poetry Board moderator